I have been married for 3 years. My husband wants me to have a threesome with him and another guy friend. The friend is a nice guy. Also, I have never done anything like this before. I just don't want things to get weird. Should I do it or not?
2006-08-25 07:17:10 · 21 answers · asked by jacemo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, this is a huge step. There are so many things that come into play, the biggest one being trust. How secure are the two of you in your relationship? That is a question you two need to discuss. Jealousy can quickly become a factor very quickly in a threesome.
I would ask your husband why he wants to share you with someone else. And of course are you into the idea and are you comfortable with the idea and the other guy? You said that you don't want things to get weird but it will if you and your husband don't talk very open and honest about it before hand. You also need to discuss ground rules. Is it going to be a free for all or are you going to set limitations on what the friend can and cannot do.
If you are both into it, a threesome can be exciting. But it killed one of my relationships because we didn't talk about it very much beforehand. Jealousy got in the way and we broke up and never spoke again, so be careful.
2006-08-25 07:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by sham.rock19 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is a fun fantasy but should stay exactly that. Unless, of course, you want to destroy your marriage. Look through the search questions box and look at the trouble people get themselves in to over this. There is a guy that posted just a few days ago about how his marriage was destroyed over this. I don't care what they imagine would be fun, deep down anybodys spouse wants them to really say no I don't want to be with anyone else. When it becomes a reality it will look and feel like cheating, very few people can really deal with this and keep their relationship. Why look so hard to cause trouble in your relationship? Whatever history you have built together of only being with each other is GONE, wiped out, history. Thats a huge thing and its just bad all the way around. Of course things will get 'weird' you are thinking about having sex with another man while your husband watches!!! How much weirder can things get? Think about what happens the next day, getting up for coffee, he WILL look at you differently, some part of him will see you as a sl ut who had sex with his friend, he's human he won't be able to help it.
2006-08-25 14:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband ask me for the same thing but with another girl. At first I wasnt sure but I went ahead with it n believe or not our relationship became stronger. It felt weird at the beginning but it was a new experience and it spiced up alittle our relationship. So my advise would be, if u n ur husband have alot of trust in eachother n u feel that your relationship needs sum spice then go for it.
2006-08-25 14:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by LADYQUEEN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a very strong character to do this sort of thing. The m-m-f combination is an unusual request from a man. Normally they want f-f-m as they don't want to feel threatened.
I haven't had one YET but i think i would prefer f-f-f .
I just wonder how this conversation came up between your husband and his friend, whats going on there?
2006-08-25 14:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand guys wanting their wife and another woman but why a wife and 2 guys?? thats unusual to me maybe hes bi and doesntknow it i wouldnt do it a marriage is not sharing ur spouse in any way. just because hes a nice guy doesnt mean hes a great idea for a 3 some lol
2006-08-25 14:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is really up to u , are u going to be confortable w/ that? i'll tell u it won't turn out as good as u think , and what will u do when he asks u if he can have sex w/u and somechick because if u do it this one time u can bet he'll ask u about the chick thing and if u say no he'll say why not u did it w/me and my friend, so if u are prepared for that kind stuff go ahead it's up to u
2006-08-25 14:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not!
Do YOU want to do this? Are you cool with you husband wanting a threesome?
2006-08-25 14:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Having sex with ANYBODY except your husband is cheating. Period. I assume you promised to be faithful. That means, no sexual activities with ANYBODY, for any reason. Now, IF you did this, how could you say no, if he wanted 5 extra gutys, or a few extra women. Or orgies. Or sex with a zebra, dog, or hippo. Don't start, it leads to nothing but problems.
2006-08-25 15:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask complete strangers whether or not it is a good idea, then it probably isn't. Only do things that you are comfortable with.
2006-08-25 14:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOO. For one...your husband is gay. And two....you are MARRIED. You're not supposed to share. Do this and your marriage is over. Trust me.
2006-08-25 14:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by A NEW BREED OF HATE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋