I have a child with this man. My child is now 6 and he has never been a part of his life. Now we are currently talking and are trying to be together. The problem in the past was the his girlfriend would not let him be a part of our childs life. He loved his girlfriend very much, but they have split. Now that she learned we are going to be together she is leaving her man. Do you think I have a problem, will he leave me for her.
2006-08-25 06:40:45 · 11 answers · asked by samiloni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't like drama, I do have a life. He is changing and not for me. He opened up to me more than I ever expected. I agree he should have been there for his child and am not at all sticking up for him. This is nothing I expected or wanted, but now think I might. I don't think it is about being stupid it is about life and change. I never asked him to change and the whole running into each other was far from planned. I am now friends with his ex, but I seem to worry about everything. I do believe he loves me and do believe people change. What if it is meant to be.
2006-08-25 07:00:01 · update #1
Probably, he sounds like a scum bag. No offense, but he should have never deserted his child in the first place, especially because of another woman. I would not trust him until he proves his trust!
2006-08-25 06:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a heart beat!!! You NEVER should have gone there with him. Stop it now before you and your child gets hurt. He hasn't changed and him choosing his ex gf over your child in the first place is a sure sign that he is a loser and you and your child are just going to get hurt again. Your child should really be the main focus here. He will leave you both for her again. Don't do this, don't do this and plz, don't do this to your child. blessed be.
2006-08-25 13:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short not to trust the one you love. You have to have trust in a relationship. You have every reason to doubt especially that a little one is involved. As much as you care about him and love him because you share a kid together does not mean that things can always work even when we are desperate for them to work out. We can not change anyone, only ourselves. And his actions speak louder t han words. If he is not willing to change and really give his all to you and your son then he is not worth your time. There is someone out there who will love and cherish both you and your son.
2006-08-25 13:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl. think about this....this man chose a girl over his child he is no good.....think about you child...lets say you 2 get back 2-gether for a while and you child gets attached to him and then he up and leaves with the same selfish girl or another your child will hurt in the long run.....i am sure that you are a beautiful and intelligent girl you can do better than that
2006-08-25 13:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by cherrylicious_01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you are smart. First off his child should come first, and you said it, it did not. If his ex girlfriend was the most important before.....safe bet that she will be again. Now why would you want to be w/ someone who has treated your child like sh*t? Get over him, not for yourself but your kid. They deserve better.
2006-08-25 13:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by eva c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should I trust my man, you ask---
No.
No.
No.
Try to be realistic and strong. Find a relationship that offers you at least some assurances that the person who you are with respects you and your son. This person has shown you already that he is not strong enough to take part in his son's life because a girlfriend didn't want him to!!! Please, whoever you are, respect yourself and honor your son by finding someone else to "be with". Now, should you allow your son to have a relationship with his father, no matter who you and his father are dating or married to...yes....if you feel that your son would be safe becoming involved with this man.
2006-08-25 13:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously like drama. But my advice is...stop watching the soap operas, stop collecting your disability check and get outside and GET A LIFE.
2006-08-25 13:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are going to have problems sounds like your man is using you.
2006-08-25 13:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that he will leave you again for her, then don't hook up with him. He hurt you once, do not give him a chance to hurt you the second time.
2006-08-25 13:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yup
2006-08-25 13:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋