This is a serious question..... What would u do if ur husband went 4 years with out having sex with u. (he has no medical problem). When i talked to him he just made excuses.
2006-08-25 01:34:39 · 30 answers · asked by Hilllbilly_gal 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a pretty big problem. You get a congratulations for sticking it out this long. I can't imagine. Your self confidence must be pretty low right now... What were the excuses that he made? Because, there's really no excuse except for some sort of medical problem. Seek counselling. If that doesn't work, you might have to end it, or at least have a trial separation. Time apart will clear your head and help you understand what it is like to be on your own
2006-08-25 01:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1: He may actually have a medical problem: impotence & that is not an easy one for a man to talk to a doctor or anyone about. #2: He may have a girlfriend or even a boyfriend (sorry) #3: He may be depressed. #4: And this is the most difficult, he may have lost interest, but usually men bail out of the marriage if they don't want to be with someone. I think you have the right, after 4 years, to pose an ultimatum: Seek medical help &/or counselling or you'll leave (unless you don't want to leave, which only you can decide for yourself). All the best.
2006-08-25 08:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first find out whether or not he has an illness or if he has someone else. If both of these are not the case, then I would let him know that Marriage also requires the act of love making, this is one of the ultimate ways of bonding with one another (coming together as one).
Each person needs to feel loved by the other. If your not feeling it then move on. There has to be an explanation for the withdrawal. Love thy wife is an obligation he has taken when he said "I do". Sit down and have a serious talk with him and if you continue to get excuses then you need to take a stand and asure him that you will no longer put up with the withdawal of the love you deserve (which includes love making). We as woman need to stop waiting around for someone to make us happy. We need to make ourselves happy.
2006-08-25 08:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by 9knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u kidding? ok it is very clear he has no medical problem and the fact that u are still around with him is because u love some other things in him. now what u do is to give an ultimatum that you are walking out because he is being cruel to you of not having sex. i think if he loves you he will agree. then slowly develop the relationship. meanwhile both of you together consult a good doctor/psychiatrist / counsellor. best of luck my sweet girl.
2006-08-25 08:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 4 years? I would go to the local store and buy a boyfriend to satisfy you... and the husband maybe you need to try to approach him... I would think he has to have something wrong with 4 years no sex.
2006-08-25 08:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after about 1 or 2 mons and we not having sex and there is no medical problems then i would but asking questions if not the right answers then i would be gone!
2006-08-25 08:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by lisaslife02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to ask what the problem was, because if there's no sex and no communication, there is no marriage. I went 2 years with my old man, finally he talked to me and were working it out.
2006-08-25 08:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by freyed2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably no longer physically attracted to you. So try to be erotic with him, go out and buy some nice lingerie. Try going to the gym, or work out.......Im not saying this to be mean or anything, but my g/f was getting a little rough around the edges, and I found myself not be as attracted to her, then she started going to the gym...........woooohhhhooooo! For some reason, when she would come home all sweaty, it was a turn on for me, and trust me, the sex was fantastic!
2006-08-25 08:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think he is probably having an affair or he is gay. I never heard of a man going 4 years with no sex.
2006-08-25 08:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasnt had sex with you in that long there has to be something wrong, he either has someone on the side or he has a problem rising up and just dont want to tell you. how have you been able to handle not getting any that long?
2006-08-25 08:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋