What makes your marriage work and how long have you been married??
2006-08-25 03:14:16 · 14 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love, Trust and open communication are the three keys to a successful marriage.
2006-08-25 03:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married a little over a year now, and I think there are a lot of things to consider when thinking about what makes a happy marriage.
1. We dated for a year, were engaged for 3 before we tied the knot.
2. We have always, ALWAYS been honest with each other... you need to be willing to be so transparent, even when it may hurt (trust).
3. Be willing to try different things, either hanging out or in the bedroom too.
4. Be very willing to forgive AND forget... that's a huge one.
5. Realize that when you first fell in love with him, "that's when you loved him the least." ...positive perspective that one day you can look back and say, yes, I definitely loved him then, but I love him sooo much more now. :)
6. Find a balance of doing fun things and important things together, like softball team and paying bills, but also take time apart with friends.
7. Be spontaneous. Usually those times make some of the best memories!
8. ALWAYS be on their side when it comes to other people.
9. Be sure you have really discussed your expectations of life together.
10. NEVER assume anything- always, always double check.
and lastly, but probably one of the more important ones, NEVER go to bed angry. Ever. It sucks.
:D I loooooove being married to my hubby!
2006-08-25 10:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Adje J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never been married but I have heard the best piece of advice for a long and happy marriage is to always keep things spicy. Never do the same thing over and over again, do what your partner wants, and talk and don't hold your own for long periods of times. Talk a lot, trust each other, and respect and don't ignore your partner for long periods of times.
These are the basic things to keep a marriage happy, and remember no matter how weird are the sexual fantasies of the partner just do it and grim and bare it.
2006-08-25 10:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 7 years.
We got married when I was 20 years old.
The key has been communication!! HANDS DOWN!
Without communication you don't have anything.
It is not as easy as it sounds though. It has taken my husband and I a long time to get to the wonderful point in our marriage.
2006-08-25 10:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband for 14 years and I have been married 12. It works because of a few reasons. #1 We don't want to start all over again getting another person used to us. #2 We have children, and we know no one else will love them as much as we do. #3 We rather spend the money that a divorce would take on a trip to Maui.
2006-08-25 10:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read in Readers Digest one lady was celebrating many many years of marriage and a young unmarried friend asked of her, her secret.
The old lady replied that on her wedding day she had made a mental note of ten things that her spouse could do wrong that would be forgiven.
The unmarried woman asked what those ten items were.
The old lady replied " I never did get round to making the list, but whenever anything went wrong I said 'that goes on the list' ".
2006-08-25 10:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bill(56 yrs old) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Aloni
I have red a book called:Five love languages for married PPL.
1st.Gifts(no comments)
2nd.Love words(no comments)
3rd.quality time ( a time you choose to spend with ur partner, in this time you have nothing else to do but to be with him and u focus only on him)
4th.serving ur partner( this usually works for husbands i mean they help in the house works but u can use it too :) )
5th.touch and sex ( well no comments here but keep in mind that its not all making love i mean some time a light kiss will tell how much u love him better than 3 hours of sex ;) )
2006-08-25 11:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing: Commitment to your identity as a couple. If you identify yourselves as a couple so that there are no his problems or her problems, know his assets or her assets, then every issue is an issue for the two of you together that can only be worked out by the two of you together. Struggles and hard times can actually strengthen the marriage if you are working them out together. You have to be committed to each other. You will be tempted to think of 'I' and 's(he)'. Don't let it happen. Be committed to 'we'.
2006-08-25 10:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2nd marriage been together for 6yrs married one year..to keep a good marriage is to keep doing the things you did for one another when u first met...when i first met my husband he opened my car door..i thought yeah right better enjoy it while it last...till this day he still opens my door..every morning we say i love you..and before we go to bed we say it...we help one another at everything..cleaning,cooking,and i help him with maintenance..we talk to one another not belittle one another..and the #1 secret is to be HONEST
2006-08-25 10:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by twinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been married but i know alot from marriages with my mothers experince .. With out God in anythign it will never last....!
2006-08-25 10:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋