on a sidewalk corner.She didn't tell anyone she was pregnant except me,and her b/f who doesnt care.She fist told me when she was 5 months.She always wore bagg and large clothes,and read and learned about having it on your own.And she delivered it on her own she said.Her parents don't know about it.Well when she had her baby she put it in a basket and left it on a street corner and it was found.Its on our news and in the papers! She has tole me shes scared to admit to it.And the newspaper has said the police are searching for the mother to get help.I dont know how to help her! Should I still keep it a secret OR should I get the police and tell them it was her?
2006-08-25 07:42:51 · 55 answers · asked by JennaBee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
She never saw a doctor,she's going to college and lives in a dorm and her parents live away from home.the baby was taken to the hospital by ambulance that night ten minutes after she left it there and it was clean healthy,and fine.she tole me she stayed until some lady and guy walking by found it.it was a great neighbrohood!
2006-08-25 08:07:42 · update #1
Tell me her name and where you live and I will report her for you.
2006-08-25 08:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she'd left the baby with the fire department, she would not have been persecuted. Since she endangered the child by placing him or her on the street, she has committed a crime. If you talk to her, encourage her to contact the police, or at least a lawyer or a public defendant. She needs a lot of help.
Additionally, there may be complications from the delivery. She should seek medical attention.
Finally, tell her that she has 1 month to claim the baby as her own (the state may try to challenge that), but it is her right (birth parents giving the child up for adoption are told this). She can still take the baby back and make a family.
Go over to her house and contact a lawyer or police together.
2006-08-25 07:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by curious1223 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell The Police For Everyone's Sake. Also, I Would Think It Would Be Hard For You To Not Tell, You Would Probably Feel Guilty After Having Your Own Kids One Day (They Are So Amazing And Deserve The Best). You Would Probably Feel Better About The Situation And Can Just Call From A Pay Phone And Not Give Your Name. The Mom Needs Some Major Help And Will Continue To, Just Be There For Her (And If It Comes Out You Told She Will Probably Thank You One Day). Good Luck To All Involved Especially The Baby.
2006-08-25 08:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is right on this one - Tell someone, the police, your parents, her parents, school counselor, someone with authority. The baby is going to need all kinds of help. At least if it were dropped off at a hospital it would have been a safe haven. And at the hospital they could test for all kinds of family history like diabetes and stuff like that. And she just would have been asked health questions and if she really meant to leave the baby at the hospital verses a street corner.
This way the baby is taken care of and your friend can get the help she needs.
2006-08-25 08:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by blestbrenfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard situation for everyone involved -- your friend, her baby, and you.
It is too bad your friend did not seek help to begin with, as some states have laws in place that allow a woman to "abandon" her child legally at certain locations (hospitals) or with certain guardians, without being accused of a crime.
New York, for example, has a five day period after a baby is born for it to be "legally abandoned." This is to encourage young mothers to find good care for their child, rather than putting him/her into the trash (for example) and killing him/her.
Rhode Island has a 30 day period.
I don't think a street corner was a valid location, however.
There's the possibility that the law would be lenient, IF she goes in and confesses and throws herself on its mercy. If it's obvious she is scared, didn't know what to do, and is now trying to make sure the baby is cared for, they will do what they can to help her and not punish her. But the sooner she goes, the better.
Your first role, I think, is to encourage her to do what is best for her baby, appeal to how she cared for it for so long and brought it to term, and now she needs to make sure he/she is okay rather than quitting at the last minute. Appeal to her love for her own kid, just so she can make sure the baby is cared for and any medical issues are taken care of.
If she doesn't confess... well, then it gets hard. An anonymous tip to the police? Going there in person? If the baby is in serious risk if your friend is not found, then I would advise that you go for the baby's sake and deal with your friendship afterwards.
Your attitude will determine a great deal how your friendship will end up. If you do talk to the police, yet show concern for the baby and your friend, then she will forgive you eventually. In any case, encourage her to be the one to go forward.
2006-08-25 07:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only do you and your friend need to discuss this, but I would highly recommend going to the police and talking to them about it. More importantly, your friend needs to see a doctor to make sure that she is physically OK after delivering the baby. If the baby is safe and healthy then that is a blessing, but she needs to be an adult and take responsibility for her actions. I understand that she was probably terrified and maybe didn't do the right thing at the time, but she needs to do it now. If she won't, then be the better person and go to the police...talk to your parents and have them go with you.
Best of luck to all of you!
2006-08-28 04:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by heatherle74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Down here in our area we have a rule that if someone abandons a baby they can leave the infant at a police station, fire station, or hospital there will be no questions asked. When they abandon them anyplace else, the police will look for that individual to prosecute them.
Now that it's too late to go back and do that, where should she go from here? If the police are really serious about finding her, they WILL find her. I can pretty much guarantee they will go easier on her if she turns herself in than they would if they have to go find her. She's going to have to face the music sooner or later, whether it's punishment from the law, or punishment from God.
The best idea for you would be to try to talk her into turning herself in. If she won't, it's not up to you to rat her out. However, it's not fair for her to expect you to protect her either, and she should know that. That's putting you on the spot. Tell her you won't tell on her, but if the police knock on your door and ask that you'll tell them anything you can.
2006-08-25 07:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is not your friend, simply for expecting you to carry such a burden around with you. The truth is, that YOU are probably the only one who IS concerned about it, because if she is even capable of doing this, she doesn't sound like someone who would be racked with guilt over it. You on the other hand, are trying to deal with this, and go to school i would imagine. Talk to the police, you might find that they have to conceal the source of information to protect people all the time... Maybe they could say there were security camera's out on the street or something...
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 01:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by SierraSydney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Around here you can drop a baby off at either a hospital, police station, or a fire station with no questions asked. But since she's already left the baby, youneed to tell the police. They need to know about the baby's family history and probably need to check her out to make sure she's okay after giving birth also.
2006-08-25 08:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a real difference between right and wrong. WHat your friend did was wrong. The baby could have died. GIve an anonymous tip if she refuses to go to the police. They'll eventually catch her and in that way she can renounce the parental rights.
Let her use protection the next time. Sex and kids are not a joking matter.
2006-08-25 07:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by zubinlcooper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this is a baby's life that is being toyed with, I was reading this and it about made me cry. What your friend did was wrong, that baby could of died. I think you need to tell someone and disassociate your self from that person because that is a horrible thing she did and since she is 18 she will probably serve some jail time ecspeacialy if she is hiding from the law. Do you know what aiding and abedding is? its exactly what you are doing and you too can get in trouble, I think you should atleast tell her parents and let them handle the situation.
2006-08-25 07:48:11 · answer #11 · answered by landscaperschick73 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋