is why i'm also nuable to get agood job or even agirl friend which make me all time sad
2006-08-25 05:37:14 · 35 answers · asked by tariq m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The word “interview” itself makes a person tense and nervous who needs to appear in the interview. It is normal human behaviour to become confused or get tensed but such things can be overcome with practice, learning from seniors and elders, thru own experience. At my time internet was not available. These days Internet is a rich source of information. U can learn many things about the interview by visiting the websites the links of which are given below. On some websites u will find questions also along with answers which are frequently asked and questions pertaining to ur requirement can also be found there provided u surf on them thoroughly and consciously. It will improve ur performance remarkably. It will infuse a high level of confidence in u. It will make u more frank and it will develop diplomatic qualities in u too. Overall, I would say that it will give an impetus to ur personality development. Ur specific requirement can also be met on these sites provided these are surfed well.
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2006-08-31 18:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 4⤋
Find yourself a little ambition and do something like go out to lunch or dinner in a restaurant or a movie by yourself and enjoy your own company. This will be the beginning of your self confidence.
Exercise --- only twenty minutes a day at least four days a week.
Eat Healthy -- be good to your body and mind, eat right.
Personal Hygiene -- be good to your body, keep it clean, hair clean and trimmed, complexion clear, get dental work done that you have been putting off it's very important for self confidence.
Keep your hands as clean and soft as possible, use cream at night.
Next purchase THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE by Rick Warren.
You can get this cheaper on eBay. This is your second step in confidence building.
Next become a member at a church of your choice, then become an active member, then start volunteering for projects at church. Here you will forget about your lack of confidence, you will be too busy to notice what's not in your life because your life will be full of worthwhile projects and people.
Exercise --- increase to 45 min. to one hour at least 4 days a week. From here on do not let days go by without exercising, do this for you.
The girlfriend thing will happen in it's own time. Now is the time to concentrate on you, a relationships will follow.
Another place where volunteers are dearly needed is the Humane Society.
If you do your part, confidence will surely follow. During interviews making eye contact helps lots, relaxing and pretend your talking with your mom or brother makes it easier,
You'll do just fine and land that job you want and deserve.
2006-08-25 06:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Peach 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello Tarik. Hey, you sure do look like me. Maybe we're brothers.
Three things I would like to share to you.
First. Brush up on your English. It is the international language of business. You will get better attention in your interviews if you possess the skill in speaking English. Get a tutor, read more books and don't be ashame to speak it. It is good practice. You will gain more confidence as you succeed.
Second. Try looking into yourself more. Look for the positive qualities that you possess and focus on them and develop them instead of focusing on the negative.
List down these qualities. Patience, honesty, hardworking, willingness to learn, obedience, trustworthiness are just some of the qualities that you may have if you look inside yourself. Be honest with yourself. Make sure that you mention these qualities in your interviews. People will see that you know yourself and that you have the confidence to tell them.
Preparation is the key. When you are prepared, you will not fear. Prepare yourself mentally, meaning you must have a strategy, a plan of attack. When you know what to do you have won half the battle. Write your plan. Internalize it. Then you execute.
Third. Listen to Raju. He would not get to level 7 if he was not a wise man. Check out his references and study them. Pick the things that will work for you.
When it come to girls, I can't help you much there. You will need a high emotional intelligence when and if you want to go far with women. Because it's all about relationship.
I hope this does it for you. Good luck!!!
2006-09-01 22:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by sleepy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of confidence is of course a lack of self-confidence. This is partly due to having had someone you trust give you a lot of criticism and tell you you had no skill or ability or value or whatever they thought they could say to control you. It's also partly due to having an innate disposition that was not dominant and less likely to take risks. So you were afraid to fight back as much as you should have, and accepted others opinions more than you should have.
Try to start over and judge yourself as to your competence by calling up your courage to try new things, and realizing that most of your fears are based on someone else's lies. Not easy but it can be done, and it will work.
And stay away from those people who have sport in putting you down.
2006-09-01 11:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Grist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face your fears. here why, we all have a comfort zone we live in. yours is very small. the only way to make this zone larger is to step outside of it. being civilized has brought us many great things but it has in some taken the drive (that comes from the animal side) out. We now for the most part avoid situations that make us uncomfortable. When a situation has left you wanting to retreat, allow it to be the signal that tells you to confront it. You will find it gets easier and that is your comfort zone growing. Before you know it people will be looking at you differently. One last thing. Never let it be anger driven. Take the anger element out of all confrontations. This builds trust and respect from others, and that is the grounds for long term relationships.
Best Wishes
2006-09-02 00:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by toolman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When comes to driving, than say to yourself I drive the car the car doesn't drive me. Think it would be normal to have some misgivings if only place you can drive is major highway. Pick times when it is slowest to practice and gain confidence or try to find less busy road to start practicing on. Know lots of people than would never try some bumper to bumper rush hour traffic.
If you got extra money therapist could be helpful. Another thing you could try besides many mention is to take course at Vo tech center on something your really interested or community college. Stat slow the feelings you have didn't start over night and will take some effort to over come. While taking classes you might meetperson of opposite sex and one thing will lead to another.Libraries have program on video to help you with interviews. You can stay were you are or work at getting better little by little.
2006-09-01 15:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mister2-15-2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you come to realize that everything is not about you. When you walk out of your home & think everyones looking at you. They're not. Some people automatically fail before they even get started because they feel like they're the center of attention like the whole world is putting them on. Lots of people have insecurities but it doesn't stop them from functioning in their daily lives. Take a few courses on building your self esteem. Hopefully you'll find out why it is you feel this way about yourself in the process. Know that you're special & have much to offer others around you. This is a big step you asking for help here.
Good Luck!!!
2006-09-01 10:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by paintressa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Chill out dude, you ll eventually grow out of it. Just relax when you go for an interview, just pretend that you are talking with a friend. the other way is to prepare yourself for the interview, think off the possible questions that you might be asked and rehearse in front of a mirror. You ll feel confident when you are well prepared. As for the girlfriend part, I need help too. Good luck mate.
2006-08-25 05:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by ash_m_79 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is because of the complex you have developed with the perople around you and think yourself low. Your are always wavering and feel a mental patient. This phobia can be overcome by practicing Yoga and Meditation. Doctors, medicines, and any intoxication etc., will only be temporary. There are many simple books on these subjects and practice them and practice to get relaxed. Face every one in their own merit.
By this you will defenitely suceed in getting a suitable job or winning persons (including girl friend). Best of Luck
2006-08-30 01:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read up on a variety of subjects. Knowledge is power. What you have in your brain cells will come in handy anytime. It's called stock knowledge. If you can, try to go back to school, learn a new course, a new activty. This will perk you up ,and expand your social circle and your mind's horizon. Volunteer in a civic or charitable project. Take lots of vitamins, these will strenthen your body constitution and you will have the energy and physical power to do the stuff you must do. Feel and enjoy your surroundings. Get a pet, a plant. Having a living object that you care for in your home is therapuetic. Read newspapers and watch out for shows, seminars, films that are available, even for free, and go to them. Invest in yourself. Pamper yourself. You are a precious man, beautiful and shining. You will be able to conquer the world. Read up on the lives of great, influential people. Learn from their stories. Don't forget to sleep well, and pray to God and his angels to let you soar above all this unnecessary pain. Lots of girls will see your worth when you radiate your positive attitude.
2006-09-01 11:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by chelsea 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing I can tell you is, act like you are confident. Even if you're a quivering, pathetic little slug on the inside, act like the most confident person you know. Once you start to act like it, you'll start to feel like it more and more.
And nobody needs to know about the slug.
2006-09-01 15:13:12 · answer #11 · answered by Biff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋