Do many women have men (husbands/fiances) who go out (on weeknights or weekends) and stay out super late with out calling? Just wondering if this is normal.
2006-08-25 05:49:20 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he says that he's going to my brothers house...so I don't believe that he's cheating. I just want to know if I'm over-reacting when I feel disrespected by him or that his wife isn't important to let her know what's up, when he'll be home etc.
2006-08-25 06:02:22 · update #1
My husband does sometimes. I will call him and leave a message on his phone telling him that I will see him when "I" get home because I am not setting around waiting on him to come home. When the shoe is on the other foot he will think twice about staying out late all the time.
2006-08-25 05:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that these type answers can cause more harm than good. I realize that people should not ask a question that may produce an answer someone is not ready to deal with. Most cases when a man stay out and does not check in with home there are underlying issues that should be settled in your relationship. That does not necessarily mean that your mate is cheating, he may just don't want to be around you for what ever reason, that is why communication is key. It may be a sex thing or it can be as simple as not receiving the attention that he think he should be getting. The list is almost endless but it is a 2 way street. If the person is not willing to communicate and come to an agreement then there is likely an outside influence swaying his decision to sit down and talk. Good luck when you sit down and talk.
2006-08-25 06:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by A Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal if it just started happening. If it's been like this since the start of the relationship then looks like you now noticed it bothers you. Time for a little communication for you two and what you need, (a call, a time when he'll be home etc.) it's only respect. PS> it does sound to me like he IS cheating big time...but I didnt want to say that.
2006-08-25 05:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by distalbicept 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal for a very selfish, self-centered person who more than not is cheating. If he isn't cheating who is he to make plans any time with out your knowledge or inviting you to come. This sounds as if it happens on a regular basis. If he wants to act single then he should be and you should have the freedom as well. If not for the freedom, for the self respect you deserve. Hire a private eye and hang the low life. Stop allowing him to dismiss you and your time and feelings right now!
2006-08-25 06:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you allow him to do the more of a doormat you are. Not that your husband should not be able to go out with his friends but if he does it all the time and all you do is yell at him he will continue to do it because he knows you will always be there when he gets home. You need to show him that you mean business either seperate for awhile and get councelling or divorce him. If you continue to stay nothing is going to change.
2006-08-25 06:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't put up with that! I've always gotten out of the relationship A.S.A.P - if they can't be happy at home then they need something I can't give them... And then they're free to go find what ever that may be without the head games and hurt and I'm off to find a real man that isn't interested in going out with the guys & / or staying out all hours of the night.... "Because the night belongs to lovers"
2006-08-25 06:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife used to go out with her friends and stay out until 5 or 6 in the morning while I watched our kids and her friends. I found out she was cheating on me behind my back for 8 months. So if it were me...I would be worried.
2006-08-25 06:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by shamansway 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called being irresponsible. No, in my relationship, we tend to do everything together and always have. It has brought us real close together. You always need a little time away from each other but not staying out with other friends until late into the night.
2006-08-25 05:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more normal for men that are young immature men or men that might have a wife that nags them. It just depends on the circumstances. As men get older, they mature, and don't have as big of a need to go out as much as they did when they were younger.
2006-08-25 06:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
mine does theres like a coffee shop in town where he hangs out with all his friends (they are arabic) so its really the only place they can go without being insulted...so he goes sometimes he stays late but i know where he is and i can call there anytime..its normal inmy opinion guys dont think like we do if i go out for like 2 hours i would call him to check in lol
2006-08-25 06:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋