help....my bf and i are trying to get pregnant?

Question

for those of you who had to try how long did it take?
any helpful hints would be great
thanks

BY THE WAY WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS I DON'T BELIEVE YOU NEED TO BE MARRIED TO START A FAMILY THIS IS THE RIGHT TIME IN OUR LIVES FOR THIS SO YOU PEOPLE SHOULD LOOSEN UP IT'S NOT 1959

Answer 1

Don't get married unless you know that it will work!!! You don't have to be married to have a kid. If you are both happy and believe that you could raise a child then that child will be happy. Every woman's body is different so it depends on lots of different things. I would say not to immediately get up after you have sex. Lie there with your butt elevated to help the sperm travel. Also have lots of sex as to the more sex that you have the better the mobility of the sperm. People who say that you have to wait to let the sperm build back up are wrong. A man isn't going to run out of sperm. The more sex the better the sperm flow. Sperm have to get through the cervix and the mucus in the cervix. Then sperm have to travel another 7 inches. That is alot of inches for a microscopic sperm to travel. Any way have alot of sex and try not to stress out about getting pregnant because stress can hinder your cycle and make it harder to conceive. It will happen when you least expect it to. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Nope you are right it is not 1959 however to start a family you have to start with the right foot. This is how it would work best for your baby, you two have a career, then get married, then enjoy life living as a married couple then open a savings and checking account if you don't have one already then buy a house, then when the two of you are mature enough THEN think about having babies. Believe me, the older you are the less mistakes as a parent you will make. You don't need to be married to have babies, that is true, BUT wouldn't it be much better for your baby to have mom and dad ............married? The fact that you have been together for 3 years does not mean that you guys know how living together is, or do you live together? A boyfriend sounds like you still live with your parents and him with his, in that case, you are still KIDS! Anyway I just probably think the old fashioned way, maybe because I am a very conservative mother to be for the first time at 29yo (proud republican), I will be married 7 years by the time our baby is born, that is why I know what i am talking about. So why not to wait until you can give your baby MORE!

Answer 3

go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive. My Doctor recommended it to me and after 1 year of trying I got the book. It worked the very next month. It turns out that my timing was wrong due to mis-information. I hope it helps you, too! It's not only about getting pregnant. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!

Answer 4

To all you people who believe that you should be married to have a baby, one word "ignorance". Please convince me that you're all right and tell me what would be different in every ones lives (all that are trying to have or already have babies and are not married) if they were legally married? Just a signed piece of paper behind it people!!! A signed piece a paper that doesn't avoid families breaking apart when they decide to or just want to. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I'm also TTC, and I don't think that the love between us would be greater if we were married, nothing would change. Don't get me wrong It's not that I'm against it either. I'm sorry it just upsets me to see that people to think the same way our great great grandparents did. We're in a whole different world now, look around you.

Answer 5

You dont have to be married, I wasnt when my boyfriend and I planned my pregnancy. You do need to live together for a while to get to KNOW eachother well enough though. If you guys are in love and secure with your relationship and you live together thats all that matters. Marriage is a good thing though. It all depends on if you were on birth control and what kind to determine how long it might take. When I got off the patch it took me 3 months, I heard when you get off the pill you can get pregnant the next month. And the shot usually takes almost a year. Everyones body is different. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

ive been with my partner for 10 years were still not married we have 3 wonderfull children my first child took 7 months my second took 4-5 months and my 3rd was only 2 months i always tried to have sex 14 days after my period but a few days before that and a few days after that but you never know if your going to ovulate early or later than the 14 day mark so have sex every other day if you can manage then try to have it every other day around your ovualtion day and good luck i dont beleive you have to be married either just a piece of paper best wishes

Answer 7

You should get married. You are right we aren't in the 1900's, but I guarantee you they had less broken homes than we do today because adults have become selfish and its all about sex and having fun and doing whatever the heck it is they wanna do. And making babies. Please give the child a decent home with a mother and a father. Let the child know he/she came into a committed relationship where the parents are married and will provide for him/her no matter what. Inside of having them say, " Oh, my mom just thought it was a good idea at the time" REMEMBER a child is not a toy despite the 3 yrs. you have been with him. It's a life. WHY???????????? Screw it up?

Answer 8

Well I understand how you feel because me and my hubby were trying to get pregnant a year before we even thought about marriage any way it took us two years of trying on our own then
I got my OB involved I have always had an irregular period and didn't think anything about it but come to find out if your periods are irregular your probably NOT ovulating so he had me take my basil temp for a month and sure enough i didn't ovulate so he prescribed me a fertility drug called clomid very safe and so cheap is cost us with our insurance about 25 dollars you take it for 5 days starting on the 5th day of your period and then after your last pill wait 2 to 3 days and then have relations as much as possible for about 3 to 4 days it sounds hard but its not and we did it and first try ( and it usually works 1st or 2nd try) we got pregnant I am now 30 weeks along and expecting a very healthy and BIG baby boy on November 9th good luck and ask your doc about clomid it worked for us!!!!

Answer 9

marriage is not for everyone. It is up to you. just do not bring another child into the world when you and boyfriend argue alot (if you do), or you have not been together for over a year. It is best to wait atleast a year. Go to your family doctor or one your comfortable seeing and tell them the situation and what you want and ask all the questions. Just do not move right away after sex and buy lots of tests. yah they are expensive but ones from the dollar stores work just the same except they are a dollar even same as in a wal mart or anywhere else. try even putting your pelvis elevated with pillows for 10 minutes.

Answer 10

If your boyfriend truly loves you he will offer your child and his a true example of love and commitment by being married to you. You are selling yourself short be bringing your child into this world not knowing if your boyfriend is going to make a life long commitment to you through marriage. What is the hurry? What happens if your boyfriend ups and leaves you? What is going happen if he decides he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore? Is your child going to be carted with weekend visit to and from mommy and daddy's house? Why don't you concentrate on the character of this man before you decide to have a baby? If he isn't willing to give you the gift of marriage why are you willing to give the gift a child? You deserve better and so does your baby.