This might be silly but when I fall in love or get a crush I run away almost immediately, because I'm terrified of what could happen. Can somebody please help me be more courageous..it's hard when I really love a person and I want to tell that person how much they mean to me but I just choke up. I'm so horrified of rejection and that feeling of heaven being ripped right under your feet.
How do you tell a person how much they really mean to you so they'll stay with you forever? How do you show the love inside without making it so painful and awkward and movie of the week? It's so easier just to make dumb jokes and go through the motions in life rather than express my true feelings.
What's on the other side of the door, specifically, for people that went past this threshold. Is it really worth it, or should I harden my heart to save it from breaking.
2006-08-25 02:02:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
True Love is about giving, giving out whatever you can do to make the person live more happier.
Tell yourself not to too self centre. I mean not to care too much of your own feeling.The more you care of your own feeling, the more you will afraid to get hurt. You can tell yourself not to afraid to get hurt. It is by your choice. Remind yourself to care for other more of yourself. Focus your mind on giving and not to think of recieving any thing back . The more you put aside your own feeling and care more for other, the least you will get hurt.
I understand your feeling because last time i was same as you. It is only when i get the true meaning of love from the Bible. Now i am married.
Do the things that she like and talk words of care in her life. Ask a pit more of her personal life and start get a bit more involvement to help her live more happier. Care more about her feeling and needs. Also not to forget about making jokes that can make her smile. When she is willing to talk and share her personal life with you, it is much more eailier to you to tell her the feeling you have for her.
By the way, as you are trying to get know her, try not to understand her more, but to love her more. Because you may get yourself hurt to understand a woman; woman are difficult to be understand. Remember love is about giving and not how much you know the person.
God bless you.
2006-08-25 03:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Hetto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time I was like you.. Afraid of the heartbreak that might happen when I fall in love.. As a result, I close this heart of mine and any feelings of love is kept locked inside.. Until a wonderful guy came into my life.. Initially I had not want him to be my life cos I feel that he would break my heart.. but he persevere and continue to wait til I eventually opened this heart of mine... And its been a wonderful relationship ever since... Although we are no longer an item due to some personal reasons... I had never regret being with him cos I had learnt a lot and I can assure you that being in love is the most wonderful thing taht could ever happen... Don't hope too much cos it will break you if it didn;t turn out the way you want it to be.... We all live only once... And we all can't predict the future.... So live and learn...
And as for telling the person... I am not sure about the forever part.. Its better to take it slow... Tell her that you love her sincerely from the bottom of your heart.. I am sure a gal will be very touch.... :)
At the end of the day, even if you had been hurt, I can assure you that being in love is wonderful..... It may hurts but well you never know unless you feel it for yourself.... :) All the best!!! :) Hope that helps... :)
2006-08-25 09:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatevanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is afraid of rejection, but "what's on the other side" as you put it is such an incredible feeling that hardly anyone can describe. In life you take chances every day. While love is the biggest chance you can take it's reward is the best anyone can imagine. Also, just because you show your love, doesn't mean it'll last forever or that it'll end like a "movie of the week". The best thing I can tell you is that the next thing you have the urge to run, don't. You might be surprised how great love can be. Good luck!!
2006-08-25 09:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be honest. I know from experience that by doing so you put your heart in a very high risk scenario but as the saying goes... 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all' ~Alfred Lord Tennyson
I have loved and been crushed hard, most recently by someone I cared for deeply. I had thought he felt the same and maybe he did but could never say how he truly felt. I can't tell you how much I would give just to hear how he truly felt and to have him open up and give his whole self to me.
I think most people are good. I think most are capable of love and even now, after being crushed, I still hold out hope for true love.
Take the leap...lay it all out there. There will be great rewards. The person whom you love will love you more for giving yourself to them. Trust me on this one.
Best of luck and I hope you won't harden your heart.
2006-08-25 09:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by renascent_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off *NOBODY* humanly can save there heart from being broken,,,,If it happens, it happens,,,if the person u happen to fall in love with hurts u,does not neccessarily mean u did something wrong. BUT if u keep on running, u will wind up running down a lonely road by urself where u never got to experience love as u were to afraid of a broken heart. Most of us have had a broken heart least once in our lives,,, but eventually it goes away. But as they say,, its better to have loved thennever to have loved before.
Stop running & love,, its a great feeling for the most part
KIMMIE
2006-08-25 09:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by kimmie_o2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋