How can I convince my mom to let me take ballet lessons?

Question

How can I convince my mom to let me take ballet lessons? I took lessons for four years, but I stopped when my parents divorced. Ever since it's been a bit more difficult for my family money wise for both parents, and every time I ask my mom, she tells me that I might be able to take lessons, but it would be hard getting me to and from the school, and also it would be very difficult to pay. My sister might be able to drive me to and from, although I know that it's a little much. I'm unsure if I should just do extra chores for her or try to earn money, but see, there aren't many job oppurtunities for me, seeing as I'm only twelve years old. Also, every time I ask my mom, I choke up and get worried she'll say no, so it hardly comes up. Can someone help me figure out how I should ask my mom, or how I can earn ballet lessons? I need help terribly, because I feel very empty without dancing. Any help is very much appreciated.

Answer 1

It does not matter if you are a boy or girl, NO PARENT has the RIGHT to suppress what you want to LEARN!
She should be supportive of you learning a talent at least you are OFF THE STREETS, would she approve of you getting into a GANG just because they are FREE!???
NOT many JOB opportunities?
RUBBISH!
I was baby sitting at AGE 8
Selling Avon at age 14!
You can walk dogs and mow lawns or care for a neighbor's house while away...
Wash cars in the neighborhood.
Take out garbage for the aged or for anyone...
Tell people what is is for and I am sure they will be helpful.


SHOWING your MOM you are series about learning a talent will show her that YOU MEAN BUSINESS.
Most kids just want to try STUFF OUT because someone else in class is doing it.
Your mom just wants to know you will take it all seriously and you helping to pay is Honorable!
And helps build outstanding moral fiber!
Also try to look around for other 'lower' cost opportunities.
Maybe a CITY parks/recreation class?
Maybe you could swap with the instructor, Baby sitting for a discount... 12 is OLD enough to do many jobs, do not limit your DREAMS by selling yourself short.

Answer 2

one way u could try 2 convince yr mom is mayb u could write a note/letter and leave it somewhere like on her bed or under her bedroom door (somewhere she will find it.) this way u can give her the words u want 2 say and not worry about choking up trying 2 ask. tell her its something u really want 2 do, and if that is true then u should offer to do chores around the house 2 help w/ the payment. another thing, even if it seems hard, u could just take lessons and not do the recital because costumes r expensive. GOOD LUCK :) and don't give up

Answer 3

You need to talk to her about it. Explain that it's very important to you. However, this won't make the money appear. Doing chores for her also won't make money appear - it's still her money.

At twelve, you can take on lawn mowing jobs, babysitting jobs, yardwork jobs, etc. You may even be able to help out at privately run kennels and stables cleaning up after animals and such. Use this money to take the lessons again.

See if you have a community program that offers ballet for less money. Even if you are more advanced than that, you will be able to stay in ballet and stay with it.

Good luck to you. : )

Answer 4

Hello... when I was your age my family moved and I didn't get back into dance.. I felt the same way, money was tight, etc. Now I really regret my choice to be quiet and not do what I wanted. My dream was always to be in pointe ballet and eventually be a dance teacher. Now I am 25 and really regret my choice. So go talk to your mom. Are you in another activity you could quit for dance? Parents want their children to be happy, so don't make my mistake, stand up for yourself!! Do a little research on the internet before you approach you mom and show her the prices of the classes of your choice.. You could compare and find something in the right price range your mother would be comfortable with!!

Good Luck

Answer 5

oh my god! You are so cool! You are committed to dancing and desperate with it in you're life, yeah? My advice is to drum up as much courage as you can and sit down with your mom and start off by telling her you know the financial situation and the driving situation. Then tell her how important dancing is to you. Don't gloss over this part- really explain how it has affected you, how you feel without it. Then tell her that YOU want to work out a way so that YOU can afford to go. Then ask her if she will help you figure out a plan to work something out. (Maybe your dance teacher would barter- if you can a half hour early and cleaned, for example. Or Maybe there are other relatives that might be willing to pitch in?). Whatever you do- don't give up on dancing!!! Good Luck!

Answer 6

Ask to talk to your ballet instructor privately. Explain to him or her your situation that you desperately want to take lessons, like you did before, but your family cannot afford to pay for your lessons.

Ask if there is work you can do at the dance studio to help pay for lessons. Offer to sweep the floor after each class. Clean the mirrors. Wipe down the barres. Clean the bathroom. Anything you can think of.

If you are truly a dedicated dance student and your ballet instructor sees your sincerity, he or she may offer you a barter deal where you work for lessons.

Or, maybe you barter for a portion of your lessons and your mom pays for a portion of your lessons.

If your ballet instructor agrees to a barter deal, you must work hard, very hard—both in class and out. Do not take advantage of your instructor. Make him or her feel that you are a good "investment" in dance training.

Break a leg!

Answer 7

Take it slowly and step by step.

First, find a time when she is relaxed and ask her if you can sit down and talk with her.

Then let her know that ballet lessons are important to you and you would like to find a way to work it out.

Ask what her concerns are - such as transportation and money. And ask if you can collaborate with her to find a possible solution.

It sounds like you might be able to get the transportation worked out.

As for the finances, you could suggest extra chores as a possibility. Also, is it possible that your Dad might be able to help with the cost?

Also, you might be able to explain your situation to the ballet school, and they might have a sliding scale.

Good luck!

Answer 8

If she's got no money, she's got no money. You need to understand that money does not grow on trees. However, this doesn't mean that you stop trying. Continue to dance and keep it up until funding is available. If your mom is anything like a mom, she probably feels bad that she can't take you to ballet lessons. You don't have to keep asking her but do continue to make it known how important this is to you. Would it be possible for your dad to help pay for them? Maybe you can try asking.

Answer 9

Maybe you could do something like baby sit to earn the money becase if your mom doesn't have the money you could earn it yourself and i'm shure your an awsome ballarina me personily can't dance that way it's to hard for me i'm 15nd if your mom cant affordit now wait until your birthday or a holiday like christmas or try to work out a payment scheduel with the dance class or make your own dance class and charge others to learn from u bye you rock hope i helped see yah

Answer 10

well show her how good you are then cry and cry and cry give her your convinsing face if that dose not work then go and take the class without telling her if that dose not work then ask a freind who intrested in ballet and tell them about the lessons an ask if thier parents can bring you if that dose not work then im sorry cant help oh yeh try to get a job around the nieghborhood