Is he using me?

Question

I've been hanging around with a guy i work with for a good few months now. We usually meet up once a wk, prob just a cosy night in watching the tv & we have been to the cinema a few times. At w'ends we both go our seperate ways (eg go home). We have met up bout 3 times when we've been out. I'm not sure if he's just using me or not. He has admitted during a drunken conversation 1 night though that he hasn't even kissed a girl in the past few months & would be mad if i brought another fella home. He said some people might just look at us as 'f*** buddies but he thinks we're a little more than that coz we enjoy each others company & do things like going to the cinema. Neither of us want anything serious with anyone at the min (i'm just out of a long term thing). We've never talked bout such a thing when sober. Am i being used & wasting my time or do ye think he genuinely has feelings for me?

Answer 1

Maybe you should just ask him where this is going. If he runs, you will know the answer.

Answer 2

I’m having trouble trying to understand what you are asking…
You are good friends and work colleagues.
You enjoy each other’s company.
Neither of you wants to be involved in a serious relationship at this time.

What do you mean by, him using you?
He sees you as ‘a friend’… Are you after more than that???
Is this the same guy that three months ago you wanted to sleep with???
Refer to your question: Can i still sleep with him or is it sick?

I’m sorry, but all I can suggest is that you discuss your needs with him (when you are both sober) and see what eventuates from there.

Answer 3

Talk to him about it. Out of respect for yourself and your body don't do anything psychical with him unless your together and happy and out of respect for you mind don't get emotionally involved if you know you will regret it.