What he supposedly did was lift up her nightgown while she was sleeping and the mothers boyfriend supposedly saw this happen and grabed my son by the collar and lifted up off the ground and threw him on the couch and repeatedly spanked him until i yelled at him after running in and screaming What the f* are you doing? So my question is what should i do?
2006-08-25 06:26:22 · 33 answers · asked by mystic_rage879 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
oh my! i would report the incident to police. stay clear of this family. talk to the mother of the child. and i would be leary of the mother's boyfriend. what if he is a molester and your son caught him..."beat ya till your scared of me" tactics work, so talk to your son. let him know that you believe him and your here to protect him, no matter what.
and you dont want him to be scarred for life of being curious, this event might need counseling too if hes shaken up about it.
2006-08-25 06:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who are these people? Was it at a sleepover? Of course talk to your son and say that he should do this but also let the mother and boyfriend know that 1) they extremely over-reacted to normal little kid play and the 2) what the boyfriend did was assault and child abuse. Tell him you won't press charges this time, but that next time he won't be as lucky. Tell the mother that she needs to have the background of the boyfriend checked out, and that if you were her you wouldn't trust him with her child. His violent reaction is very very troubling.
You know what -- show the mother the responses you get here, so that she knows it isnt just you that feel this way.
2006-08-25 06:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by C_Bar 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say sit down and have a talk with your son about what happened. Children are curious, so stuff happens like that. As for the girl's mom's boyfriend...well, I'd flip out even more on him, basically for feeling that it was his responsibility to spank your son. I mean, I actually believe that spanking a child is ok (and there is, of course, a huge difference between a spanking and hitting/smacking/slapping/abusing/etc), but for something like that...I sure as heck hope that your boy is ok after having that happen to him!
2006-08-25 06:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a sad comment on what is happening in our world today. Your son did nothing wrong. It's interesting that the male adults first impulse was to repeatedly spank your son. If this scenerio played out in my life I would have taken my son and left never to return. I would also try to explain to my son that although innocent , he was doing something that most girls would find offensive. I feel sorry for him. He must have been totally devestated and scared. Take care so that he can stay well rounded and happy.
2006-08-25 06:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Viki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its tough. You do need to get him to understand that pulling up nightgowns, and other invasions of girls privacy, is wrong and to NEVER do that again. At the same time, it sounds like the spanking he got could have been the kind of trauma that messes up a sex life forever more, so you need to also let him know that he should not have been beaten up for looking. This is a total cop out but could I suggest you ask a professionally licensed counselor about this? Its just that its such a difficult balancing act, two very different messages need to be sent and received. Good luck!
2006-08-25 06:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by jxt299 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Kids that age are experiementing, not molesting. I have a 6 year old boy, he is very curious about girls and asks questions and makes comments all the time. I wouldn't worry about it at this point. I would also have a talk with the other parents involved (her boyfriend had NO right spaniking your child!!) Who knows what the 2 of them have done together when they didn't get caught. Girls are curious too....it is completely normal.
2006-08-25 06:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by dee_0076 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The man had no right to touch your child, you can bring charges against him. As for your son, you need to explain to him the whole reason why the man was angry, but explain also that the man was wrong with what he did and that you would not have handled it that way. Then explain to your son that what while what he did was wrong, and is not to be repeated, the man over reacted and that all adults are not always correct in their actions. Personally I would get the police involved in this. That is assault against a child that is not his. Even if what he describes is what your child did, he had no right to touch your child.
2006-08-25 06:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would seem that the person making the allegations is the one guilty of child abuse.
I am reminded of the case of the little Swiss boy in Colorado who was allegedly "seen" from some distance away to have "interfered with" his sister. He was actually arrested and put in handcuffs.
His family was advised by their lawyer to go back to Switzerland before the authorities put all their other kids into care.
With the family gone, and with the Swiss Embassy left to take charge, the Colorado police had to let the kid go and he flew to Switzerland to rejoin his family. The Swiss Embassy put their side of the story on their Web site for awhile. (I read somewhere that the family eventually returned to the USA, this time to Arizona.)
2006-08-25 06:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would press charges on the other mothers boyfriend for abuse on my child........ I would confront my child and ask if he did what they claim, and if he said no, then I would make them prove that my son did what they claim as they are being charged with child abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You have alot more inner strength then I do, if that was my child, i would have picked up the first thing I saw and repeatedly beat the crap out of the guy beating my child. BLessed be.
2006-08-25 06:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from that lunatic. i wouldn't advise calling the cops either they will find a way to not only arrest and charge him they will come up with a charge for you, too. maybe get a restraining order against the asshole for you and your son. that way he can't be around your son. gives you some protection for your son. he was doing what kids do. being curious. i hope your son is OK. just love and have fun with him.
2006-08-26 02:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the people! That is my answer but I also think you should contact the poilce because who ever did that should be in prison!!! I can not belive someone can do somthing like that to a six year old! Also if your son has any bruises or anything from who ever did that show them to the poilce as well cause that is your proof right there!
2006-08-25 06:36:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋