14 and pregnate?

Question

im 14 and might be pregnate from my best friend.hes mad at me and doesn't wanna talk to me im so scared is it my fault?he wants me to get an abortion but im against it what should i do?

Answer 1

The best and least selfish thing you can do for you baby is put him/her up for adoption. You are a baby yourself and shouldn't even be thinking about sex. It is your fault for having sex, but it is his fault too and he should take responsibility. He's obviously too immature to handle this. Go to your parents or a counselor and get info about adoption. If you abort, it is murder. Plain and simple. Please don't go that route. There are thousands and thousands of married couples who are dying to have a baby. They have money, stability and tons of love. I pray for you, dear. Check out this site for great adoption information.

www.plannedparenthood.com

God Bless you and the baby!

Answer 2

Hi. I can tell you that abortion is not the answer. I know that it may sound so easy but your conscious will eat you alive. The baby is a gift and has a purpose. Do your parents know? If he doesn't want to talk to you that's fine. I pray that you will have the help that you need and also that you make the right decision. Abortions can't be used as a birth control. What happens if you get pregnant again.......will you abort? If you are how far are you? Where will you get the $ for an abortion. If you are, the child deserves to live!!! We learn by our mistakes, your life will obviously be different but this baby should have a chance at life. You never know what this child will grow up to be. Choose Life it's the best decision. As far as how he is treating you: Value who you are. Don't just give yourself up to anybody that says they love you. How old is the guy? Your body is precious and shouldn't just be given up so easily. Once you learn to value you, you will guard who and what you let enter into your vessel. Your are priceless don't settle for pennies.

Answer 3

talk to an adult that you can trust....there are other opions that an abortion....adoption or getting help from loved ones IF you think you can handle being a mother as far as the guy goes if hes going to get mad and blame it on you then you plobably better of without him because we all know it takes two... i know everyone is giving you a hard time about having sex at 14 and these people are probably older they need to face reality....if your not be more careful next ....p.s. im 17 with a new born and it wont be easy but i love my daughter more than anything in the world so i make it work

Answer 4

You're not the only one thats had to go through this..I am also against abortion, but think of your options. How do you think your parents would react? If you think they wouldn't be understanding then wait to tell them until you know. I thought I was pregnant when I was 14 and I told my parents and they helped me to find out if I was, they weren't happy BELIEVE ME, but parents are there to help, even if the father of the child won't. He doesn't have the right to tell you to get an abortion if hes not even willing to own up to his part in this. There are many, many options for you. You can have the baby and go for child support and get on welfare and food stamps. That may not be the "ideal life" for some people, but don't think about yourself, think about your baby. A lot of people talk badly about people on welfare, but just because your on welfare doesn't make you any less smart or make you trashy. Welfare was designed to help people in your condition. It's hard and scary and difficult and your confused and don't know what to do, but if you take your time and really figure out all of your options, you might see that its not as hard as you think. People always say you should wait until your ready, but these things happen and its not any one person's fault. If you are, I would say the best thing to do is go to your parents like an adult. Tell them flat out, "I'm pregnant, I'm not having an abortion, and I hope you will help me through this, but if not, at least help me explore my options." And if they flip out, let them. Keep your head up and eventually they will get over it and want to be a part of you and your childs lives. The most important thing to remember is that you DO have options and you shouldn't let the babies father or anyone else tell you what to do. It's your body and only you can make the decision.

Answer 5

Hunny, you are 14. Your body is not fully matured to have a baby. If you are against abortions, You need to get to the Doctor right away, so that way you and your baby are took care of properly. I know at 14 years of age you also will not be able to take care of a baby while in school it will be so hard. You need to only concentrate on you and "if your pregnant." You also Need to TELL you PARENTS NOW! It may be the hardest thing, in the world, but they will help you through it, you are their little girl. They only want what is best for her right? So go tell them. Alright, good luck. If you need anyone to talk to you can talk to me.

Answer 6

Talk to your parents, it may be hard, but being only 14 you can not go through this alone. Tell them that you want to have the baby. If they don't want you to, you still can. You are in control of your body when it comes to this, no one can force you to get an abortion. There are programs out there to help you. If your parents wig out, call social services. Tell them your situation. Remember, there is always help out there. If you decide to have the baby, but don't think you want to raise it look into adoption. A lot of times people who adopt babies are willing to pay for all your medical expenses. you could even look into open adoption, where you would give the baby up for adoption, but you would still be able to be a small part of the childs life. This may be a good option for you if you don't think you are ready to be a mom yet.

Answer 7

Sweetie, you need to start out first by finding out for sure if you are pregnant. Go to the doctor or the school nurse and have a pregnancy test done. Secondly, you need to talk to your parents, and your doctor about your options. I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I don't believe in abortion. However, I can see where carrying a baby to term would be hard to give up. Explore your options with your doctor and your parents, and make the best decision for both you and this baby. Good luck to you sweetie, my prayers are with you.

Answer 8

You should STOP HAVING SEX. You're way too young (and obviously too irresponsible) to be having sex. If you had unprotected sex within the last few days, you should get Plan B. This works for 72 hrs and it's NOT an abortion. It's a high dose or birthcontrol pills that will prevent ovulation (your egg dropping). If you are pregnant and don't want to get an abortion, please consider putting this child up for adoption! You and your boyfriend are NOT ready to raise a child! Good luck and if you're not pregnant USE TWO FORMS OF PROTECTION if you MUST have sex!!!

Answer 9

Well, first of all it's not your fault that he is mad at you. He helped to in the process, so he shouldn't be mad at you when, in reality, it's his fault (if you know what I mean). And the only reason I think he wants you to get an abortion is because he doesn't want to help take care of the baby. And if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't get an abortion just becuae my best friend told me to. All I can say is listen to your heart and do what it says. Hope my advice helps!

Answer 10

first of all....did you two even have sex?
secondly, if you did, and really think you are pregnant, forget about him for now.
third, you need to tell your parents ASAP, even though it will be the hardest thing you have ever had to do.
Because you are so young, and your body is so immature, you need to see a dr as soon as possible for your health and the baby's health.
Please do not get an abortion if you can avoid it. There are tons of couples who cannot have children that would love to adopt your child.
You can worry about your "Best Friend" later