i am 18 pregnant for the second time first time i miscarried at 5 months left me ultra depressed a condom was used when i got pregnant now i am pregnant again when the pill was used just like it said in the directions. i start college next week and my bf thinks we should get ride of it seeing how he is a junior in college and i will be a freshmen he is broke most of money he made this summer went toward our dates and his school books and his other nessarys .he goes back to school in newyork next week i am in another state an hour half away have no job only a 400 dollar allowance and he stops working this sunday. are relationship is already really messy we were going to breakup before this happened. i dont love my bf i see that now.how do i get out of this?
2006-08-25 08:15:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am only 6 week pregnant and dont want my parents envolved
2006-08-25 08:15:47 · update #1
in total regret we only sex 3 times
2006-08-25 08:17:30 · update #2
make matters worse i am still in love with the ex. bf who got me pregnant the last time and it was looking like we might get back
2006-08-25 08:21:52 · update #3
Get yourself to the clinic. Go with your best friend who loves you and understands the situation. It doesn't sound like you can even consider having this child. It's hard. Good Luck.
2006-08-25 08:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by fastfrank7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart tells you too. I am 20 a college student and 9 months pregnant. No matter what I am going to finish college. I actually got pregnant before on my high school graduation and ended up getting an abortion right before I went in to school. I ended up getting pregnant again and decided the time was right for me to have a baby. I have been with the same guy but we are split up now which sucks, but I wanted this. If you really want to have a baby then have it, but if you are not ready you have other options. This is your decision not his remember that. It's your body!!
2006-08-25 08:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by luvalways719 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In reality only you can make this decision. But remember abortion is like murder. If you are 6 weeks pregnant your baby has a heartbeat and the vital organs are there. I had the same thing with my boyfriend to but now im 10 and half weeks pregnant and I realize that chances are im going to have to do this on my own but my child and your child both deserve the chance to live. Who are we to play God and deside who lives or dies? I'm not a religious person at all but I still think its wrong. Why not adoption? They have open adoptions to where you get to be apart of your childs life but someone else is legally and finacially responsible. Just please think about this. Just because your relationship with your boyfriend isnt doing good isnt any reason to kill a child. You know what my mom had me and my sister and she went to college at the same time. She took me with her when I was a baby, I know you can do it.
Honeslty, Good Luck.
2006-08-25 08:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by instilleddistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind what your boyfriend wants. What do YOU want? It sounds like you're not ready for a baby, nor for a relationship with this guy. However, the decision to terminate a pregnancy has to be yours alone, and no-one else on yahoo answers has the right to tell you what you should do. There are charities to help women in your position. If you can't get help from your family, contact the student advice centre at your college. Take control of your life and things will get better. Courage!
2006-08-25 08:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shona L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide this question. If you don't love your b/f, don't let this be the reason to stay with him. If you don't think you can afford to keep a child in your situation, or don't want too, then I would suggest talking to an adoption agency right away. There are several options that you can look into to find a good home for your baby it you don't feel you can provide it. Remember whatever choice you make, is yours and only yours to deal with for a lifetime!
2006-08-25 08:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so concerned about your future and such then stop having sex since birth control seems to not work for you. Having sex whether it be protected or not can still lead to babies and people who do not want children should not have sex. Just have the baby and give it up for adoption. Stop having sex in the future.
2006-08-25 08:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put the baby up for adoption. often in "open" adoptions I believe that the people adopting the baby pay all the medical bills for you... if you have an abortion you will probabl regret it especially if you were depressed before when you miscarried when you don't have a hand in the baby dying...check into adoptions
2006-08-25 08:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with someone that you aren't willing to have a baby with. You can give up the baby at one of those no-questions-asked clinics and stop having sex with boys until you a married or at least out of school and financially secure.
2006-08-25 08:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can make up your mind for you! do what you think is best. But in the future if condoms or birthcontrol dont work, use both and add the pull out method in to it! Good Luck on what ever choice you make!
2006-08-25 08:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kay Castilio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like your in a bind, you need to get a job and live up to your responsibilities, and if you don't want this baby there are plenty of couples who would love to adopt your baby.
2006-08-25 08:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by **Jellybean princess** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋