A question for the homo sexual community?

Question

I am a straight man, and recently a straight woman has voiced an interest in going on a date with me. As much as I'd like to take this woman on a date, and as much as I like her, the problem is that I've had to keep my sexuality a secret for many years. So has she.
I am afraid to take her to public places, because we may express our feelings for each other, and we're afraid other people may become offended, and decide we are bad people because of our sexuality. Should we stay at home, and keep our relationship a secret to spare people from moral issues with a man and woman relationship? Also, if this woman and I decided we wanted to get married some day, would you hope that the law would prevent us from doing so?

Anyway, I just feel that so many straight people beleive that homo sexuals need "permission" to be who they are, perhaps I should ask permission before "coming out as a straight"

What should I do?

Answer 1

What a great question....maybe it will make people think.....I applaud you....

Answer 2

interesting. but the whole question of permission arises because gay people essentially are not allowed to be themselves. what we ask is acceptance, and not permission to be gay. as for a straight man doing a role reversal here, i think you have pretty much understood what happens to same-sex love in the society.
what you should do is to also let other straight people know what it is like to be persecuted in a world that is too lazy to give a damn, or just too hateful to care. we wish you all the best, and hopefully you will pose the right questions to the straight community as well. We don't really need sympathy, but a little bit of understanding would do us all good.

Answer 3

while this senario has some legitimate points you missed the two major points that keep homosexuals from living what you suggest. You never mentioned that your health and life are endangered if and when you openly express yourself. Nor did you mention the fact that if you build a relationship with this woman that no matter what you did it would never be recognized as legitimate by the government or many of your relatives, neighbors and friends.
We get verbally harrassed, physically abused, and socially stigmatized just for being ourselves because someone else doesn't like us. Do you really think if you felt physically threatened everytime you held hands with your loved one that you would still be as strong in your convictions. Or would you think twice and fight for the rights to live safe and healthy. We aren't asking permission to be LGBT we are telling you we are and are not abnormal and have the right to live safely and equal to anyone else in this world. We have the same rights to freedom of speech, the same rights to work without fear of being fired, the same right to publically show our love, the same rights to tax exemptions when "married", the same rights to raise our children without fear of removal based on who we love and share our lives with, the same rights to visit our hospitalized spouse, the same rights to health insurance for our spouse and children, the same rights to receive respect and decent treatment from the police when a victim or a perpetrator of a crime, and the same rights to feel safe on the street and in our own homes.
We do not need or want anyones permission to be ourselves, we need and want equal treatment. We don't hide or come out loud and proud because we fear being ourselves, we do it out of fear for our lives, our families lives, our housing, our jobs and equal treatment from government and public health and safety officers.

Answer 4

*gives you standing ovation* i wish all the people could see homosexuality in the same light you do...I think we both agree that its not a choice to be like that, but its just the way you are. I am straight, i know and dearly love people who are homosexual, and i have NEVER judged them on that. It is just who they are. Like you said, we wouldnt question or judge by being heterosexual, why does it matter if you're homosexual or bisexual, you dont chose to be that way. If everybody understood this concept the world would be a bit friendlier place.

Answer 5

Your a doll, and thank you... I would hope that you hold your head up high and wine and dine this new love interest.. If people look at you funny, just grab her hand and become one.... Follow your heart and and you deserve to marry if the union of love and respect fall in line... Good luck in coming out, we are here for our fellow straight supporters...

Namaste...

Answer 6

Thanks for confirming what I always say...sexual preference is NOT an issue...it is just a simple fact. No one need scream it from the housetop. But, I must confess, closet hetersexuals need to come to grips with their feelings...there is a real danger that they will turn into heterophobes! Good luck

Answer 7

Wow, amazing!

First and foremost, can I ask YOU personally, has anyone else asked YOU PERSONALLY for permission to be who they are?

Dude, you and your girlfriend's esteem need work. Be strong in yourself, AND in each other, and don't worry what the hell others think. Chances are, they may be jealous because you and your girlfriend can stand to be who you are - and as closeted as they are - they can't.

I applaud your morals to be concerned, but my friend, just STAND UP - BE PROUD .. AND BE YOURSELF.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I think you missing one very important point.

Civilization are built with man and women.

Tell me how Homo reproduce, then maybe we can discuss other
issues.
I have no problem with what ever you claim, but human extinction is what make me reject the idea of homo behavior.

Answer 9

I am so proud of you for addressing this subject. I hope this helps people open their minds and hearts. This life is not an easy life to live because of the people that judge and ridicule and criticize. Many thanks to you!

Answer 10

Stay behind closed doors. Saty in the closet. Don't dare hold hands or kisss in public. I would be very carefull of this situation.

Answer 11

If you're writing this as a political/social statement: Kudos to you. If you're writing this to be a sarcastic @hole: Get over yourself. Either way, it can make people think.