Xmas: How many people dislike it?

Question

I slowly have come to hate it. It started when my husband started giving me his 'list' and telling me.. "This is what I want", then being a 5 year old when I didn't get it for him for whatever reason. Then if I got him anything, he would look at the credit card statement and complain how much it was! Hello?! Then inlaws et al, that you told what you like.. over and over and they get something completely NOT what you liked... then there is the decorations and the fights over where something is or was or is suppose to be.
Am I alone? I have lost the 'Christmas cheer' somewhere but I don't have it.

My point isn't the presents... it's the lack of what use to be. Just the chaos and arguements and ill will that ensue FOR this 'wonderful' holiday. When I was little, I didn't care, but I appreciated whatever I got and I looked forward to who was coming over.

Oh, and I'm not religious. I'm spiritual to an extent, but I'm also not a person that goes to a church just because they are providing a roast dinner. I use to love the togetherness until it went up in 'flames'.

Answer 1

Christmas has gotten out of hand. My family has completely changed the way we celebrate. First, we threw out most of the decorations and kept only a few meaningful ones. (Nativity) Then we stopped giving gifts to everyone in the family. We choose a needy family each year and spend the money on them. Sometimes we buy gifts for Angel Tree (children of prisoners) and sometimes we donate to our favorite charities. Christmas has become much more relaxed and even enjoyable. We still celebrate the birth of Christ, but we've cut out all the commercial garbage that comes with it. Oh, we also don't play Christmas music for weeks or months on end in our home. We found that was a stressful thing too.

You can make changes to you enjoy the season. It's hard at first but you'll find yourself in a better frame of mind if you make the effort.

Answer 2

WOW, you're starting early with Christmas anxiety. You really must dislike the season. Save yourself a lot of grief. Tell your inlaws you will not be trading gifts this year. If they buy something so be it. It is a gift so there is no like or dislike, Thank You and move on. As for hubby, Give him $ 300.00 if you can swing it and tell him to buy his own present. Bring it back, wrap it and put it under the tree. No problem, No surprises. Apart from that there must be some holiday music you like if even Dr.Demento. Get a CD. Watch Charlie Brown Christmas,remember the true meaning of Christmas sit back and relax. Entertain, eat drink and be merry. Decorations- if you don't like where it is, put them where you like. ITS NOT ABOUT THE PRESENTS. Its about family, togetherness and love. Leave the other stuff out of it and enjoy the season for a change. The only demand is make no demands. There is no more fun than going to the mall two days before and watching the frantic. Stay out of that frantic group.

Last but not least, Women- DO NOT go shopping on Christmas Eve. Stay out of the mall. The Eve is for men to shop. Tourists need not be there. If you do not need to be there, stay out of the way. My best shopping year ever was 11 purchases from 14 stores between 4:00 and 5:00 pm Christmas Eve. There's no way I can approach that with sightseers.

Answer 3

Christmas has become too commercial. All I use to see is want, want, want from the kids. Hubby only wants peace and quiet - I can afford that!!! We have lost site of the true meaning of the holiday. I wrote an essay on this for college. My advice to you, is too start a Christmas club account at the bank - still not too late for this year. Save back from each check. I save $100 and we will have more than enough to spend on our grown children, extended families and ourselves. Set a limit for your spouse and tell him to go from there. As far as getting stuff you want, suggest to the inlaws or whomever that you want gift certificates. Tell them now before they begin the shopping frenzy that you really don't need anything. Nothing to wear, nothing to dust or do work with. I asked my mother for gift certificates last year to eat out with and she came through. We have really enjoyed going out together this year. It's just so practical. I send gift certificates to everyone now. No more junk that I don't want. I know you are suppose to be thankful to get anything but gee wiz what's the point if you don't like it. Better start talking or you're gonna get crappy gifts again. As for your decorations, label storage boxes with the contents. Merry Christmas!

Answer 4

You are not alone. Christmas to me now is too commercial.. I don't like the phoney people who would 11 other months just pass you by and not speak. I love the coming together of family, that is the time where we all meet and have a big dinner together. Plus my bday is 6 days after so growing up I heard Merry Birthday, Happy Christmas

Answer 5

I think your missing the point and so is your hubby! If your husband hands you a list ask how much HE would like you to spend on him! Make your own list! Give it to him and , for goodness sake, make several copies! Tell him to give them to his family and be sure to mark what he is getting for you from all copies of your list, BEFORE, he gives it to them. Now, get upset, your right, there isn't a lot of Christmas Cheer going on now a days. I suppose it has more to do with the price of things and the spirit, or the lack there of, in which one approaches Christmas. Don't give up! Make plans several months before hand and if you have to tell your guy that if gifts were given throughout the year they wouldn't pile up so, on Christmas! lol As for the decorations? Whom is it that puts them up? If it's you, you need to politely ask him to enjoy the newest way you have brightened the house and that Santa Clause won't trip over them this way! Now, if he is putting them up, you really need to just sit back and thank the NORTH STAR that you don't have to! If you both share the job, don't demand begin now and make nice, little suggestions. "OH, WOULDN'T THE TRAIN SET LOOK SO LOVELY AROUND THE TREE THIS YEAR, INSTEAD OF IN FRONT OF THE FIRE PLACE?" or "I WISH I WAS JUST A BIT TALLER SO I COULD REACH THE UPPER BRANCHES OF THE TREE THIS YEAR! you WOULDN'T MIND PUTTING UP THE DECORATIONS ON THOSE UPPER BRANCHES FOR ME, WHILE I HAND THEM TO YOU? DO YOU?" Now don't wait for him to direct you, get in there and talk enough and with such excitement he won't be able to get a word in edge wise! You know your guy better than I, so you also must know a few tricks to get him to do what YOU want! Christmas is a celebration of life not just for a great man named Jesus, but also for you! An old year gone by and a new one with greater aspects and potential just around the corner. Oh, and remember, if all else fails, there's more than enough spiked egg nog to make everything SEEM better! lol (Just kidding)
Good Luck!

Answer 6

There are a lot of things about Christmas that I don't like, especially the gift shopping. Most of the clutter in my house is gifts people gave me that I can't throw out. The past few years I've tried to break the cycle in my family by giving only home made things like soap and cookies. Those that bought me expensive gifts were pissed, but I think next year they'll do the same to me. What I dislike more than Christmas are selfish people, all year round they are a pain in the butt.

Answer 7

I dislike stressing over gifts. This year I'm blowing off Christmas (kind of). I've already given the gifts I'm going to give through out the year. This Christmas holiday, all I want to do is bake cookies, decorate, and listen to my Christmas CD's !!!

Answer 8

I hate Christmas. Ever since I've grown up I hate it more and more each year. What ever happen to them good old days when every was happy and cheerful? No matter what their gift was they appreciated it. Now a days people don't like this and they wanted that. That's not Christmas to me. I want the good old days back. :( I"m depressed at Christmas. People today are to materialistic.

Answer 9

I understand people not liking christmas it has become to commercialized. My boyfriend doesn't like christmas for that reason. I love christmas not for the presents but for the music, decorations, lights, specials on TV and Santa Claus.

Answer 10

First of all Christmas is not about the GIFTS so i can c y u lost the cheer, but anyway if ur focused on the monetary aspects get a gift card!