We lived togeather for tthree years in separate bedrooms. He had a stroke last year I was giving him time to get his life togeather before his stroke, I begged him to go to the doctors and take his medicine, he cursed me said he did not want me to do anything for him but he would mess up his pay every week not come home I still gave him my money the next week for work always promise to pay me back never have always promise to help pay the rent, when he did was not half as promised, any way after his stroke I could not leave, took him to the doctor's did every thing but not enough, doctors said he was find he could go back to work he worked when he wanted, want to hurt me. more detailed
2006-08-25 05:27:31 · 17 answers · asked by zion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
file and let him know why if you cant work this out.
2006-08-25 05:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh if he is trying to hurt you now. Imagine what he would do when you tell him. I say get your stuff together set up a place to move and when he goes to work or out LEAVE. And don't look back. Then he should get the papers and its not guarantee he will sign them. But to answer your question NO don't tell. Its really not worth your life.
2006-08-25 12:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by poohbeark19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Zion
Sounds like hubby is using his stroke to cling. No, I would not tell him you're filing for divorce. Do everything quietly and simply have him served by someone else. You do not have to serve him either.
If you feel unsafe then make sure you have a Safety Plan. You can contact your local domestic violence hotline for information about safety plans.
However, to me it sounds like you've done enough and he doesn't appreciate it. He is using, misusing, and abusing you. Time to move on.
K
2006-08-25 12:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions to ask your self before filing: Do I love this man anymore. Can it work between the two of us if we go to counseling. Is children involved in this separation. My advise is try counseling before filing and see what is the outcome. Have a bless day.
2006-08-25 12:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by junior23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only would I let him know, I would put them on a breakfast tray for him to sign, you can either be a wimp and get pissed on for the remainder of your life, or get a backbone, and let him go!! and enjoy what life you have left
2006-08-25 12:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just file for divorce. That way you won't have him trying to guilt you into staying. Good luck with your new future.
2006-08-25 12:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, when they serve him with the divorce papers make sure there is a restraining order with it. I can tell by what you are not saying that he is abusive. Please take care of yourself, no need to tell him the server will.
2006-08-25 12:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't give him a heart attack this time. you should be upfront about your intentions and just tell him. either way he's going to find out sooner or later. it's best if he hears it from you rather than from a court.
2006-08-25 12:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of the situation, honesty is the best policy.
2006-08-25 12:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by alliekittie18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divource is a No-No in the 1st instance from Catholic point of view. :- )
2006-08-25 12:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely let him know. I'm sorry everything had to go that way for you.
2006-08-25 12:31:12 · answer #11 · answered by Short and sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋