2006-08-25 05:14:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not an expert but I do have a few ideas. First of all, make sure that your feeling good about yourself. Maybe put on some revealing clothes once and a while and tell your self "DAMN! I look good :)" I don't know about you but I don't always like to have sex when I'm feeling unatractive. Also eating right and getting excersise can boost your sex drive. There are personal excersizes called kegals that you can do that will build up your "love muscle" and make sex more enjoyable and your orgasms stronger and longer. They are so easy to do and you can do it anytime and anywhere. I can't remember the scientific work for the muscle but you can find it by stopping your pee mid streem. try to do this 3 or 4 times so you can really feel where it is. Once you know which muscle it is you can squeeze and release it. Try to do it for about 20 minuets a day. Tense and release quickly and then try to hold it for 5-10 seconds and take a 20 second break. I have tried it and this really does wonders if you keep it up. Another suggestion is to look at a karma sutra book or somthing. You might find some fun ideas and even get a little aroused just by looking and thinking about it. Don't be afraid to try somthing new! Hope this helps! GOOD LUCK!
p.s. there are lots of websites about the kegal excersises and other ones you can do.. do a yahoo search and check em' out!
2006-08-25 05:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by ms. abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this stage.
Do you have kids? Work? Sometimes it seems like EVERYONE wants something from you. It can be really draining.
While one does enjoy sex, it can seem like it is alot of work to get there.
Would your husband consider a girls night. You call all the shots. Think of something you might not ordinarily do WITH him and then get him to participate. Wait on you, give you a massage, rub your feet, cook you dinner ... etc.
Make sure the evening is all about you. That might be something to get you started again.
Sometimes it can help to make agreements or appointments so that you can know in advance and build excitement that way.
I've also heard that starting from "scratch" so to speak and just being together with no sexual touching and working towards that can be beneficial.
It is important to remember that feelings play a big role -- you're not a robot. Make sure to keep that in mind as well.
best,
cez
2006-08-25 12:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by cezzium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do NOT let your husband have sex with other women. he might get some infections and give them to you.
you should talk with your man.ask him how your sex is between you two. if not so good. ask if what should you do. try what he wants. but dont try anything with a third party. okay? thats just wrong and nasty. if you two just have no idea of what to do new then go and buy some videos and i think that might get you horny. if not then guy toys or sexy cloths. or buy books and read those. they help a lot. maybe you should take a short vacation to a near by resort and spa and spend time alone with him there for like 2 nights or 3 nights. see how things go.
2006-08-25 12:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does depression play a part in this? I was depressed and went thru the same thing. Just could care less about sex. I got treated and now it's back on like never before.
2006-08-25 12:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove all stress and dislike from your mind, get a nice nitie, try a new perfume, dim the lights, candles, a erotic picnic on the bedroom floor, there are oils, syrups, and lubricants to use!! XXX rated dvds, sex shops...come now this is the internet....
2006-08-25 12:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch porn videos. Maybe you could get a mirror and watch you and your husband while you are being intimate. Make sure that you are having a good orgasm and you will want to do it all of the time.
2006-08-25 12:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink some white wine. about 3 glasses should do it.
My husband is a terrible lover, but still likes sex. so I get drunk about once a week to allow it. I try to imagine he's someone else for those 30 seconds.
2006-08-25 12:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of what makes him think you are in the mood and look that way. Maybe he can get you there
2006-08-25 12:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
else let your husband to have sex with other women
2006-08-25 12:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask yourself why you are not feeling that way.
fix yourself up for the night, make yourself look n feel sexy
take a candle light bath with him.....
2006-08-25 12:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋