I initiate sex with my man to prevent masterbation.
This comes from several traumatic childhood experiences when i was younger.
He understands what i have been through and is the only person i have ever been with, that ever really gave a damn.
But i still cant help but stress that it may happen sometime.
I have been in therapy for quite some time but dont go anymore, its an hour and a half away and costs $120 for 11/2 hrs therapy.
Although this therapist is the only one who has ever helped me.
I know this behaviour is totally irrational, and that masterbation is natural, but to me the though of my man touching himself makes me want to die.I have self mutilated so much due to this problem amoung others but havent now for 4 years, i am 34yrs now.
I wish i didnt have to think about this i dont want to, but the fear in me, keeps it in my head.My husband is very supportive of my issues and i am very lucky to have a caring loving man who understands. does anyone else have these probs?
2006-08-25 02:00:06 · 11 answers · asked by jordancassandra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No I don't have this problem!
I'm Happy that you found someone that respects your situation and still loves you for it
2006-08-25 02:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You must have a lot of sex then. That's not so bad considering. I believe the fact you have a fear of "your man touching himself" is a little irrational and is the real issue or a manifestation from the other issues you refer to. My wife derives pleasure from watching me masturbate, which often leads to sex. As an example if get out of the shower and she's there I'll look at her and slowly massage it which turns her on and voila. So deriving a fear from something that is natural and part of our human nature, I find some what odd. He wouldn't feel any less for you by doing this.
2006-08-25 09:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL men are wack-off junkies. You are making a mistake thinking that his wacking-off has something to do with not being attracted to you. Guys just wack-off. Like even Tom Cruse (sp) the guy married to that beautiful Aussi (the red head ...i forgot her name) even wacked-off.
Now if you husband is doing it in bed right next to you while you are sleeping, then HE may have a problem. I mean, if a guy wacks off then he should be alone and do it for a reason like he has a hardon and you are not around for example if you just left for work or if you were on a trip. I could see those good reasons to wack-off. But if you are there and available ..... we he definately should be taking advanatage of having you there and available.
PS thanks for talking to me today. I wish you the best!
2006-08-25 10:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't heard about anything like this from anyone else
you are pretty weird and have some bad hangups
you would be a dealbreaker for me
2006-08-25 09:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
masterbation isnt wrong sometimes you can use it to your advantage especially when ur man isnt in the mood , a woman is so sexy when she is doing this so i wouldnt worry to much about it
2006-08-25 09:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Keep it up the way you are happy to be around us .
2006-08-25 09:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well baby ..
really that is unfair to have like this hard sittuation ..
and really wish that i can help you
UNFAIR.....
its unfair that ....
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while you don`t know....
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while you didn`t feel that ...
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while you didn`t read them ....
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while you didn`t realize that ....
and to wait you all the time,,,
while you didn`t come yet to me....
yes ,,,
unfair that what you do...
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2006-08-25 09:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
why do you have to leave yourself out of the fun. Why don't you just do it together. face each other or put mirrors side by side?
2006-08-25 09:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by paperboyblu 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to go badck to therapy...QUICK!!!
Those feelings are not normal.
2006-08-25 09:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by abizzell4hire 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just be happy
2006-08-25 09:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋