My husband is not speaking to me because after Windfall went off I laid in the bed waiting and he never made a move so of course i fell asleep! So when i woke up he was on the couch! He's acting like a B**ch to me!
2006-08-25 02:49:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You all are not understanding me! Let me clear this up! When I want sex i go to him; no problem with that! But.. when he wants it he waits for me to initiate it! I can't get off like that. Then he's mad at me because i didn't initiate it. He initiates it any other time! I am not being immature about the situation, hell, hes the one acting like a baby! When you hungry or thirsty you do what you have to to solve the problem! All i am saying is he shouldn't get mad at me for not initiating it when he's the one with the hard on!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 04:17:24 · update #1
Ok. For starters:
1) If you just laid there acting shy and stubborn - and then fell asleep - and he tucked his tail and ran to the couch like a child, you two have bigger problems than sex. (Like communication, trust, and maturity.)
2) If you can't speak up for yourself and tell him what you want/need, and he can't speak up for himself... then you two have bigger problems than sex. (Like communication, trust, and maturity.)
3) You both are teaching each other (or have already taught each other...) that neither of you knows how to communicate like an adult, (which is to state your needs to the other person with calm & humble confidence yet without harm and/or demands.)
4) It's also very clear to me that neither of you feels like you can trust the other with your own truths, wants, needs, feelings, desires... (Why is that? Forgive each and learn to be TRUSTWORTHY with each others feelings so you can both move on together.)
5) I suggest that you both sit down, when there are no other distractions, no hurt feelings, and no other people around, and do your best to create a new understanding of what you both need from each other.
~Marriage is a blessing - but no one ever said it was going to be a cake walk. :)
~Risk is the price.
Success is the prize.
God bless you both.
2006-08-25 03:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this is going to end up disastrous if you two don't work this out.
I had a similar problem. The solutions was communication. Either one of you can initiate sex. Neither one of you should assume that the other will make the first move because guess what, neither of you will if you are thinking that the other is going to. To avoid hurt feelings and misunderstanding the solution is simple. It is okay for the woman OR the man to initiate sex. Both of you will feel a lot better when you just do it!
2006-08-25 03:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree w/ all of these answers. In my home if I want sex, then I have to start it. However, there have been those rare times that my hubby has started it. Most of the times hes not in the mood no matter what I do or what I wear to bed. My suggestion is, if u r in the mood then let him know by lighting a candle just before he comes up to bed, put on a sexy revealing nitey,crawl into bed and make ur move. If that doesnt work then ask him what he wants from u. I would be suspicious if he didnt want to have sex after all that.
2006-08-25 03:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by fierylegs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should initiate. That is part of the fun. Sounds like he missed out. Next time, take off all your clothes and lay there and see if he will initiate. I know my husband loves it when I initiate but sometimes I just want him to so that is what I do. It works every time.
2006-08-25 06:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you wait for him all the time..you may start to feel like a single woman...either of you can initiate it but I'll tell ya..men get more turned on when the woman is the aggressor! GET HIM OFF THE COUCH OR JUST TAKE YOUR BUSINESS TO THE COUCH (if you are home alone with him of course). ENJOY!!
2006-08-25 03:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either party can initiate sex. I'm sure most men would love it if their wives initiated sex every once and awhile. They shouldn't always be the one that has to make the first move.
2006-08-25 02:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are HOW old? If you want sex, then cuddle... snuggle if you don't want to officially start it. If this is not good enough, then be a woman and say, "I am horny, I am in the mood, I'd like sex now." and yes, that bluntly. If he is appalled at your language.. then ask him how should you have phrased it to actually have gotten a response from him (either way). Make him tell you how he wants it phrased.. then you are on your way to communicating about how to start sex.... good luck.
2006-08-25 02:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No them both of you are acting like ******* kids grow up sex is sex if you want it get it. You too are married so that should not be an issue.
Besides it isn't like y'all just meet
2006-08-25 03:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to one person to make the first move. It's up to the person thats in the mood. You want some loving??? Then let him know!
2006-08-25 02:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want sex then you need to initiate it. And vice versa. It sounds like you both need to grow up.
2006-08-25 02:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by vvvlambert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋