If you found out your husband lied about his past?

Question

I found out my husband lied about how many times he had been married before me, he also lied about his daughter having an illness she does not have and told me he had adopted 2 children with one of his wives and they are really his, not adopted. He is now telling me what a piece of garbage I am for digging into his past when it has no relevance to our relationship.
Do you think I should have left it alone?

Answer 1

are you kidding me? how can you go on living your life pretending that all the info you have does not exist?? who knows what else he is lying about ...or not revealing to you because it had no "relevance" to your present relationship? leave his behind...
I am married, and i do not lie about my past....if he asks, i will tell him the truth. And the same goes for my hubby.

good luck living with a liar.

Answer 2

What?? Once a liar always a liar. Damn how can you be married to a man who lied about his KIDS~ That's BLOOD~ Geesh, we can deal with it (lies) to some sort of degree; Now had he said he mother will not let me see them; it will sit a little better; But to say he adopted them is SAD and DUMB~ girl it will make me second guess the whole marriage cause who in the hell wants to marry a guy and he has been married 4 times before~ Makes the mood go away~ And you should not be searching up his dirty laundry~ Makes you feel like the marriage is based on lies. Damn ask him has he had a HIV test and what was the results? I am serious cause he can lie about saying he took it or saying he has no STD's. Girl you go u FBI~

Answer 3

these lies seem serious to me. I must say I am separated and I have lied about being single, but it was just to people who had nothing to do with my life, I would never lie about soemthing this important to a partner. People tend to hide what they think is bad, but it seems there are too many lies about important things. IT IS RELEVANT!! After marriage I found out my husband had been in jail twice, I was shocked, I asked the reason, three days later he came up with a nice story of the two prisions being unfair, etc I have never known for sure, but it has taken a big toll on us!

Answer 4

I believe every one of us is guilty of some white lie, but your husband must be a psychopath for sure. The lies he has told you are HUGE. They were meant to deceive you into believing he was something he is not - HONORABLE. And for you to have to ask if you should have left it alone shows you have no self-esteem, feelings of worth or confidence. Run Run Run from this man as fast as you can before he destroys you completely and ruins your chances of ever finding happiness with an honest and trustworthy man. And to think he would go as far as belittling you and calling you garbage when he has been caught by you to be nothing more than a fraud. If you need courage to end it - contact his ex-wives for encouragement. I am sure he deceived and abused them the same way he is you. This guy is dangerous and poison for any woman who is unfortunate enough to fall for his charm. You poor thing. I really fee sad for you.

Answer 5

I think you had every right to find out about his past life. I think you should have done it sooner, before you were married, though. Most men do not think the past is important or relevant to your relationship. My husband is the same way. He hates to talk about his past relationships, but he has never hidden anything that important from me. It is almost as if he was scared for you to know. He is probably angry because he did not want you to know and you insisted on finding out. Regardless he had not right to treat you like a peice of garbage. He has lied to you and he has hid things from you and your marriage has been a total lie. He should be the one begging for your mercy. I would give him hell honey. You desserve better. Let him know how big of a **** he is.

Answer 6

I think you had a right to know the man that you were married to. I feel for you that you did not find out this information before you married him. The fact that he lied about his two biological children raises a lot more questions. Why would a married man deny his children to his wife. He could be keeping a lot of other things from you.

Answer 7

No I think you have every reason to be super mad!! Little lies are no big deal but those lies are terrible. Have a talk with him he may never meant to hurt you but thought his real life was too boring and made stories up to make him seem more interesting. Just have a talk with him and ask him why he lied. Tell him you love him the way he is he doesn't have to lie.

Answer 8

I think you should leave him! Why on earth would he lie about kids not being biologically his? And now he is calling YOU names for uncovering his lies? Why isn't he man enough to face up to it and just admit what he did was wrong? He says it all has no relevance to your relationship, but it DOES. It shows you what a liar he is, he says his girl has an illness that she doesn't and for what? Your sympathy? He is a snake. Divorce him!

Answer 9

NO -- this guy is habitual -- and dangerous. If he lied about these IMPORTANT family relationships -- how much more is he covering up and lying about?

If I were you, I would SERIOUSLY consider whether it is healthy for me to remain in this relationship and give a serious consideration to leaving. This is something that is VERY RELEVANT to the relationship and I would FEAR for my life if I remained like that.

Answer 10

he sounds like a sick person to lie about such serious things. if he's lied about all this what makes you think he's telling the truth about anything at all. of course it's your fault because you exposed his lies..he needs to blame someone else for his mistakes. how could you leave this alone? this is simply sick! go get a divorce and leave him in his pool of lies for someone else to drown in. omg! some people are malicious.