How does grief manifest itself in someone who hasnt dealt with it?

Answer 1

from a professional point of view, someone who is in denial, is likely to wither be acting very manic, trying to keep their attention off the recent loss, and this can become quite real to the sufferer, or they are extremely numb and have chosen to numb out and zone away from the loss.

On a personal level, they will be trying to get to it, as often as their life permits, anything goes wrong, any little mishap, something very minor can set off extreme reactions and the person may have no idea that they are over-reacting, its like they're trying to heal but their conscious mind won't let them, they don't want to accept the grief, but they will, if people listen well to them and provide space for the bereavment process, people need to get angry and sad and hopeless and all the rest, but often we feel we can't share that with people, often we don't know how to deal with the loss, it could be that it reminds us of a bigger loss, much earlier, but its differs, so good luck on your quest.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I lost my boyfriend and did not deal with the grief correctly, it can really do a number on you.
First you can end up with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder if it was a violent death. If the person was killed with a vehcile you can be very worried anything someone you love is in a vehicle to the point of worrying that makes you literally sick.
You can become very depressed and anti-socila to a point. (That did not happen to me but I have seen it in others).

It is really very important to get bereavement counseling after a tragic loss.

My heart goes out to you.

Answer 4

Only time will heal... There are so few words to provide comfort particularly during the holidays. Allow yourself the time to grief. A Mourning period was once insisted upon all family members and permission was truly given for grieving. Today we still need the time and allowance to gradually heal the great loss One suffers... Sometimes a similar situation or a song heard may bring up a rush of emotion .. It will & does happen to us all - Its OK to grieve & miss those that One loves.

Answer 5

Every person grieves differently. Generally speaking, it can manifest itself by depression, suicide, destructive behavior, a person can become an introvert or a variety of other ways.

Again, it depends on the person and their ability to handle grief.

Answer 6

I can tell you from experience it's not good not to deal with it. I went through several major life changes in just 2 years time and didn't deal with any of them the way I should have. Eventually it all caught up with me and I started having panic/anxiety attacks so bad I couldn't work, and I hadn't missed a day of work in over 10 years. It got to the point where I couldn't even go anywhere alone. I'd get in the car & start to back out of the driveway & I just couldn't breathe. You have to deal with it because it will hit you all of a sudden if you don't.

Answer 7

I lost my mum suddenly, she had a stroke and didn't regain consciousness. 6 weeks later my dad died. He had cancer and just stopped fighting, I thought I was coping but my family saw a different person, I was snappy, could not sit still, I had to be doing something, I picked up on the smallest thing and blew it all out of proportion. I couldn't cry, when tears threatened, I fought them back. 3 weeks after my dads funeral, my brother came round with his now x partner, a few other members of my own family were there , he poured a few drinks and then goaded me towards an argument, When the tears started I thought they were never going to stop. I later learnt that he had done this with the sole purpose of breaking down the wall that I had built up around my emotions . I remember him holding me and telling me every thing was going to be ok, and although it took us all a long time accept our parents deaths things have got easier as time has passed.

Answer 8

They may be in denial of what has happened and that can manifest itself in numerous ways. They might be short tempered and snappy or they may throw themselves into something else which can be all consuming for them because anything that works as a distraction for them is better.

Answer 9

It starts with sadness and grief, then turns to anger and finally acceptance. Now the timeline is different for all, but those are the tell tale steps.

Answer 10

The best advice i ever had for dealing with grief was,Just remember, the longest day has only got 24 hours in it.