2006-08-25 04:50:57 · 23 answers · asked by zippy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
No. When two people are in love, there is a thing called "interdependence" where you each respect and honor each other's choices and integrate them into your lives.
Choosing one's friends is a control issue, not what a loving mate would do.
2006-08-25 04:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Finnegan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't call that love. I call it being controlling. On the other hand, your mate could be doing it unintentionally, not knowing how u feel about the matter. I can understand them not wanting u to get hurt, but u should sit down and explain to them that they're actually doing the hurting by treating u like u're incompetent of handling certain things like choosing your own friends. But make sure u listen to your mate's point of view as well b/c they may see some things in your friends of choice that u don't.
2006-08-25 05:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by survival_girl_struggle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you tend to make horrible decisions, then yes it can be beneficial to have a partner who helps spare you some stupid mistakes. But if your honey has messed up their own life, I wouldn't let them make too many choices. Sometimes people need help when selecting friends. I wouldn't like my wife to be friends with certain people (old lovers, new people who are hot for her, abusive people...) Those kinds of 'friends' just spell TROUBLE for a relationship no matter how much trust you both have. I think it's part of a bond in a relationship to weed out the things that can harm, threaten or bring discord to you both. I trust my wife, but that would change if she did things to me that were disrespectful or sneaky, and I'd be watchful. When those things happen in a relationship, you can expect your honey will want to have a say in who you spend time with, and that's fair.
2006-08-25 04:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEAVENS NO! That's called true control and manipulation honey. If someone does that I suggest you seek help fast, he is a dangerous person, and I am not kidding here. Don't wait, don't talk to him about it, get help for yourself and wake up to the fact that this is NOT healthy at all.
2006-08-25 04:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are a follower and have a bad selection of friends. For example , if your friends are wh0res & drug users I can understand him trying to choose your friends. Otherwise, he is trying to control you. Trust me...it only gets worse!
2006-08-25 04:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by sweetestthing 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No that is not true love. Your mate is controlling you and trying to isolate you. Run away!
2006-08-25 04:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by purple4k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. What you are talking about is control. In true love, each person lets the other be just who he or she is, doesn't try to control what he or she does, and loves him or her any way.
2006-08-25 05:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's abuse. He is taking away your basic human rights. At a gut level you know that this is wrong. Run, honey, and do it now. Your mate is a very troubled and disturbed person..
2006-08-25 05:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, communication is best in my opinion. But, if you like the whole domination thing, then it might work for you. I don't know how much you like your independence. You might have to think on this one yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-25 04:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Metacoma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make the mistake of letting someone make choices for you. You will become dependent and will forget how to make choices for yourself. If you are already in deep talk to someone who can help you. Sometimes someones personality can soak us right up and we find it hard to remember we are individuals.
2006-08-25 05:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋