Child Support?

Question

My baby mama and I stay together and we have been for a year and a half. She always says If I leave her she will put me on child support. I tell her there is no price to happiness and then she says she will just have to kill me then, My question is:
If a man and woman break up and the man still takes care and spends time with his child or children, do you think he should be on child support. Keep in mind he provides finanacially for the child on a consistent basis.

Answer 1

I have had experience with this through court and fighting for child custody and support myself. Based on my understandings a woman/man cannot just go and file for child support and start getting checks in the mail. If it comes down to it and she takes the children...I suggest you go to court "as soon as possible" and start up the process of fighting for child custody...since child support is based on the percentage each parent spends with the children the more time you get the better. Inform the judge that you do not intend to be out of the childrens' lives but that you have been and will continue to support the children whether their mother and you are together or not. Also seek help from a local family court facilitator or a local legal aid society because most of the time these services are free to low income persons. You may attain free services from an attorney through the legal aid society and get information on how to fill out papers and forms and what's the next step of the process from a family court facilitator. I truly hope that you don't have to go through this because it is very time consuming and stressful but since you're planning to stay in your childrens' lives I would like to say you are one out of millions of parents that would actually stick around for their children so god bless and good luck!!!

Answer 2

Thats a hard question. I think child support needs to be paid by the non custodial parent whether it be the mother or the father. A child cost a lot of money. My husband pays $240 a month in child support to his ex for his son. His son also comes and stays with us every other weekend and 4 weeks in the summer. We also help buy school clothes. Because my step son is with his mother most of the time I feel like my husband should pay child support. I guess if there was split custody, and the child spent 50% of the time with mom and 50% of the time with dad, then there would be no need for Child support.

Answer 3

It is not always necessary if both parents can agree on terms. The split is normally not nice, thus creating an atmosphere where communication is non existent. There are mother who also use this as a crutch and not it's intended purpose, the child!! So be weary of allowing the system to dictate what you should do for your children and if you ever split, just take care of business to prevent her from becoming spiteful and heading downtown to file papers!

Answer 4

If 'the man' is taking care of and spending time with his child, then, that IS child support. However, I think the chid's mother will need to have assurances that you will continue that support.

There are many problems with the child support policies in our country, by the general principle is a good one, even though flawed.

Answer 5

It doesnt matter what we think, if she takes you there to court you need to know the facts. The judge wont really care if you see you soon and help out well he might. What he is going to look at is how much you make and how much she makes and then he is going to take a percentage out of your check every week or when ever you get paid. I raised my 6 yr old son all by myself up until the begining of this yr. No help from the father at all. No money no diappers very very rare visits from him and everything else. So I applaud you if you actually want to be a part of ur sons life. Good luck.

Answer 6

My ex-husband and I have split custody and agreed to no child support, but my current husband and his ex-wife have the same custody arrangement yet he has to pay her child support. I don't believe this is fair because we have the kids just as much as she does, AND we pay half of everything.
I think that it should depend on the amount of time spent with the children, and amount of money being spent for regular care by each parent. It shouldn't automatically be the father that pays.

Answer 7

That's all good and dandy, but if she took you to court for child support, first of all, make sure you show up. If you don't you lose case and judge can grant up to 50% of your income. Second, always give her a money for child in checks, money orders or straight deposit from your bank, job, etc... Before sh can be given support, you need to fill out form on how your living expenses are, and how much they cost, judge will base payments on that. Always keep written proof of support, checks money orders, etc... Good luck, from some one who knows the routine.

Answer 8

Hire a lawyer and pay whatever the court orders you to pay for child support.

Child support is her legal right regardless of any status.

Also sue her for custody and visitation - a judge will grant joint visitation with conditions.

Answer 9

as long as u were providing for ur child i wouldnt need to put u on child support. some women do that simply to be greedy or try and use that to threaten a man to keep him from leaving her...

Answer 10

dude, get your g.e.d. and brush up on some grammar!

yes, if you and the little lady split, and she gets more than half physical custody, you will be required to pay child support. if you can show that she is a dirty crack whore, she will still get the kids (even if you are the friggen local judge). however, if you can prove to the court that she will hurt the child in your absence, you will get physical placement.

tough road ahead... but, would she really kill you?