Even after he doesnot respond my calls or mails still feel dragged to him. Think of him all the time. Feel like hearing him once. Is it madness in me or addiction. I know he is not as serious as me in this. But still..please help me.
2006-08-25 02:56:19 · 5 answers · asked by Saheli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obviously, he is not as crazy about you as you are him. Find something else to take your mind off of the situation. Meet new people and start dating.
2006-08-25 03:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an immense sense of attachment. It isn't really about him. You would have felt the same way if it was some other guy. People love with different intensity. Your's is much stronger and your feelings might be much deeper. But understand one thing. Humans are social beings. Our early attachments were with parents who cared for us and nurtured us and loved us. As kids we turned to them over and over again. As adults we tend to recreate that nurturance from our partners. This happens according to some psychological theory, due to some reasons. I'll tell you one: As a child your parents perhaps was unresponsive to you when you needed them, but were responsive to your needs when "felt like it." Children who go through this almost always feel "irrationaly insecure." This is my case. I am not any different. You dont have an obsession. You just crave for a bond that is constant and feels secure. I dont know whether you can free yourself from it. But I must tell you that "try to understnd the sources of our own feelings. I dont think this problem can be solved, but "ACCEPT" it. Dont run away from it. This will cause more anxiety. Provided that your boyfriend loves you and you have a normal relationship, dont try to change your self. However, keep in mind if it is a onesided relationship and he absolutely doesn't care enough about you, then as much as it will hurt you I must say: terminate the relationship with him. However, if you feel bad to be the one, then let him do the termination. Dont force yourself to do anything. This will only make you feel guilty and you might drive your self to hold on to the next guy out of guilt and a sense of loss. Good luck and take care.
2006-08-25 10:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you know this person? but really you are not madd it's just some time we all need for some one to need us as much as we need them and maybe he has in some way and that is why you feel that way and he is just playing games with you so I say stop calling and messaging and Waite to see what happens.
2006-08-25 10:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by casa de amor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called obsession and it's dangerous. Seek professional help.
2006-08-25 09:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your obsession could make you a stalker or very annoying, get it into check so you don't embarrass yourself or get into trouble!
2006-08-25 10:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋