It seems that almost every woman I like turns out to be a lesbian. And it's not just that that's what's they're telling me either. It started like I'll go find her to talk to her, and she's actively being a lesbian with another woman, and I was surprised. Now it's beginning to be formulaic.
What spirit did I offend? Should I plant flowers on an Native American burial ground, hold a seance what? :)
Seriously though,..... I'll take, advice, harsh criticism, and jokes but, no foreign currency or credit cards.
2006-08-25 03:19:53 · 15 answers · asked by Paklo 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
This is just speculation, Okay? Perhaps there is some subtle characteristic or mannerism common to lesbians that you are attracted to. The trait could be in some or all women, but maybe it is more prevelent in the gay community. It could be a subtle way of walking, acting, talking. Who knows?
People follow certain patterns. That is why some women repeatedly find men who mistreat or beat them all their lives.
If my theory turns out to be true, then all you need to do is find the one woman who attracts you that is not gay. I think it is great that you haven't given up. Many men would have become bitter and resentful towards all women. Instead of pressing on, they make excuses, whine, revile, and stay home.
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2006-08-25 03:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it's you. I just think that there are many more practicing lesbians these days. Not only is being a lesbian no longer taboo, it is kind of trendy. Of course, there are those who simply truly are. However, I believe there are a bunch of women who aren't really lesbians, they just don't want to deal with a man and can get most (more?) of what they are looking for in a relationship from other women. They will come around when their biological clock kicks in.
As far as being attracted to them, generally one is drawn towards people who have similar interests. Personally I share more common interests with lesbian types than I do with "girly girls". I once played in a band with a lady who is one of the true "I was born that way" lesbians. We are not talking "bull dyke" here, but a very attractive down to earth girl. We were great friends. It was kind of fun to go out chasing women with her. Unfortunately, one of the harsh realities is that, being a women herself, she was much more successful at it than I was ;).
2006-08-25 10:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK here's a true story. In college my next door neighbor was a lesbian and very masculine. She had a male friend from high school who was gay and very feminine. Eventually they figured out that they were in love with each other and got married and had a marriage in every sense of the word.
So the moral of the story is that skin is skin, it's what's inside that matters.
Perhaps you are drawn to lesbians cuz they seem unattainable to you?
Stop going to gay bars. Go places where heterosexuals congregate instead.
2006-08-25 10:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lesbians are often attracted to girly guys - I'm not saying that you are gay, just that you probably look and act as if you might be a bit of all right dressed up as a tart - here's my advice - don't change anything cause there are lots of straight girls who fancy a guy who has potential with lacy undergarments but can still mow the lawn like a man when called upon... if you get my meaning
2006-08-25 10:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by litch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry so much about a great 'cosmic joke'
I think you actually gravitate to certain personalities which is why it's a common happening for you.
Whatever that attracts you to them is likely what attracts other women to them too.
I know it's kind of a general description but you need to figure out what you're looking for versus what's you're seeing in them.
Not the best advice but I hope it helps.
2006-08-25 10:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by David W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the lesbian night clubs and go to other ones.
2006-08-25 10:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by digital genius 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a dating site. Then you'll know the sexual orientation of any woman before you meet her.
2006-08-25 10:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by 006 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know...
If you got a sex change operation and became a lesbian yourself you'd be so set, my man.
2006-08-25 12:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Muley Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you meeting these girls? In a lesbian bar? Lol. Poor thing.
2006-08-25 10:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by Yoruba 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm no lesbo, I promise.
Give another girl a chance, that is, after you recoup from this eye-opening episode.
2006-08-25 11:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋