I mean when sex gets bad in the bedroom, is it womans fault? is my husband cheating on me because he doesnt sleep with me as often as he use to and perfers to jake him self off watching some huchie mamas on porn sites?
2006-08-25 04:28:19 · 10 answers · asked by daysofmylife1 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
well i did have our precious daughter months ago, but i lost all the weight and back to my normal self. i do wear lingerie but he cant stand it because he has alergy on silk & polyester. I hope hes not cheating but i just dont understand why his dicky doesnt get up on me but does on ANAL web sites (which he doesnt get from me since i got a tear from him beint to rought & i bleed)
2006-08-25 04:48:44 · update #1
Take control of the situation. Initiate sex, let him take the back seat while you take control, how bout having a woman on top for a change, experiment, try out different positions, ask him what he likes about sex and then do it together, dress up sexy, how bout going to the beauty shop and get yourself looking pretty. Apart from the sex life do you have a nagging attitude. Its one thing that men dislike most from women. If you are constantly nagging him or being sarcastic, you know it can be a big turn off for him.
2006-08-25 04:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by ash_m_79 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what the problem is, but ask in a good way not an accusatory way. Sounds like he wants something from you but is afraid to talk about it. Maybe if you explained in a gentle way why you wont do anal then he'd understand. Maybe he'd be more careful if it were tried again. Explain to him how his behavior with the sites hurts you and makes you feel less. I went through this with my ex, but this is not the reason we arent together. both of you need to talk and get your feelings out, it cant be any worse than what you are going through right now.
2006-08-25 12:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by marlenekay4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you enjoying having sex? I mean I know for a woman you have to feel a connection there in order to do so, so if there is no intimate feelings for you then maybe you are having dead sex there and that kind of passes along to him I'm sure.
If he's a selfish snot who just thinks a quick hand lube job and poke is all there is to sex then hey, I would be turned off pretty quick too.
There's a lot involved in getting into the mood!
2006-08-25 11:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a pretty good idea but he is your husband and the fault is not just yours. In fact if he's cheating he's a jerk and that's what jerk do besides jaerking off. Try to spice things up and if he is still in the bathroom more then the bedroom,call me or buy a B&D deluxe model w/rechargable batteries.
2006-08-25 11:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by jewingengleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem with my boyfriend. Luckily I am pretty blunt and ask him whats his deal when this happened to us. It was stress and the fact that he was tired. He works a cabinet maker for a custom cabinet shop. Nearly all the cabinets out weigh him and he works out in the heat and in a hot shop. Think about what your hubby may do for a living? Is it similiar? Have you talked to him about it? One of the most important things in a relationship is communication. Maybe that is the problem.
2006-08-25 11:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by pacifia1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 'hoochie mamas' do you mean pretty girls who have great bodies? Not pasty, fat, lumpy women who have wrecked their bodies with children. Men are visual creatures, they like big firm boobs and tight little bodies adorned in lingerie. Check yourself in the mirror...you might be the problem. Good luck.
2006-08-25 11:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never one sided. after having sex with the same partner for years, the sex frequency will drop unless both of you make an effort to reinvent yourself time and time again. you need freshness, fantasy and role play....otherwise like your husband it's just much easier to masturbate to get it over with.
2006-08-25 11:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhap's he is too tierd for the full monty ?
2006-08-25 11:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you gained weight?
Do you vary positions?
Do you initiate sex or is it always him?
Do you maintain good hygene?
Do you talk to him?
2006-08-25 11:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a dick.....
2006-08-25 11:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋