They were separated 8 months before we started dating, and its been over 2 years now and they are still not divorced, they both have lawyers and no property to dispute. He has gotten to where the thought of her makes him physically sick, and he filed a no-contact order over 6 months ago. Why is it taking so freckin long?
2006-08-25 05:28:18 · 12 answers · asked by J.A.G. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went thru a 2 yr. divorce just because he would'nt sign the papers. After all that time. My lawyer considered it a contested divorce. And I should've went ahead and payed the extra money for the contested divorce. I was in a simular experience. And the mear thought of him just made me sick to know that I was still married to him.
2006-08-25 05:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Your "boyfriend" is somebody else's husband. Emotionally and legally.
2. He claims that he wants a divorce, but, even though they have no joint property and (I assume) no children, he does not simply divorce her.
3. He was "separated" when you met. If that means a legal separation, not just physical separation, then I really feel sorry for you, because a legal separation means that they did not want to part.
4. He claims to have filed a no-contact order, but you don't mention any incidents of her having harassed him in any way. So there is 100% chance that he is contacting her, either emotionally or sexually or both.
5. He wants to be with his wife, or the divorce would've been final within 6 months.
6. Get a life, girlfriend. That man does NOT want you. If you were gone, he would have another. You are easily replacable in his eyes, as opposed to his wife, who is irreplacable, since he will not let go of her, even if "the thought of her makes him physically sick."
2006-08-25 05:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by Debra C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm almost in the same boat you are...i've been dating someone for 9 months who separated from his wife 11 months ago and they're still not divorced and they have 2 kids one is almost 3 and one who is 18 months i already can hardly handle it and not because i cant ...just because i'm not sure if i want to..if his divorce is going to take as long as your boyfriends i dont think i'll stick around that long..i mean i know i really care about him...but it's just hard ...i'm a college student and i have so many things ahead of me..i dont know...i guess i can't really help you
2006-08-25 05:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I somewhat went thru the same thing, dated before the divorce was final....and he didn't really want to talk about the process at all. But a little over a year later it's done and over with, THANK GOD~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 06:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is feeding you a line and has no plans on divorcing her. Have you seen any of this paperwork? If they really wanted to be divorced, they would be by now.
2006-08-25 05:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOmething is wrong. No divorce takes 3 years, There are things you dont know,
2006-08-25 05:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't If they, no matter lawyers or not the time is usually 3 months, i would check to see if Mr, Right is so right.
2006-08-25 05:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need plan B gal ! Start lookin somewhere , cause I bet he is !! Better warm up to run!!
2006-08-25 05:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by kydexa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one or the other is messing around.divorces should only take 6 weeks tops...thats if they really mean it
2006-08-25 05:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by erica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is always long!!!! but 2 years is tooooo long!!!!!!!!!!!! maybe they are not sure they really want to divorce?
2006-08-25 05:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋