I have been dating my boyfriend for the past 8 months. At the beginning of the relationship we had sex a fair amount. Lately we haven't had as much sex. I am over at his place all the time and spend almost every night there. We hold hands while we are out and we have fun doing little things, like going for a ride in his truck and talking, or making dinner together, etc. We like to bug each other about the little things about each other. He finally met one of my friends a while ago and is getting more open with meeting people important to me. He is a little shy and doesn't like meeting people that often. It's a huge change for him, cause it shows that he is getting more interested in meeting people. we are open and honest with each other. Quite a while ago we were told that we act as though we are a married couple, and people have made comments about marriage to us. Is it more important to have sex in a healthy relationship or is it the little things that make things work out?
2006-08-25 05:10:03 · 3 answers · asked by starbright 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's actually both. Despite what some people may say, sex is an important (not the most important though) part of a long term relationship. And it's the little things that will allow you two to continue to connect on a nonsexual basis. The thing to remember is that eventually a couple will find themselves in a rut sexually due to either additional stress in their lives, busy schedules, or plain boredom. The key to it is to not allow it to continue for very long. The longer you're in a rut, the harder it is to get out of it. Maybe you should try different things in the bedroom (or wherever you end up having sex) to spice it up and bring some excitement back. True a relationship can survive without one of these components, but probably not for long. Good luck.
2006-08-25 05:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The little things definately matter. Sex is always more frequent in the early stages. It is up to the two of you to keep that going by making it new and fresh. It may never be like it was, but it should change for the better, may be less frequent, but more meaningful. It's not quantity it quality!
2006-08-25 12:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by btdt65 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a mixture of both......The little things are much more important but without a healthy sex life things may get difficult.
2006-08-25 12:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by lttlbt22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋