please help me i dont get it!!!???guys!!???

Question

im 15 and never had a boy friend before,but i dont get why
though,because guys say stuff like "ur hot" or "lookin good" they also always grab or slap my butt i dont get it please help
but i never been asked out before so why ???

ok i dont let them grab my butt
they just do when they do i get mad at them somtinmes slap them or wont talk
to them 4 a while i dont like it when they do
that!!

Answer 1

Alot of men say your hot, or lookin good, but that only means that they like you sex wise, but when they say something like your buitiful, or pretty, that would mean that they like you for more than looks, but for your personallity, if you have a freind thats a boy, and has been for a while, then, he probably knows your real personallity. If you were to like someone, keep you best friend in thier somewhere, because, you should really know his personallity too. They say opposites attract, but that not all true, but not all wrong, the person you like is probably not going to like the exact same things you like, but is probably or mostlikley going to atleast have a little bit in common. the only thing is..if he likes you back. if you find someone, and you find out that the person likes you back, dont get your hopes up to high on the firt month, because, being a teenager, the person might be still looking for someone else. If he is cheating on you or anything, and you find out, dump him asap, because you always have to dump him before he dumps you. If he dumps you first, than you will be the wreck, crying yourself to sleep, while hes out with someone else, if you dump him first, then you will be left with some confidence to try someone else. So If a guy calls you hot, of sexy, when he walks by, you know hes not for you, and if a guy grabs your ***, then either tell him to stop, or kick him in between(lol)and remember to dump him first!

Answer 2

They might be put off by how many guys pay attention to you. The competition is scary for some. Maybe they think that a good looking girl must already have a boyfriend, even if he doesn't go to the same school as you. Maybe they feel safe around you since you don't make demands on them. They feel free to flirt and play wihout having to do anything about it.

If you are allowing guys to grab and paw you, they may be getting the impression that you are easy, and have been around the block a time or two. While there are guys that would jump at the chance to find out just how far he can go, there are many more that don't want a floozy as their girlfriend, but maybe as a one nighter.

Just ask a guy that you like out, the worst he can do is say no. Stop waiting on them to come to you.

Answer 3

First of all, you CANNOT allow them to treat you that way. Making comments is one thing and if it bothers you then speak up, but you DO NOT have to accept somebody unwantedly putting their hands on you, they have no right to touch you. I think that sometimes when guys act immature and make comments but don't pursue you, it's because they are intimidated. I had the same problem most of my life, I think that most of my boyfriends were friends first, guys for some reason think that if a girl is really pretty, she must be stuck up, or that they wouldn't have a chance. The fact that nobody is asking you out doesn't help because then even guys who WANT to ask you out are afraid to, because they never see you talking to any guys, and figure it's probably because your too stuckup. It's all working against you. What you should do is, start talking to people. If your shy, alot of time people mistake that for snottiness too. If there is a guy you like, go talk to him, ask about a class, or what music he likes. If guys are this intimidated by you you must be pretty, so act confident, but be very friendly and approachable, but do not tolerate guys disrespecting you. Once people see how nice you really are I' m sure you'll find a nice, cute guy with enough confidence to ask you out, and if not maybe you'll get tired of waiting and ask a guy out. that is perfectly acceptable and maybe if you do that you'll meet more guys that you are interested in. Good Luck!:D

Answer 4

I am sure it's not you, if guys are saying your hot and slapping your butt then what is wrong. Maybe they think your not interested in them. Try flirting, not to much don't come off as a little sl*t, just give them a signal like wink at them or next time one slaps your butt say you wish... tease baby tease and they will drop to there knees for you

Answer 5

maybe because you allow guys to grab and slap your butt, you don't look like girlfriend material. a guy won't take you seriously if you allow him to just grab your body like that. Respect yourself, and maybe a guy will take you serous enough to actually see u as girlfriend material. Also, you're only 15.. You should be focusing on school, not having a bf...

Answer 6

Maybe because you are fifteen. And for guys to be doing such things, that is bad enough. if you want a boyfriend just be patient it will happen some day. You are to young to worry about this right now. Make friends and make sure that you are respected as a young teen.

I talk to my daughter about these things and we both agreed that she is to young to have a boyfriend, but she can have friends just the same.

Answer 7

When people grab or slap your butt, they do not like you. They just see you as meat. Maybe, you should be around guys who see you as more than meat if you want a real boyfriend.

Answer 8

You could be a symbol of ...to them.A boy would like a girl who just would be his and not an object of beauty and related stuff to all .Yet to find a man who is comfortable if a girl is eyed by many and is a centre of attraction.Also if you give an expression of come hither or touch me not...either ways you are in trouble.Potray dignitywith a tint of flirtatious color to your personality.I hope this helps you..
Thanks

Answer 9

try to find out how u project urself..are u uptight if boys get colose,or dismissive?Is it 'coz u seem more of a good friend people would like to have and not toy?Dont worry,maybe ur a cut above the usual..relax and wait for the opportune moment...its rigth round the corner!!

Answer 10

Start today and rebuild your reputation. Instead of being so "pleasing" to the guys, why don't you put a stop to their playing with your butt.

Respect yourself and you will command respect from others. And you will be in great demand. As for the boys, they haven't reached your level of undeerstanding yet. Be patient.