Have you ever been in a relationship that you truly didn't want ?
What were/are the reasons that you stay/stayed ?
When did/will you get out ?
I'd like to hear input from men and women alike.The stress is actually affecting my mental and physical well being...
I am incredibly sad at the moment; I miss the old me...
I miss kissing, and laughing.
There are so many things I never got a chance to do.
Why would an older man marry a younger woman, expect her to turn 39 over night ?
I enjoy movies, spending time with friends, and eating out; but I've given up, because whenever I did, there was ALWAYS some problem...
I feel so old, and used up, it hurts.
I'm just glad that it doesn't show on the outside too much...
Peace, love and light , tishy
2006-08-25 05:44:45 · 4 answers · asked by bubletish 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should leave this dead end relationship because it will happen eventually. It's just inevitable. So, don't waste your time, I don't know what are your circumstances exactly are but you can arrange everything so you can leave with the least loses to you.
2006-08-25 06:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mistyfog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my last relationship i was in was exactly like that..
he was jealous... un trusting (some of which is my fault for ommiting some information from my past) he thought i was the biggest whore to walk to face of the earth or at least thats how he made me feel..
anytime we had a minor arugement it would turn into this big huge arguement..
he always joke and make fun of me in a demeaning way.. saying i smelled bad.. he hit me once or twice and threw a wine rack at me.. i wanted to leave in december (that was the first violent outbreak) and it took me untill august of the next year to actually get the nerve to leave..
i didn't want to leave because i had no where else to go.. i couldn't afford to live on my own without him.. and i didn't want to move back in with my parents (i was 19 when i orginally moved out)and was really not into being 24 and living at home with my parents)
i wish i would have left a bit sooner cause now i notice the effect it really had me.. my self essteem was really low before that relationship but after that was non existant.
but now i have a new great boy who treats me wonderfully.. he's everything i could ever want.. and we have a really great relationship..
its never worth staying in a relationship where your unhappy.. no one benefits..life is way to short to be unhappy
2006-08-25 06:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was in a loveless marriage and I know how you feel. I don't know all the answers to your list but I will try. I was in a marriage for over 20years and I stayed because of my kid. I found out that my ex didn't want to be with me in the Biblical sense and that was back now 8 years ago. I should of left buy stayed for the kid. Big mistake. Then after trying to get help thinking it was me I ended up having affair which was brief. I gave up on the affair and for the next 4 years tried to find a nice way out but couldn't finally filed for divorce and still in the process because my ex is very vindictive and wants to hurt me. The ex now wants to bring me to trial so she can publicly humiliate me and get her pound of flesh. I stayed and suffered and miss being with someone who wants to be with me. I guess the only thing you can do is try to find happiness within yourself. Good luck
2006-08-25 05:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position,now dont lose heart,there is a day for everybody,try to overcome this situtation by talking to close friends who dont give advise but can understand and give solution,and one more important point please dont curse ur self, god has made every one for a resaon
2006-08-25 05:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by white 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋