we broke up more than a yr ago..actually he just left town and didnt call me untill a month later to let me know that he had left me for some 38 yr old(nothing against older women) crack whore...needless to say i was left dumbfounded and crushed....why would he call me out of the random blue if his life is supposedly going so good with her...and why did it hurt my heart so bad...i thought i was over it....id like to know how other people have dealt with similar situations...how do i get this out of my head....im so depressed today....
2006-08-25 04:58:31 · 11 answers · asked by stephaniech24 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
More than likely he has regret about how he left you---he may be sorry for that---but does not necessarily want to come back. I asked myself this same question when I had broke up with an old girlfriend---why did I call her back? Love has a funny way of changing forms--it never leaves--but it seldom stays the same even if you and that person are still together. I learned to stay away from questions that would tempt my jealousy and tried to take everything how it was given to me--no assumptions--a call was just a call and so on--that way, when I was ready to accept both my and her actions, I was able to 'get it out of my head'...I hope everything works out...
2006-08-25 05:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by George A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man leaves you for another woman the best revenge is to let her keep him.
Feel bad for today. Wallow in your self pity and cry and feel sad and miss "what could have been." Then tomorrow - get up and move on.
Don't talk to him as that is the way he will weasle his way back into you life. Give him nothing, especially not your time. Do things that you enjoy whether it is going out with friends or watching a funny TV show. When he calls, hang up or don't answer if you know it is him. If he shows up, be on your way out. Be a "B" if necessary, but keep him out of your life.
Just be thankful that you are done with this loser and realize that you don't want a repeat of the last year. Be happy that you are free to look for someone worth your time. Smile and move on.......
2006-08-25 07:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The irony of life is (as I see), when you are breaking up, only the best of the times come to mind. Although otherwise the bad portions keep your mind occupied. Part of it may be that you are habitual of having him around and you have not tried to get over him.
As I see, you are too good for him. I, personally had to see a shrink to figure such things out, but logic seems to be getting back. That could be the way for you too.
2006-08-25 05:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by caughtin2minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say I know how you feel because I don't. But it sounds like you really cared for him and he let you down. What he did was horrible and sometimes it only feels right to feel bad for yourself and do nothing. However the best revenge on anyone who has hurt you is not to forget them but to remember what they did and still go on living, loving, and being happy. You have my prayers and may the Lord bless you in every aspect if your life.
2006-08-25 05:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Spaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts you because you still love him. It's been 4 years since I broke up with my ex and I still miss her.(doesn't hurt anymore)is she calls) time will heal and make you more careless about your ex boyfriend. Try dating other people. Remeber, you miss him because you have not been able to love someone else. maybe it's too soon for you to date other people, but trust me, once you find someone else, you will not think as much about him.
Why did your exboyfriend call you?
he probably felt bad about leaving you without notice, but don't forget he is an A SS HO LE!
2006-08-25 05:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Saul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He called out of the blue b/c hinesight is 20/20. He realizes the error he made. Love hurts. It doesn't get any easier either as you get older. The best way is out of sight out of mind trick. Ignore him. You will get stronger, and you will not suffer along w/him,. Remember misery loves company-
2006-08-25 05:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Col 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not over him.
Give yourself 2 weeks for every month you were together.
Dont take him back.
Find a hobby, cut your hair-much differently than you normally would wear it AND change the color, start wearing jewelry and fashionable clothes and shoes, go to a tanning bed, bleach your teeth and smile constantly.
ALL of this WILL help.
2006-08-25 05:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take his calls any more. He is either a control freak (which works) or he's keeping you on the hook as an option if current gf doesnt work. Or maybe he just likes keeping you warm and waiting...
2006-08-25 05:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be depressed; be exceedinly glad that you haven't done anything dumb, like get back together with the jerk. He's taking advantage of you again. If nothing else, remember "crack/whore" don't equate with "reunite."
2006-08-25 05:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by taraytarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally understandable. The heart does not understand time like the head does. It sounds like you really loved him, and I am so sorry for your loss. Please be gentle with yourself.
2006-08-25 05:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋