we have bin datin a year and we have only had sex 7 times, she used to tell me about her sex life with her ex. She used to have it about twice a week and she did everything sexually for him,she gave him oral and let him give her anal as and wen wanted.She wont do anything like that for me.even wen we do have sex she wont even go on top.She has had a sheltered life but i dnt think thats the problem
2006-08-25 01:25:29 · 18 answers · asked by LITTLEB06 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Sounds like she is just not into you. Confront her about it. If you are not getting what you want, then move on.
2006-08-25 01:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you don't approach as wanting to have sex. Try something tangential like offering her back rub or shoulder massage next time she looks stressed. First time, just do that and go for lots of touch and see if you can progress to a full back massage the second time. After a few weeks you will have her starkers, covered in baby oil and panting for it. Make sure the room is warm and private.
Alternatively, try a simple snog. Again, don't try to progress to sex. Start with a nice kiss and then walk away. Say it is just because you love her (assuming that you do). The next day build it up a bit and so on, but not too fast and leave at least half a day between escalations, preferably a day or so. After a couple of weeks you will be spending hours snogging on the sofa and she will get turned on.
2006-08-25 01:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Robin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most girls who lead a very sheltered life have a hard time learning to enjoy sex. It will take time. Perhaps she told you all that crap about her ex because thats the way she would really like to be some day.
She could be scared of getting pregnant or an STD.
You do need to confront her, talking things over is always the best solution for sexual problems.
2006-08-25 01:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she had sex 3times a week including anal with her ex but u guys have only done it 7times in a year, something is really off.
Is she lying about her previous sex life? are u a really really really bad lover?
Do you have bad breath? or r u doing somethign else in bed that really turns her off?
Be honest, pick ur moment and confront her. In a nice way of course. Try a picnic in the country so she cant get away and has to answer, ask her what ur asking us
Ask her to be honest, even if u guys dont work out, u wanna know if u r doing somethign thats a complete turn off in the bedroom.
Let us know cos im dead curious to know the outcome
2006-08-25 02:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven times in a year? You are a saint for putting up with that. If she receives some counseling it would benefit your relationship. Do you think she may feel guilt because you're not married? In any case, this is a very big problem that will only get worse. You would benefit from a trip to Planned Parenthood TOGETHER or go to a counselor in your area. Something is wrong.
2006-08-27 16:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 23:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was not comfortable with her open sexual relatinship with her ex.
That's just me speculating though, do you speak to her about it? Maybe you need some couples therapy? It sounds like you want her to do all the things she did with her ex because she did them with her ex. It may very well have been a bad relationship
2006-08-25 01:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, she just doesn't fancy you, and perhaps she still into her ex! Open your eyes man and go find someone else, I'd die on just 7 intercourses a year ha ha! That's why she doesn't fancy you - she doesn't respect you, she wants a though guy, who'll shove it where ever and whenever he wants!Or just give it to her once and then go, maybe she'll beg to stay! ;-)
2006-08-25 03:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you romancing her enough? i doubt she's got a low sex drive if she's told you all that about her and her ex, maybe she's a compulsive liar or your doing something wrong? seven times?? thats rough.
2006-08-25 01:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by CazW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is just not that hot on sex and said all those things to rope you in. Now she has got you, she has come back to reality.
2006-08-25 01:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by doodlepol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋