If you love someone completely and utterly, but could get away with sleeping with another person would you do it or would your conscience stop you?
2006-08-25 01:40:27 · 41 answers · asked by mother knowledge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would never do that, because it is a total betrayal of trust and heart confidene of someone else and of your own heart.
You will carry the things you do around with you for the rest of yoru life. what seems fun and exciting, will seem horrid and such an ugly burden later.
Plus if you ever have children and they ask you questions for some reason or another, what kind of relationship advice can you give them that is HONEST and totally from your heart?
Besides, the person you slept with will always know, and who is to say they won't tell someone, who won't tell someone who...might possibly know your "husband" or person you are totally and completely utterly in love with.
Don't compromise your character for a few hours of what seems like fun now. It won't seem like fun later.
2006-08-25 01:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by villemonster 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Idealistically, no. Practically, yes. Men are more apt to cheat, in my opinion, being a man myself. I agree w/what others have said that cheating means there is a question regarding the level of commitment one has in their current relationship. That is if they are cheating w/ a neighbor, co-worker or a Friends significant other. On the other hand picking up a prostitute for "Just" sex, knowing you can get away with it, in my opinion doesn't carry the consequence of guilt that having an affair or cheating one or two times with the fore mentioned individuals would have. People like to front an idealistic attitude but practically we all have temptations and desires that when the right opportunity presents itself we're more apt to satiate those feelings. It's human nature. Great question, by the way.
2006-08-25 02:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that this question is asked means that you need to check yourself already.
Every act starts in the mind. If you feel like cheating on him/her then maybe you ought to be asking yourself if you are mature enough to be in a stable relationship.
If that is not the case...and you are not pretending that it is...them 'playning the fioeld' may the best thing at the moment.
But, even there, remember that you may have regrets when the right partner does come along if you have been too 'free'.
You don't only cheat your partner, you really cheat your better self. And THAT is rather foolish, isn't it?
2006-08-25 02:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Such a thing would actually hurt the person who is cheating more than the other in the long run. It would negate committment to another and keeping your word. Thatr in itslef would spill into other areas of a person's life and a life without integrity does not work.
Xheating is a cheap thrill, where creating more excitement and fun in the relationship builds stonger ties and love.
2006-08-25 01:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DID do just that - many times! However, I eventually got so bored with my husband because I was having a better time elsewhere. In the end I met the man of my dreams, left my husband and re-married. This was seven years ago and I wouldn't change a thing - I'm happier now than I've ever been and wouldn't dream of cheating on this husband.
2006-08-25 01:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by The Findleys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if I could wipe the memory from my head. The reason I say this is that, no I wouldn't and couldn't as I love and respect my wife too much. But if I could get away with it and forget about it I might as it would be interesting as I have not so much as even kissed another girl in 14 years, and I would not feel guilty and ashamed as I would have no memory of it.
2006-08-25 01:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have and I would not suggest it. because then you carry a secret that could crush the ones you love as well you start to change in the way you acted before to now. They don't understand, yet they never question it. They assume you will go back to the way you were or that this is how marriage is. So no do not do it.
2006-08-25 01:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first started reading this my answer was yes I would (and have) but then your additional comments about compeltely and utterly in love, then no i wouldn't. So... like i am in now, an unhappy marriage, yes I do have a lover? yes, and no my conscience doesn't stop me.
2006-08-25 02:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't. I look at other guys, I flirt with other guys, BUT I would NEVER go to bed with another guy. My husband trust me absolutely (and I him) so cheating would not be a problem - if I wanted to - the only thing is I DON'T WANT TO. I love my husband so why would I want another man.
2006-08-25 04:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it might be quite enticing, it's not a serious relationship if you're cheating. Serious means much more than seeing each other all the time, serious should mean a committment to be true and loyal and fair to each other, otherwise you're not serious about the relationship>
2006-08-25 01:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by David G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋