He'll ask me for money but I tell him I don't have none because if I give him money he'll keep coming back until all my money is gone. I never get to have spending money in my pockets.
2006-08-25 04:12:10 · 12 answers · asked by Coco 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Someone said it's wrong to lie to my husband. I don't lie to him. I just don't take money out my account. I use an ATM card wherever I go so when he ask if I have money I say "I don't have any on me". That's not a lie cuz I don't carry cash.
2006-08-25 04:37:33 · update #1
BTW, I have talked to him about it. When I do he stops and then I guess forgets and get right back to spending. That's why his going to do direct deposit in an account I only have the card to so I cangive him an allowance.
2006-08-25 04:41:55 · update #2
No Girl! It is not wrong, i dont tell my husband about my extra money. He'd spend it on car stuff! Thats the only way i'd be able to save money is if he doesnt know. He gives me money every payday (i have my own job to, but am in charge of all bills) and the money i have left over after paying bills, grocery shopping, and daycare expenses.. i just put away in another account (smart to have more than one!) just in case of an emergency. You never know whats going to happen and when you will need money..!
2006-08-25 04:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyedkorean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd do more than just hide the money -- I'd set up separate accounts for yourself because it is not worth it to continue to be married to a person with financial abuse problems, and he DOES have financial problems.
This is a big buster in most relationships -- one of the partners spends like money is being printed down in the bedroom while the other is more realistic. Start with counseling -- if he REFUSES -- then that is very telling about his commitment to the relationship -- which is none.
So go for counseling -- and if he does not, then go yourself to help you understand WHY you would be involved or interested in a person with financial problems in the first place. Then get ready and start divorce proceedings, because it will NEVER get any better.
2006-08-25 11:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not only a smart but great action that you are taking. Never tell him anything about your money, or tell that you have it somewhere. If the marriage does not work out he could take all of your money (unless both of you signed a prenup) Anywho,, Take charge of being the accountant and administrating your and His money as well. It is clear that he cannot control or budget well enough if he keeps running out of money.
I hope both of you can work something out, this could be a pontential factor towards divorce if it escalades.
2006-08-25 11:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by newbie wife 6/16/07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! It's wrong to LIE to your husband, but there's always a way to work things out. Explain to him his issue. Does he have his own spending money? OR instead of lying tell him that you don't have to give, it's for something.
2006-08-25 11:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by v_palmer985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
Keep your money in your bank account where it belongs. My mother told me to always put something away for a rainy day and also never to let your right hand know what your left hand is doing or in this case holding. Both of you can't be broke!
2006-08-25 11:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's smart to hide money from people like that. They'll spend it and never have anything to show for it.
2006-08-25 11:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. In fact, you should prepare for retirement and just put money aside otherwise you will find yourself old and gray with no plan or money for retirement.
2006-08-25 11:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not wrong. It is self preservation.
If you give him your money, eventually both of you will be penniless and probably homeless.
Why must he ask you for money? Can't he work for it? Is he a bum?
2006-08-25 12:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong at all!!! I always advised my girlfriends to have their own saving cos you never what is going to happen in the future...
2006-08-25 11:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by pn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ITS NOT BAD TO HIDE MONEY FROM HIM
WHY DONT U JUST GIVE HIM AN ALLOWANCE EVERY SO AND SO
2006-08-25 11:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋