It is so frustrating and anyone who out there like me would understand. My daughter is 17+ and is severly handicapped. I mostly alone have taken care of her. Sometimes i am fortunate enough to be employeed and sometimes not. It has been a 17 year struggle and not because of her disease but just trying to make it financially. Eventhough I am now remarried just one income dosnt cut it. There are programs out there designed to help her but the waiting lists just to be approved are endless. I am just having a rough moment and wanted to voice my opinion to the world, if you care respond, if not? thats okay too. Its like trying to tread water with the shark nipping at your toes. just makes you want to scream.
2006-08-25 07:01:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anntoinette M 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Thanks to all, I was just having a Hallmark moment and wanted to vent, I thank all of you for your thoughtful words of understanding. I wish I could give a best answer to all of you
Sincerely
2006-08-25 08:06:54 · update #1
In the UK i work with families in a similar situation. It is heart aching to see the distress that "no services" cause. For some reason it is always with children who have a disability whether it is ADHD or some thing more serious.
You have come along way so well done you, you sound a great Mum and it is good to let off steam. It is a shame though that the people in charge of supplying appropriate services to children and young people never seem to listen or waste funds on silly projects that do not exist after a year when the funding runs out!
Keep it up and yes it is tough.
Something they did in a town where I work is set up a parents support group, they take it in turns each week to go to one of the members houses and have a glass of wine and a chat it gives them something to look forward to and also gives the realization that they are not alone feeling like this. Is this something you could set up to help others who are maybe just setting out with a younger child, I am sure they would be pleased by your knowledge and experience.
Any way good luck and lets just hope that someone who can make a difference is on yahoo answers!
Good luck and my thoughts are with you.
2006-08-25 07:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel. We give so much aid to peoples of other countries, including illegal aliens, yet when we need help it is an endless cycle of red tape.
A few years ago my husband went into a deep depression. He was able to get on medication through my health insurance. Then I got laid off. If he doesn't take his meds, he will go into a deeper depression and possibly become suicidal. We tried unsuccessfully to get medical aid from the state. We were almost laughed out of the office. Every person in there was a person of color. They were having no problems. Finally one night I got a call from a really nice lady who worked there. She gave me a number for a mental health clinic. It is run through the state and now he is getting the help he needs at very little cost. You know my father fought in a war for this country and so did my brother. I'm sure you have similar stories. It just is not fair. I hope you get the help you need. I believe you must be a very special person for God to put this child in your care. Hang in there. And go ahead and scream if you want to.
2006-08-25 07:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by sassyk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. I know what you are saying, but time does heal all. Not to the time table we would like however. I've taken up meditation. Its easier and scares less people than screaming. Should you decide to hit a wall, use a pillow. Wall's hurt knuckles a whole bunch.
2006-08-25 07:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it feels really good to get deep into the woods on a trail and just scream like Tarzan.
I screamed like this a few weeks ago with my two little boys who were acting up. They laughed very hard and then they started behaving, go figure...
Keep your chin up, your daughter is worth it.
2006-08-25 07:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by barter256 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be alright, honey. Have faith, love your daughter unconditionally, and everything will be alright in the end. I'm glad to know you have found someone to love who will share the reponsibility with you, and I repect you for having carried this on your shoulders. It is a burden of love, and it sounds like you love your daughter so much. She is lucky to have a mother like you. Stay strong
Love,
Misty
2006-08-25 07:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by munesliver 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I care!! Sadly obtaining help for situations such as the one you are in can be terribly hard. Please hang in there and know that things will turn around. By the way go, ahead and scream it's alright!!!
2006-08-25 07:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. I hope things get easier on you soon.
2006-08-25 07:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lenny B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you hate your daughter, how about not blaming her and just accepting the facts. Im sorry its hard but youre not the only one out there.
2006-08-25 07:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
wHY ARN'T YOU GETTING HELP FROM HER FATHER? sO SORRY YOU ARE HAVING A BAD DAY. i'VE HAD PLENTY MYSELF LATLEY AND YES I WANT TO SCREAM TOO!
2006-08-25 07:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋