i've achieved everything i want in life.......and i'm more unhappy than ever before?

Question

why is this? i thing now i've got eveything i have more time to sit around and wonder ....what's it all about?

Answer 1

What did you want?

And how did you get it?

The answers can play a huge role as to why you're unhappy.

Also, you may have placed your happiness into something so deeply. And now that you have it, you need to find something else important to place your happiness. You've also got a lot of time to ponder about your life and where it's going. Just occupy your time. Do things you love. Challenge yourself. Keep yourself interested in things. Become more knowledgeable. Ect. Just find other things you want to do.

Also, it's not just about what you want. It's about what you do for others. It's about closeness to God or if you don't believe in God, how close you are in a spiritual sense as well as how close you are with others. In order to feel content, you can't just do what YOU want. It's about the world as a whole. Perhaps you should now look past yourself and all the things you accomplished and do great things for the world. Just small little things that will mean a lot to others.

Answer 2

Went through pretty much the same feeling myself last year too, we were lucky enough to come into a good amount of money that allowed us to pay our mortgage off, do things in the house we have wanted doing for years, go on a holiday of a lifetime and finally be debt free and I just couldn't work out why I felt pretty low in the end up, here I was with what I thought were all the things I wanted in my life, as I am 50 this year I decided to write a list of all the things I would love to do before I reach my milestone and its great fun too, I have only done 15 of them so far but had a great time doing them, maybe you could try the same thing too, OK you might be well away from your 50th birthday but whatever birthday is next in your life then make a list of things to do before it, bet you will be surprised at some of the things on your list too.

Answer 3

It's not uncommon to feel something is missing despite almost everything going well in life or at least not badly in major ways. I believe, at least in part, that's because we look for what constitutes happiness in the wrong places. The western intellectual tradition is much to blame in this respect. We're taught to believe that happiness lies in "freedom", making one's own choices, achieving visible and tangible success, having 'enough'--or preferably much more--money, being admired by others (fame or at least recognition). Well.... if that's so, why do we find so much emotional distress, drugs, suicide attempts, alcohol, emotional imbalance, etc. among the Hollywood elite? And they're by no means alone in those problems. If anything, artists mirror their society rather than society echoing artists (altho sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking we imitate 'them'). Why do the superbillionaires always seem to need and want more money? Why if the super-rich lose several millions of dollars in a single day of bad trading but still have billions left do they become depressed? Why do the beautiful women need yet more plastic surgeries? I'll stop asking questions that, in one for or another, we've all caught glimpses of at times (if not, that's a place to start figuring out the prob--catch glimpses). The bottom line answer is....we've gotten out of touch with our real self, which is spiritual. I'm not talking religion here, which is largely a human invention. I'm talking about the reality that the things that are essential and truly matter have nothing to do with the material realm. We've been taught to look down on anything that can't be measured, detected, seen, perceived, heard, etc. Nothing that doesn't become accessible to "scientific" inquiry is worth anything. I beg to differ. We've been taught wrong. As a result, our beliefs are wrong. To find true happiness we need to find the way back to our selves. The ways to achieve that are myriad but how to find them is a very individual journey and the answer will be different for each person. But you didn't ask how to find such ways. I've replied, in the best way I can, to what you asked.

Answer 4

You lack the most important thing in your life and thats by asking Jesus Christ into your life and if you are sincere, you will be filled with the Holy Spirit and you would be working for God right now, as there are so many people out there who need Christ in their lives.

Look at the world today, everything is becoming corrupted. Christianity is not a religion, it's a way of life. Once you have turned your life over to God, everything will become clearer to you, and I promise you, nobody or nothing will prevent you from denying your Faith. He is a wonderful Saviour and He wants us all to be saved and be given Eternal Life, In Heaven with Him.

I was in the Army, but also during civilian life I have had a few near death experiences, and I can honestly say, there is no such thing as an atheist, because if you are in a near death experience, who do people call upon?.......God of course. Their are so many Christian websites and helplines. God is real because I am here today answering your question, I only hope you find a life in Christ, there will be prayer going up for you from now on.

Answer 5

Well, you haven't achieved everything you want, have you?

Be relieved, be very relieved: you still have something to live for.

Now that you've got the things you wanted, now that the struggle is over, comes anticlimax.
Is this all? Where do you go from here?
You have got the time to consider your situation and think what it is that you really do want. And then to plan what you do to get it. Then to get stuck in to achieve it.
And so the cycle goes.
You can never reach the end. Or rather if you do, that is indeed the end.
Welcome to the human race, my friend, and the state of divine discontent.

Answer 6

It is important to have goals and to beable to work towards something. Maybe what you have acheived was to gain materialistic things. Maybe you have spent time on that rather than finding things that are important, like love and a happy fullfilling relationship. Material wealth is all well and good, but nothing with-out health for instance. I know people who live day to day and have little or no money, but are happy with their lot.

Why not volenteer for a good cause such as pets need vets or such like? It will be rewarding and you'll make real friends who admire you for the time and effort you put in helping others.

Take care, and count your blessings.

Answer 7

You are successful but it doesn't mean you are happy. Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you have. You have already get what you want but i don't think you want what you have already. You have the mentally to take things for granted maybe? try to appreciate your family, imagine one day if they are gone, how you feel? try to do activities with your family members. Life is short don;t wait for moment, you create your moment. When they feel your love, they be happy and that's when you truly feel happiness you never felt before.

Happiness is a journey not a destination. Set more goal, for the better of mankind or your family. Eg. help people in need, go travel with family to truly experience world, enjoy time spent playing with your kids, enjoy the world in the moment, smell the roses...so many things you can be happy about if you know how to appreciate.

Answer 8

Life is one long journey and your journey hasn*t ended by along shot my friend.
Your problem is psychological,all in the mind. first of all stop having a pity party take up a new hobby,go for a drive and go for a walk in some beautiful country-side,clear your negative thoughts and start renewing your mind think positive good thoughts and say ,that's a start i will try having ago at that tomorrow ect learn to play a musical instrument,take up a sporting activity,join a club ect theres zillions of things to do and you know i make lots of sense,cause i could go on and on telling you what to do or could do with your life 85% of life is psychological and 15% physical.

Answer 9

Do they satisfy your needs? Know what these are.... What you want out of life and what you need are 2 different things. Material things may not necessarily make you happy (not that this may be the case for you), but it's the spiritual and personal satisfaction you get out of life that will make you completely happy.

Perspective and also a sense of pride in your achievement helps to gain that happiness. I have everything I want and need in life... hence I know that I am one of the luckiest girl in the world. Now I would like to achieve other things that will maintain my happiness.

Try this link (regardless of your religious affiliation): http://www.sgi-usa.org/buddhism/buddhismtoday/

The bestest of best wishes to you.

Answer 10

i think some of these guys are on the right track, selflessness is the road to happiness. Giving of myself is usually the last thing i want to do but when i do it i feel great and it gives meaning and purpose to my life. I think having a devotion can help also, i have found buddhism and meditation helpful in the past. You are probably thinking of yourself too much, get out there and help some folk and think of others, that will work, guaranteed!