Some of the people I have met in different occasions either relatives/ friends/ strangers have had inappropriate attitude towards me. There behaviour was with no respect or taking advantage of me. And what really hurts is that they just act as they are friendly but practically its the other way around. This is really eating be up inside. I don't respond to them at that moment because they are either relatives which I don't want to break the relationship as there will be a grudge for ever which I can't tolerate that either or they are friends which my parents are also in contact with their parents. As for the strangers I might have to argue with which isn't worth it either.
2006-08-25 04:37:03 · 12 answers · asked by Tim 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You were more than likely brought up to keep calm and never to lose your temper. You have now taken that to a new level, that you cannot even offend someone. Other people can read this, especially relatives and take liberties with you. It is about time that you spoke your mind without losing your temper, but tell them what you really think. So they don't like it, stuff them. So your parents will take offense, hard luck. Explain to them why you are going to change your attitude and they will be expecting the problem when it arises. Be a man Tim, make the worm bite back......................
2006-08-25 04:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature tends to do things we don't understand.And in life there will always be people who don't understand you and at times doesn't care to understand you.I like to call this the sand paper test,meaning Life will present some people that can (so to speak) rub us the wrong way.
Given that scenario (and this my sound crazy) but sometimes the trouble we get in life can also be some of the best learning experiences we can have.
people can rub you the wrong way by the words they say or their actions,and it's really sanding you to perfection.
This is really the case when you've done nothing to warrant the treatment you received.
In the Bible it say "iron sharpens iron"
Have you ever wondered how someone is so loving,or caring? A lot of times it's because of the hurt they received.I'm here to tell you,you have two choices,
one: you can react back to them in the same fashion they dealt with you.....OR you can rise above it,forgive them..
because a lot of times they don't know what their doing.
Life is always looking for an over comer like you,a person being perfected out of adversity(smile)
Your in a good position to be an influence to someone who may go through similar situations in your future.
I know it hurts,and i know you can get frustrated however i pray your faith won't fail.......Stay encouraged
God bless
2006-08-25 12:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by tomio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family can be your worst enemy at times, but sweetie, until you learn to stand up for yourself, people will always push you around and control you. You can stand up for yourself but still be respectful at the same time. Don't every be anyone's fool or go-get-it-girl. If a person see that they can boss you can tell you what to do then they aren't going to stop until you stop them. A person can only do what you allow them to do and a person can only talk to you in a degrading manner if you allow them too. A person will only treat you bad if you allow it. Don't continue to allow it. Pray for them and sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel about it. What could it hurt? Maybe the will stop saying anything to you which that would be a good thing from the way you say they treat you anyway. God Bless you
2006-08-25 12:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be putting off an appearance of no confidence. People can sense who to take advantage of because they just know who wont stand up for themselves. You don't have to have a confrontation about it, just start standing up for yourself. If someone disrespects you, you can either "jokingly" disrespect them back or out right tell them, in private, that you deserve their respect and they need to start treating you right. Also, when people start asking you to do things that would put you out, just say no. Once you learn to say no to others, it really gives you a freedom you can't imagine! Soon they'll stop asking you to do things because you wont do them anyway.
2006-08-25 11:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt think too deep in what people say or do to you. maybe they just dont know it bothers you and they think they arent doing anything wrong.
how old are you? if your between 13yrs and 16yrs you might be going through some hormone changes. dont get embarassed here. its perfectly natural.
you might see others being mean to you, but they might not be.
i think you should try not to be around too many people for a couple of days. try really hard to relax and calm down. remember everytime you are near someone that you can take it in. anything they say, just take it and put it to good use. if they make fun of you or put you down, just dont worry about it. it will make you stronger.
so maybe you should try to relax a little. when people do this to me i just ignore them. i try really hard not to let it get to me. you do the same.
if this doesnt work and people are mean to you just becus then have talks with each person. ask them why they do that to you? ask them to stop or you'll end communication with them.
2006-08-25 11:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have taught my son to always speak his mind if he thinks he is being treated unfairly or disrespectfully. You should speak your mind as well. You don't have to be hateful or rude. Just tell the relative/friend/stranger..."I feel uncomfortable with the way you are treating me. Please try to respect my feelings." and if they laugh at you tell them that it is a sad state of affairs that they can make a joke out of something that you take seriously.
I don't care what age you are you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
2006-08-25 11:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are involved in a toxic situation where you are playing the victim. If you dont like the way you are treated, you should say something,,, nicely...if they stop caring for you because you wont let them mistreat you, then do you really want a relationship?
2006-08-25 11:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by nanacakes06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what reason they might have to behave like this, but you definitely need to stand up for yourself.
Show them how self-confident you are. Even when you greet them, do it in such a way that you are doing it just for the sake of doing it, and that you don't care about what they think, or who they are. You don't have to fight with them, just be indifferent towards them. Indifference will kill their pride.
You have to be proud of yourself! Don't let the others treat you like they shouldn't .
Be self-confident!
Best of luck
2006-08-25 11:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry buddy there are such people around. U have to respect them if they r elders and treat nicely when they r peers or younger, but u have to show ur reacctions to them as soon as they try to takeover u and see to it that they r caught unaware this will embares them and they will try to leave u alone. also let them know that no one can use u.
2006-08-25 11:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by vaishak s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are to uptight. Like my family, unless they are picking on you, they don't like you. We all have a sense of humor and maybe they don't know how you feel. Have you tried to tell them? Don't wait until you resent everyone! Talk about it.
2006-08-25 11:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by tab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋