my exboyfriend used to hurt me a lot. he verbally abused me and told me really degrading things. it really lowered my self esteem and i lost a lot of weight. and to think that i was pregnant. all these continued until after i gave birth. when i left him six months after my son was born, he never gave any support to our son. he would come by once in a blue moon. and whenever he comes to our house, i have panic attacks. i tremble and i feel really cold all over. can i file for a restraining order against him? we were never married and i never asked for his support in raising my son who is now 2 years and 6 months old. please i really need your advice. thank you.
2006-08-25 02:39:33 · 12 answers · asked by life's_irony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-25 03:11:51 · update #1
cant psychological reasons be used as a ground for securing a restraining order?
2006-08-25 03:14:14 · update #2
the reason why i didnt file for child support was because i didnt want to have anything to do with him. if i file for child support then he can use it against me. he has a habit of always "reminding" me (well, this was when we were in the relationship), of all the stuff that he has paid for when i gave birth, and etc. etc. i dont want him to have another reason to do that. am i being bad because this is my reason?
2006-08-25 03:17:47 · update #3
ask for a child support. That bastard needs to take his responsibility.
2006-08-25 02:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is an ex, and father of your child, and he is harrasing you. Get proof, and you can get a restraining order. Best thing to do is call the police over when he arrives, and ask them to remove him from your home. Tell them he is not welcome there because he is abusive. Ask them what you have to do to get a restraining order. Once the restraining order is in place file for sole custody of your child, and then file for child support. This is the best and most efficient way to make sure he stays away from you and your son, and to make sure he pays for being a father. Remember the law is on your side because you are the mother!
Good luck in your situation.
2006-08-25 09:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state, if you where not married, he has no rights. However, Your son DESERVES the support from his father. Establish child support, and get a court order for only supervised visits due to abusive situations.
Been there and done it, GL and you can email if needed for emotional support or info
2006-08-25 09:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have and have always had sole custody then you have a pretty good shot. You may get a restraining order for yourself but be assured the court will give him access to your son in a different way. It is the father's right (as the court sees it). So a restraining order may put your son in harms way as you won't be present....
2006-08-25 09:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to file for child support.Having a "panic attack" is not a reason to have a restraining order if you are not being physically hurt or being stalked,. You said it your self that he only comes "once in a blue moon"...
get it together lady.
2006-08-25 10:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, why put up with the abuse and YES get the financial support your child needs. If he thought he was man enough to make a baby that bonehead should be man enough to support his baby. Also get all that he owes your child too.
Stuff like this that guys do really piss me off...
2006-08-25 09:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Commander 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems this ***hole has no desire to be a father. get the restraining order. call your local d.a.'s office. this jerkwad probably has another victim already. either way, your utmost concern is for your and your child's safety. take whatever steps is necessary, within the law. call an attorney or your local county legal aid office to find out your options.
2006-08-25 10:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you.You are in a triangle....If he wants to see your son.....Make him wait outside...as far as so many people telling you to go for child support.
That is what is wrong with this world yoday.
To many people do not want anyhting to do with the person they left..But they do not want to leave there wallets....Money is not the answer to all problems......If you want him out of your life.....
File for sole custody.get a restarining order.(for both you and your son)...and leave him in the dust.
Do not go after his money or support....That will just keep him in your life..
If you do not want him in your life..THEN BY ALL MEANS DO NOT KEEP HIS MONEY...
2006-08-25 10:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by tanear1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes get a restraining order and a gun .as for him providing for YOUR child that is not just your child and he should be held to pay his shear of the bills for the baby .
2006-08-25 09:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for child support and if he had hit you or threatend you, then you can get a restaining order on him.
2006-08-25 09:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋