what should i do about my friend who has 2 faces??

Question

what i mean with the 2 faces is that my friend actes friendly infront of me & then she talks behand my back..........how can i deal with it?help!!!

Answer 1

i would be careful with this girl stop telling her your business but I would not just ignore her just yet you don't need her to spread lies about you if she gets mad cause you dump her or what ever!

Answer 2

Are you friends with her because you are not so popular maybe? If you don't have a lot of friends because insecurity or being shy, it's hard to just walk away from the only person you may have to sit with in lunch.
You need to try looking for someone who will be a true friend to you because this two faced person, you call a friend, will eventually ditch you and not even care if it hurts your feelings. I've been there. Those kind are USERS. They take what they want out of you and then leave. You can't change the person. You can't tell them how you feel openly because it just gives them ammo to talk about you more.
Try to get away from her without fighting or saying anything. Just drift away from her and talk to other people.

Answer 3

These type of friends are worse than enemies.Even if you confront them they will plead innocent.Infact theses type of people care harmless,but you should watch out if they have any hidden agenda.Keep them with you but dont talk of any sensitive topic or subject in front of them.There is every possibility that they will twist the issue and let you face the music.Be cool .When they are by your side be on your guard.No loose talk.Listen when they talk.Even if they want comment just let it pass.You will be facing more friends like this,so no use running away from such type.keep your distance as you now know the true character.They will realise the mistake once you start treating them with hi and bye and no intimate talk.Its best to keep them by your side and remain cool without speaking much to them.They will get the hint that they are being ignored and either change for better or will try to switch to another group.So be practical and ignore such friends.No use of making enemies with them as they will further tarnish your name.Its always best to keep your enemies by your side.

Answer 4

heya, i completely understand how u feel. it definitely would hurt if a friend of urs has two faces. i mean the fact that u labelled this person as " friend" shows that this person means alot to u, n that u really thrusted the person. there are two things u have to do. first, ask urself, how did u find out this person was talking badly abt u? did u see it urself or did u hear it from another person. if its another person, i must ask u to throw caution to the wind n check to ensure this is really true. there are two ways to go abt this, wld the the person who told u ur friend was talking ill of u behind ur back have an alterior motive? jealously perhaps, for no matter hw close this person might be to u, u'd never really noe. but the best way to solve this problem would definitely be to confront ur fren, ask her straight in the face ( do not yell or talk angrily but use the tone u normally use to speak to her) for u must understand that maybe she is angry with u abt something, something u did might have made her unhappy, i noe u hav ur doubts n wldnt hav meant to, but who noes. confront ur fren n promise each other u wld be more aware u true to one another's feelings. i wish u all the luck. if u have any problems pls do not hesitate to contact me at [e-mail]
Good Luck!!

Answer 5

She's not your friend if she does you this way....tell her you know what's she's been saying about you behind your back and if she continues to treat you this way then she should just write you off. Friends are supposed to nurture and support one another not backstab...you're worth much more than that. Find some new friends who are worthy of all the good qualities you have

Answer 6

This is easy. Drop that so called "friend" because anyone who acts one way with you and another infront of others is not a true friend.

Answer 7

A good rule of thumb about human nature is, "If someone talks bad about others when he is with you, he also talks bad about you when he's with others." Think about how often your friend talked bad about other people when she was talking with you. Did it bother you when your friend talked bad about OTHER people? Or, did it not bother you until she talked bad about YOU". Perhaps, you should look in a mirror and count how many faces YOU have. We are often judged by the company we keep.

Answer 8

I don't know but when you figure it out let me know. I am dealing with the same crap myself. The girl I am talking about was a "keep your friends close but your enemies closer" kinda friendship. But it has gotten to be too much for me to deal with and it's not working anymore to remain close to her.

Answer 9

Shes not your friend then. A real friend will not talk behind your back, and will defend you to people who do. You don't need "friends" like that. Find some new friends and let her go.

Answer 10

congratulations! you are a real follower of Christ! but if i'm at your shoes... dare considering that woman as my friend afterall that she's doing to me!!! but if you want to counter act in a christian way, DO WHAT SHE'S DOING! be a back-fighter too- BUT IN A NICE WAY! tell other people some of her NICE traits that you know! can you do that? hey girl, i know you can! you already did the first step... having her as your friend inspite her bad attitude towards you!! who knows, your friend still has a conscience... there's no harm in trying! your other alternative if you don't want to be a martir friend to her anymore... she has "2 faces" as you said... well, simple! JUST FACE HER OFF YOUR LIFE! =')

Answer 11

Seems to me you might want to examine the standards you have for calling folks your friend. Friends, to me, sure as h--- don't do what she does. I'm sure there is a reason in her psyche for doing what she doe but that's not a valid reason for betraying trust.