A couple days ago my uncle tried to rape me.i called the cops and pressed charges.he went to jail.Now im gettoing threatning phone calls from my aunt (his wife) that if i dont remove the charges my whole world is gonna come down on me and that she is gonna call cps on me.I dont know for what but its scaring me.I guess cause i have always heard bad things.I went to the judge and she granted me a restraining order on her cause of the threats.I dont want to drop the charges cause i know what happened even though my aunt is so trying to tell me he didnt do it.i mean i was there she wasnt.i also dont want to drop the charges because i dont want anybody to think im lying.and also he deserves whatever he gets. But the thing is i dont know what to do ...im scared! Help please.i need some really good advice
2006-08-25 02:17:58 · 15 answers · asked by daisygurl326 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Government
Thank you so much for everybody's help.Im 27 my parents are right there with me.They just dont know what to do in case my aunt calls cps.They are scared as well because they know how mean she can be.She is also an illegal alien can she even call cps? She is married to my uncle that tried to rape me that is my moms brother.
2006-08-25 02:30:23 · update #1
I'm a social worker and deal with these sorts of issues regularly...
First off, if your aunt calls CPS and discloses who she is....the valdity of her claims will be worthless....if she doesn't disclose her identity and they investigate....they won't find anything and won't do anything....
Secondly, for your aunt and uncle, stay with teh charges on your uncle....he deserves prison time for this....and your aunt deserves it to....make sure and report any and all harrassment from your aunt to the police and ask if there are any charges you can press against her since I'm guessing calling you violates the order of protection
Last, get some counseling....you'll never get past all of this without some help....the sooner the better....just keep your head up and remember that you didn't do anything wrong....
2006-08-25 02:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from that part of the family. Have your number changed, if you have to try to move. Go stay with a friend. You and him are the only ones who know the truth and you both will have to live with it. You need to go and talk to a women's counsler . I am sure they hear about this all the time and they can give you what you are looking for. Sorry I can not be of help. Please go talk to a to someone who knows what you are going through. I am sorry this had to happen. Just remember everything happens for a reason and this will hopefully make you a better person Again I am sorry
2006-08-25 09:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground, you did the right thing. Dont let her scare you into anything. You have a restraining order on her use it. If she contacts you in any manner , report it. For a while, you might want to carry a recorder with you just in case.
2006-08-25 09:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep in mind the cops are on your side , there is no reason she can call the cops , and if she does just give her address to them and tell them to ask for her I.D. . This bastard deserves what's coming to him , your aunt is in denial and probably will never believe she maried a sick pervert because she doesn't want to . there is no reason for you to be scared , you have your parents and the cops on your side , you have filed a restraining order on your aunt so if she does call the cops you can tell them that and they will realize who is in the wrong here . good luck
2006-08-25 10:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to what you are doing. You are doing the right thing. Don't let her threats scare you. What is she going to do, call the cops on you for reporting a crime?? You have done NOTHING wrong, YOU were the one violated. Let the jerk rot in jail and tell him to take his little wifey with him. She is just as bad as him for sticking up for a rotten criminal. Maybe she enjoys being raped, but you didn't ask for it, so just stick to your guns and keep your head up. Your doing the right thing. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-08-25 09:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold your ground. Don't let anyone bully you. Where are your parents in all of this? If he really tried to rape you, you absolutely did the right thing and you are brave. Don't let anyone tell you different. You need to talk to people in your life that can help you with this, not just internet people.
2006-08-25 09:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Gatorgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and make a recording of the calls you are getting and take them to the police if she is harassing you then she is in breach of her restraining order and will also end up behind bars do not give up you need to get things back on track ..
sorry to hear this happened to you
2006-08-25 09:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by raz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the police what to do, it will help to have a recording of some phone calls. Make a record of when the calls were made.
2006-08-25 09:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start recording the calls but be sure to tell her that you're doing that. If she keep on talking, just hand over the recordings to the police. Those two are sick and I give you props for standing up for yourself.
2006-08-25 09:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Yay for Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
went through something similar. there's a clause called victim's rights or something like that. there's no way that your aunt will be able to report you to CPS or anything like that. your past cannot be brought up either in regards to your uncle's defense. put the slim-bag away
2006-08-25 09:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Hando C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋