Is this cheating?

Question

My girlfriend is in vacation with her family and she gave me her e-mail address password because she is expecting answer from a university and I was supposed to check if the wrote, but she called me an hour later in a very anxious way and told me she didn’t want me to do it. She sounded so scared that I felt that something was wrong and even though I knew it was wrong I checked her email and I found out she has a internet romance with a Mexican guy and they wrote very explicit things, I saw one of the first emails and she denied having a boyfriend. Since then (yesterday) I’ve felt angry and disappointed. ¿Is this considered cheating?

Please be serious I really need to know.

P.S
I tread her like a queen what else should I do?
Thanks to you all.

We have been together for four years now.

I really love her and I just don´t understand why she did this. I am feeling like garbage because the women I love has a relationship with this ****

Answer 1

Since she called anxiously not wanting you to check it, then yu found this..um Yes I would say that this is cheating, cut her loose and don't hold back be brutal. Obviosly she's selfish. after being treated like a queen by you she should be kissing ur feet not cheating. Print out the email and show it to her ask her what its all about. Tell her you thought it was very suspisous she acted so panicly about u checking her mail after she asked u too..

Tell her that you love her but don't know about trust..If u wanna work things out take a break DO NOT DO NOT call her if she calls ignore her calls, if she is TRUELY sorry she needs to prove to u she can be faithful and she is sorry...and i mean really make her prove it..dont give her the time of day thill she proves its over with her and this mexican and she is only with u.

Answer 2

Yes it is cheating.
You are both in a relationship with each other not someone else.

The fact that she didn't tell you about this person, the fact that she denied having a boyfriend and the fact that she wrote explicit things makes it all cheating.

I am sorry for you and I really hope that you can come to a resolution with all of this.

She is not being sincere and as much as you seem to love her you need to take a step back and look at things.

Confront her in a non confrontational way. Do it in a nice manor and get the facts and her side.

Then you will be able to make and informed decision on where the relationship should go.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Dude,

1. She DID give you her e-mail address password and asked you to check about the university -- so don't feel bad about knowing.

2. If she wanted to be discreet about her "romance" she wouldn't have used this account. Otherwise, she's just foolish. This can't possibly have gone on for very long if the time between her authorizing you to check and her withdrawing the request was only an hour.

3. Do you know what her intentions REALLY are yet? Is this serious or for entertainment-purposes only?

4. Best if you confront her about it and see where you stand. Whether it is cheating or not isn't really the problem... it's where you all went to take it from here.

Answer 4

Hi dude. What is your definition of love? If you love her, you would respect her, cherish her, kiss her. It is normal to feel angry. Don't be disappointed and upset man. Wait for her to come back and talk to her about this question and try to solve this question. Treating her like queen can make her feel boring. Imagine you are a king and people just treat you like a king and give in to you way in every situation. Life will be very boring if you treat her like a queen. You need to learn to be a little naughty and mischievous and give her a little surprise when necessary. If you think that Internet romance is cheating then it is cheating. To me what most important in a relationship is not about whether she is cheating me or not. Things changes every minute. What i care is whether i am there for her when she needs me. If both of us cannot be in a boy girl friend relationship, i will respect her decision. I will want to be her friend in my lifetime. Sometime what you think and what she think may be different. It is okay to quarrel. But try not to over react. Just take it easy. Cheers
Dead Man

Answer 5

You should write the Mexican guy from her Email and Tell him to Piss off! And you should also dump her. It seems like you guys must have some deep issues that you need to work out. Usually when people do things such as your girlfriend is doing then they are lacking somewhere in thier relationship. I don't know what I would do in your situation but I can tell you this...I would find a way to get her back. I mean who knows...if she is willing to be crazy with someone online then she may be willing to cheat on you for real.

Answer 6

Sounds to me like she wanted you to read about her email trist because she could pick up her own emails from anywhere at any time, from the library, from anyone else's pc. Maybe she wanted to see if you would get jealous (not a test you do with those you care for). Maybe she wanted you to get angry. Maybe she wanted to see what you would do if you knew.

Why don't you write the guy back and keep the trist going, make him confused as to who he is talking to. Eventually he will get mad at her if he's trying to start something.

Maybe she realized the error of her ways. But, can you trust her in the future? And, was it anything she really was thinking of pursuing. Remember, that person might just want a visa and is playing her.

Answer 7

Yes I would say so. She most not be serous with you or she would of said that she had a boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with talking to someone like friends but there is when you deny have a boyfriend. That is something that you don't hide unless you are looking for something else. In your shoes, I would be the same way. Maybe it is time to end the relationship.

Answer 8

You want a serious answer, so here it goes.

YES, she is emotionally cheating on you. You did wrong when you saw her mail but anyway she gave you her pass (dumb thing to do).

Do this
Copy the emails to Word, to have evidence.
Then tell a girl in front of her that you do not have a girlfriend, this will start the fire.
Finally when she´s mad show her your evidence and slam it in her face.

Or

Talk nicely to her.
I prefer the first option

Answer 9

Yes its cheating.
No don't dump her.
Yes you have a problem in your relationship but that will be very DIFFICULT to work out.
Yes you might work thing out but you should think very seriously about things first, do you love her? Do you really want to move on?
No you may not be treating her like a queen, that's why she wondered however .....
Yes you did treat her like a queen and she just wants to cheat. Women are funny they will tell you things like "I was just attracted to him".
Yes, its your life and you have to pick the path you want to go down and YES life can be very difficult and there are no easy answers.

Answer 10

Sorry guy but she is cheating. If she can share personal, intimate moments with someone on the net, she would most likely do the same in person. Emotional betrayal is the hardest kind (I feel) because you can't blame it on physical weakness. She is connecting with this guy on a level that should be filled by you. You deserve better.