OK. My friend, let's call him Mr Z. I went out with him a few monthes back. We broke up, he was fine with it, so this is not the culprit. Today, I was talking to him on MSN, and he randomly says "I tried to hang myself." He's always been masochistic. Running into things, beating himself up, just basically hurting himself ALL THE TIME. Then mentions that he's planning on trying it again sometime. I just tell him what I think of this and he calls me some sick names and tells me he knows he's selfish and that he doesn't care, and tells me to screw off basically. Anyway, I have his phone number. Should I call from a payphone and say to his Mother "Keep an eye on him, or you WILL LOSE HIM, and DO NOT tell him I called." or do I just let him work it over himself? I know sometimes reaching out to someone in that state makes them even more manic and determined to do it. So should I just leave it be? Or should I call his family and tell them to watch out? Help much obliged.. thanks.
2006-08-25 09:11:05 · 14 answers · asked by Ellie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
TELL HIS PARENT.
2006-08-25 09:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by my flame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to a camp for a week, the second night there, we were on topic of suicide and she told me she had almost done it. Then she told me I was the first person she had told and no one else knew. I had no idea what to do. I had only known her for less than 2 days!! Then next night she told about 4 other people, and the night after about 3 more. The 8 of us are the only ones who know and none of us live near her. But the fact that she knows she can talk to us if she needs too, helped her so much. We email and talk on the phone all the time. Maybe your friend could just use some support. Most people only tell people they trust. So try to talk to him and be supportive.
2006-08-25 09:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by hodagwriter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should a least tell someone you trust or try talking to him and see why he has these feelings to hurt himself! My friend a year ago tried to kill her self over Christmas break and I was the only at the house when she tried it and she didn't want me to call 911 but what else can you do? So try and talk to him and see what happens tell him you just want to help and be his friend!
2006-08-25 09:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mallory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friends sister recently committed suicide. I only "knew" her at parties or gatherings - never talked to her outside of those things. But if I had any clue at all that she was contemplating this horrible act. I would have thrown myself in front of a train to stop her. The pain and suffering it has caused her family and friends and people that "knew" her like I did - has been unbearable. If you think Mr.Z is serious or not - you NEED to tell someone. His family, friends anyone that can stop him. He needs help. Don't let him down.
2006-08-25 09:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ange 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all i commend you for talking to him but what really were you saying to him its a way to say anything i would try to help anyone who is suicidal it doesn;t matter who they are they are trying to reach out to someone they can trust which is you so tell his mother a doctor anyone that can help that is the people he knows never i mean never leave a person alone who is capable of doing that because if he;s on the news and you found out that person died guess what the guilt is going to be on you and the name calling thats just way to let out his anger he doesn;t mean it good luck to all of you.
2006-08-25 09:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by honey bun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him and tell him even though ya'll broke up tell him that you still care for him and so do alot of other ppl. Oh and make sure he wasn't scewing with you on the internet saying he tried to hang himself when he really didn't.
2006-08-25 09:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by KayDaviam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, u are in a hard place but yes the best thing to do is tell his fam what u know and that u are concerned and wanted someone to know so they can help him then at least u will be done what u can to help him.good luck sweetie and i wish u and your friend the best
2006-08-25 09:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u care about him call his mom. tell her 2 get him professional help. and 2 keep a eye on him.
2006-08-25 09:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call his mother and don't try to hide who you are If he finds out so what at least you would have kept him from killing himself. He can get over being mad at least he'll be alive.
2006-08-25 09:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the healthcare field here is what you learn about suicidal people. the ones that really want to kill themselves will do it and you will find them dead. the people that want attention will talk about suicide but never go through with the act or they will go about it as so they won't die but give people a good scare.
2006-08-25 09:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, call annonomys and let them know. He is giving u cries for help, but pretends he doesn't want help. This may help him by letting his family know. If you don't do it for him, do it for yourself, because if he does commit suicide, you won't feel guilty because you will do all you can do to help him.
2006-08-25 09:16:49 · answer #11 · answered by smoody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋