One of them is more quiet and doesn't have much emotion He also gives up on me a lot if something goes wrong, he is very nice and respectable but cheated on me..I feel like my love for him is fake..The other one is outspoken and will ride wit me through anything he tells me whats on his mind and loves me to death and i can tell its real love... but we had problems in the past with cheating and him stealing from me...I forgave him and my love for him is so strong in my heart I can feel it..its amazing...I feel like I should give the first one a chance but I'm so deeply in love with the other..What should I do?
2006-08-25 04:48:46 · 15 answers · asked by New New 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The second has had a drastic change with his life...He goes to church now and he is going to get saved..That's why its so hard for me to let go because he has changed his ways..The first one is still the same person
2006-08-25 05:19:58 · update #1
The 2nd One Sounds More Nice And Emotional I Would Pick Him
2006-08-25 04:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay girlfriend, it sounds that you're dealing with double jeopardy here.
On one hand you've got the quiet storm and on the other, you've got a raging tidal wave. If you're trying to decide between two tragedies (because that's what both of them are), just go with the one that you truly love I guess. I'm not good at choosing between 2 cheaters because I do know that old folks say, if he lies, he'll cheat, if he cheats, he'll steal, and if he steals, he'll kill. So, with that being said, I don't do liers, cheaters, or thieves.
Just think about what you can handle. Some people can, some people can't. I'm just one of those people who won't put up with too much, especially before marriage. You haven't committed to "for better or worse" with a boyfriend. You've got time to find Mr. Right, I'm sure. Take it from me, I'm in the middle of a divorce right now. Take your time and don't settle for less than what you know you deserve. It may be hard to do, but it's time to be picky about who we settle down with these days. Everyone's not 'til death do us part material.
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-08-25 12:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by DD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on, they both cheated on you, and one stole from you. Trust me, I speak from decades of watching my
female relatives get into bad relations. If they cheat, they will with 80% accuracy do so again.
This behavior is unacceptable. I have heard "He hurts me but we're in love." many times. Unless they went through some major life changing ordeal that made them change their ways, (unlikely), they will likely just keep doing the same.
Good guys are out there, don't just "settle".
2006-08-25 11:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Paklo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a bit tricky, but I say date them both and have a lot of fun. Eventually one, the other or both will find out, relationships will end and you are free to find a new guy!
The way I see it is that if you can't pick right now you either need more time deciding or neither one of them are good enough to be that ONE.
2006-08-25 11:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by simianfever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out the problem in Classic Corporate method. Draw up an Excel spreadhseet and have guy#1 in one column and guy #2 in second column, then list the pros and cons of each relationship...the one with the most pros wins and deserves investment.
2006-08-25 11:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mike V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, or if you were me, I'd drop them both and give myself a chance to meet someone who didn't cheat on me and steal from me. I don't see how you could have any kind of future with either one of these jokers.
2006-08-25 11:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the long run, it will never work out with either!!! so i would stay friends if you must and give it time...you will find someone else and then you won't have to be asking this question! wouldn't that feel nice to know the answer instead of asking people on this thing???
2006-08-25 11:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between two cheating guys? Dump both of them, find a third one and hope you will live happily ever after (without cheating!).
2006-08-25 11:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by mithras78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself more time to decide. Both of them seem to be bad choices. You hesitate between two cheaters and what you expect you will get .... .I think you deserve better choice.
2006-08-25 11:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they both cheated on you before, i wouldn't give neither of them a 2nd chance, darlin' there's plenty of fish in the sea, so if u catch a bad one, go search for another
2006-08-25 11:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by boo_786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋