I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 months now and ive never loved someone as much as i do him. hes told me he wants me to be his first but i wanna wait, he said he could but it seems like thats the only thing on his mind right now. we are also going to different schools this year (only 20 min away) and hes now sayin that he doesnt know if its gonna work goin to diff. schools. but he still tells me how he wants to stay with me forever. whats the deal? should i stay with him or is it gonna last?
2006-08-25 08:59:59 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's only been two months. Don't give in yet. If he's saying he doesn't think it will work because of different schools, then he's either just trying to talk you into sleeping with him, or he already knows there are a lot of other girls available at his school. Even if you give in to him, he will most likely be seeing girls on the side. It's too easy when you aren't right there!
2006-08-25 09:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to really share his feelings. I know a lot of guys don't want to talk about this kind of stuff, but if u want 2 know something, u have 2 ask him. U've only been together for 2 months, so his thoughts of being together "forever" might not be true/legit. U'll never really know someone until u've spent a lot of time together. Ask him to be clear. I wouldn't necessarily call the relationship a long-distance one because ur only 20 min. away, but maybe u can talk about how u should spend ur time together when u both leave 4 school. Weekends? Dates? Phone calls? Just see what he has to say about this and how going 2 different schools will or won't hinder ur time 2gether. The guy's prob confused about his feelings- so tell him 2 let them out! As for the sex- if ur not ready- DON'T DO ANYTHING. Wait until the right guy comes along, someone who is willing to be w/ u, respect u, and is clear about his feelings 4 u (a HUSBAND). Good blessings!
2006-08-25 09:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you two go to different schools, you need to have a serious talk with him and find out where you both stand in this relationship.
Since the schools are only 20 min away, you shouldn't have that much trouble maintaing a relationship. An 18 yr old in my class is married and his 18 yr old wife goes to school 3000 miles away from him, so if they can make it work, I'm sure you can as well.
I have no idea if your relationship with this guy will last. That's up to the both of you. It seems like he's having doubts about remaining in this relationship. Why? Because when you both are apart you'll have many temptations. At your school you'll run into guys that you'll be attracted to and he'll run into girls that he's attracted to. Staying faithful to each other is going to take a bit of work and committment.
If you are ready to committ, tell him so flat out. Don't play any mind games. Both of you must be completely honest and straightforward with each other about what you both want.
Good luck!
2006-08-25 09:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, the long distance thing never does work. ya'll aren't that far though really. it take tremendous committment to be at different schools and still be in a relationship, the kind of committment that obviously he doesn't have, because, he's already sayin that he doesn't think its going to work. I work with teenagers and I tell them all , don't get carried away with the high school love thing, because who you will be when you are 20..21..22, is not who you are right now. You might meet someone so much more perfect for you . Just keep in touch with him, don't stay boyfriend/ girlfriend. If you believe in God and Fate, then if you 2 were meant, you'll be. If not, then that means God had someone better for , so don't sweat it. And if he seroiusly wants you to be his first, then he can wait for you.
2006-08-25 09:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can and will be in love many times...although the "in love" feeling fades with time. You may still love them, but the "in love rush" fades in about 6 months. Love as often and freely as you can, be happy!
If you are under 28, then you don't need a boyfriend.
As you get older, you will figure out what you want from a relationship, and then find someone that best fits. Once you settle on one guy, that's as good as it's ever gonna get. For right now, focus on yourself, live, love, learn, and experience before you settle. Remember, if you are not enough without him, you'll never be enough with him.
Good Luck!
2006-08-25 09:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by jnmcmlln 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be proud that you would like to wait - however this is a bonding expierence that some people want to share with others. If your relationship can not make it through the very small distance then it really wasn't meant to be. And if he pressuring you into this he really doesn't love you, because if he did he would respect your wishes without talking about it all of the time. Good luck! And save yourself for that special someone - you will find him if he is not the one.
2006-08-25 09:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he thinks he loves you but if he can't stop thinking about sex how can you or he be sure that he isn't just lusting after you. If he isn't sure its going to work because you only go to different schools than chances are he isn't really in love with you. If he loved you than he'd know in his heart and soul that no matter what happened you guys would be fine and a 20 minute distance wouldn't affect a thing. Don't give in to this guy. He might be tricking you. I hate to suggest that given how you've invested your heart in him but he may not know what he's saying.
2006-08-25 09:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not stay with him. I'm guessing you are in your late teens or very early twenties. Why put your time and energy into someone who isn't sure if your relationship can withstand a 20 minute drive?! It doesn't sound like you two are in the same place emotionally. Drop him. Start fresh. Live passionately.
2006-08-25 09:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by lo_lo8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm very sorry to tell you this but no, it will not last. i just got out of a two year long realationship almost exactly like that. please save yourself the hurt and pain that i went through and let him go. whatever you do, do not have sex with him, cause that's all he wants and if you stay with him and don't give it to him, he'll go behind your back and get it from someone else. i know you think you love him, but waiting to have sex is the best thing that you will ever do in your life. cause after you do it, there's no going back, and if you break up after, it's like you can't talk to that person anymore and you feel horrible. please keep your innosence, if you want to wait you do what you want. don't let him talk you into it. please learn from my mistake and not hurt yourself like i did. it's been two months since i found out my ex cheated on me, we were together for 2 years. i can't even look at him anymore, it still hurts. i'm not preaching to you, i just want to save you some hurt. hope everything works out.
2006-08-25 09:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by monica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, he should not be pressuring to "not wait," but if you can find a young man today who respects your wishes, that's the next best thing.
Regarding the other questionable mode of staying together, you simply need to have a serious talk with him, and the younger you are, the more you might not be ready to commit to one another.
2006-08-25 09:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋