My wife and I have been together for 5 years. We have decided to get pregnant soon with our first child.
My wife gets jealous/upset when she sees other women she knows with their babies.
She also gets upset when she finds out her friends are pregnant.
Its worse if her friend hasn't been with the baby's father that long.
She told me she wants to cry when she goes to her friend's house because she has a toddler and infant and my wife wants that so bad.
She says when she holds babies she feels horrible inside.
She has wanted to get pregnant for about a year now and I have seen her cry a few times because of not having a family yet.
Is it normal for women to be jealous/upset like this?
2006-08-25 08:15:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, she has never been pregnant. We are each other's only sexual partners, so I know her "history"
2006-08-25 08:20:42 · update #1
Yes, I am in love with her. That's why I have been with her for this long and that's why I told her we would start trying for a baby soon.
2006-08-25 08:24:18 · update #2
Yes, it's normal. Be supportive of your wife and try to understand her feelings.
2006-08-25 08:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God yes! It Sure Is!
These are strong feelings. I had it when I was married. We decided to stop using birth control and it never happened. Now I am too old! It has been the biggest tragedy of my life. I am crying again now reading all about this.
the best thing you can do for your wife is assure her that you want a baby with her very much, so much that you will get your sperm checked and go with her to her doctor to learn how to help it happen. It is not all that easy to get pregnant. There are a few certain days available in a month. Look up ways to identify them. There is also a site called " Trying To Conceive".
Also assure her that you will help her become a mother even if that means adopting. she will be a great mother for someone, and I believe you are a wonderful husband an will be a great Dad too.
2006-08-25 08:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal. Women get jealous of other women for many, many reasons. Some - it's because other husbands send flowers every month. Some - other wives have bigger diamonds, a bigger house, bigger walk in closet, greener grass...
Pregnancy is the hardest thing for a woman to be jealous of. Many women don't feel "complete" until they have been blessed by God to be pregnant. And to see other women have what she soooo desperately wants...well, it's literally heart breaking.
I tend to feel this way sometimes when I see women shopping at Abercrombie & Fitch with their husbands credit card, during a normal working day. Yes, the grass is always greener.
What I suggest for you is - not only see a fertility specialist, but the specialist should also recommend a good psychologist for your wife to talk to. Her deep feelings like this could lead to depression, if not handled right now.
2006-08-25 14:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very normal, especially if you've been trying for a long time. Sometimes the stress or anxiety of wanting to have a child will cause you not to become pregnant. Tell her to relax and be happy and before she knows it "here's comes baby". If that doesn't work tell her to go to a doctor to make sure she is able to have a child.
2006-08-25 08:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so normal it isn't even funny..I had had 2 children, but with this husband I waited for years to get pregnant..I had a hard time being happy for others when I went to the showers or outings..but one day I decided that it wasn't anyone else's fault that I didn't have another baby yet..so I relaxed and although it took awhile but I did that other baby..if physically both are ok..tell her to relax and enjoy her friend's happiness, when it happens, it happens..I know easier said then done..
2006-08-25 08:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Selena D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh good god yes!!!
Every pregnant woman has what she has yet to get. It is an awful feeling as these womanhaven't done any wrong, but they are making your wife feel less of a woman.
Been there, done that for five years mate. I have since has 2 gorgeous kids & have ensured no more will be on there way. Since doing that, I have started to feel that jealousy again.
Us woman are so hard to figure out.
Stick it out, you will get there..
Good luck :-)
2006-08-25 08:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by MISS B.ITCH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where she is coming from. Maybe there is something deeper going on with her that she hasnt told you, like maybe she has had a few miscarriges and seeing these babies and these families reminds her of the hurt, and makes her think about what could have been. Just try talking to her and comforting her. When you and her do concieve she will be better.
Good Luck.
2006-08-25 08:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by instilleddistress 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i to experienced jealousy towards other pregnant women when i tried for almost 2 years to get pregnant and had no luck. But eventually i kinda stopped thinking about babies and stopped noticing pregnant women. then one day out of the blue my husband told me he thought i was pregnant and told me to take a test i did and i was pregnant! I'm not a 100% positive on this but i think i stressed my self out so much thinking about being pregnant that i stopped ovulating for awhile then i relaxed and bam got pregnant! tell her to relax don't think about it GOD will bless you when the time is right!
2006-08-25 08:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kay Castilio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd say your wife's behavior is normal. But I also think you should encourage her to relax a bit, enjoy the process of making love without thinking too much about making a baby, and pray and grow spiritually.
2006-08-25 08:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by zia269 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal as long as she isnt too obsessive about it. You told her you would start trying soon. You guys have been together 5 years and are married. Make her happy and get her pregnant. What are you waiting for?
2006-08-25 08:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋