I am 45, my boyfriend is 32. He will spend every waking moment playing video and computer games. If he isn't working, he will spend from morning till night on the computer playing games (12+ hours). If I ask him to help around the house, he never does it. I will go to work, and ask him to do a few reasonable chores while I'm gone. When I come home, nothing is done and he is playing games. I've tried to have serious talks with him. I am at my wits end. I am becoming resentful.
2006-08-25 04:13:36 · 14 answers · asked by expecting_1_31_2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
RUN! Run now, Run far, Run fast-This guy is never going to grow up!
2006-08-25 04:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you are not alone.I go through the same thing.My husband works 12-14 hours a day and has the weekends off.Hmmm... what does he do on the weekends and when he gets off work comes home and plays video games or on the computer.He dosent do chores either or help with the kids.We have a 3 year old and 6 month old.I am 25 and hes 37.I guess we either live with it or leave lol.Cant change them.
2006-08-25 11:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW -- how immature that at 32, he feels the need to play video games ... that is really sad.
I'd let his laundry back up, not cook meals for him, only wash the dishes and stuff you are using, etc -- and get some counseling help! Yes, you both need to sit down with a neutral party and START the negotiations for help around the house -- especially since you are older and you want some time to relax too.
Seems to me he is treating you poorly -- do you really want to be his servant for the rest of your life? If not, kick that lazy butt to the curb and get on with being single -- because it is SO NOT WORTH it to have to deal with this mess!
2006-08-25 11:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. In the immortal words of Dan Savage, advice columnist extraordinaire, I'd say it's just about time to DTMFA (Dump the motherf***er already).
Does he have a job? An income? Are you supporting him? Paying the rent? If so, you make the rules of the house. If he doesn't abide by them, offer one last ultimatum, then say you're selling his video game system and games to help pay the rent.
He's clearly addicted and can't stop without professional assistance. However, if he's not willing to consider such intervention, DTMFA.
2006-08-25 11:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by chrissyberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a maturing matter, he hasnt quit being a "teen" yet. However, those games can be addictive, it is a serious problem and has broken up many relationships. I have a friend that does the same thing. You need to put it to him, in no uncertain terms, how its gonna be. He's just hurting himself and doesnt seem to realize this just yet. But soon enough, when he realizes that this is a problem and starts to grow up. Like i said, you need to put your foot down and give him an ultimatum about yours and his relationship, its definately time for this! Good luck
2006-08-25 11:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby used to be the same way..he still is addicted to them, but at least he only plays now very early in the morning before I get up, or whenever I am at work. It hurt that he didn't want to spend time w/me and he played HOURS of video games...I think he finally got the picture. I felt kinda stupid telling him I was jealous of a GAME, but it did work, worth a shot.
2006-08-25 11:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I see I;m not alone. My 38yr. old bf does practically the same thing. After work, he plops down in front of the computer or PS2 and thats where he stays until bedtime. On his off days, the same thing..It makes me quite lonely sometimes. Mine does, however work..And I believe if he didn't, I'd be resentful towards him too. If he's not working and helping you then, all he's doing is sitting there running up your light bill....
2006-08-25 11:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 33 and love xbox and ps2. video games are awsome. But there needs to be a line drawn here. You need to draw that line. Is he such an idiot that he dosnt realize that if he does chores around the house, that you would be more likely to accept his hobby? And honestly, it wouldnt take him long to do his chores. Draw the line, then kick him to the curb.
2006-08-25 11:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by scott l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he refuses to pull his weight around the house, what do you need him for? You're better off getting rid of this little boy in a man's body.
2006-08-25 11:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing is ever going to change, leave him. I knew a guy like that about 11 years ago, he is now in his 40's and does not even come out of his room. He is not helping you, he is only going to make things harder for you, Get RID of him
2006-08-25 11:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Big D's Sexy Peach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to grow up and you need to find someone who has time for you,
or try this... Hide all the video games, and turn off the computer... if he is going to act like he is ten, treat him like he is 10!!!
2006-08-25 11:18:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋