If I feel (not sure what is in her heart) that my wife is a flirt, from her interactions with men when I see, what should I do, how can I handle the situation. I feel jelous. We are married for 7 years. I been feeling it from 6 months after our marriage. Pls help.
2006-08-25 00:17:54 · 17 answers · asked by kallan k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your wife that you're not comfortable with her flirting and if she values your feelings, she should also respect your feelings and tone it down.
She may downplay it by saying that it's harmless and nothing is happening or she's not hurting anyone... but tell her that her flirting is affecting you in a negative way.
If you're out and she starts flirting, give her an indication that you're no longer comfortable and you're ready to leave.
But if she's been doing this for 6 1/2 years of your marriage; she's pretty much accustomed with flirting and she's not going to change overnight.
Good luck...
2006-08-25 01:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife your feelings. You wife is a flirt okay don't see problem there. Interactions with men you don't like if it is flirting and your there and that is how she is I still don't see problem.
BUT!
You have a problem with it. You need to tell your wife how you feel when she does this. 6 1/2 years feeling jealous of this and she doesn't know. Come on.
Again talk to her. You might tell her you want the flirting and interactions and even more.
Start talking
2006-08-25 07:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do YOU flirt and look at women? it might be a tit for tat thing. If not, then you could be the reverse of the common wife's complaint of husband eyes that wander, the the guy saying "but I'm JUST looking". No matter which it is, talk to your wife about it. The former might be: It's bothering me, lets set ground rules. The latter might be: Do you know you do this? It really bother's me. Let's talk.
Yes, sounds simple, but I'm not you. I have my own issues of 19 years, so yes, I know it's easier said then done. Best of luck.
2006-08-25 07:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that couple's threapy would be good if both of you agree and want to work this thing out. I have never been a jealous person in my life, but I know what you are talking about.
It is not that you have to win her heart, but then you feel that you have to win her heart also from other men. Talk to her nicely about that. Communication is important. She might not know she is flirting and hurting your feelings.
2006-08-25 07:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should speak to her and tell her that you do not like her flirting with other men.
But then, there is nothing wrong in flirting. If you trust your wife and she is able to keep her distance and never cheat on you, then its fun to flirt. Also, flirting with other man can be used in your favour... am sure that a bit of jealousy without hurting your wife will spice up your sex life.
2006-08-25 07:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just talk to her about it openly and honestly? She may not realize how it effects you. Me and my husband are both a bit flirty but it doesn't bother me when he flirts but I have noticed it bothers him so I have tried to slow it down. I don't really "flirt" I am jsut friendly and like to talk to people, men, women, young and old but I see it makes him a little uncomfortable so I try and go about it differently. The most important is to say something before it spins out of control in your own mind.
2006-08-25 07:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure then you must find out. A question for you is how much do you trust your wife to tell you the truth? If 100%, then let her know how you feel, if not try to find out in your own ways without drawing suspesion from her.
2006-08-25 07:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a little flirting as long as she doesn't over step her boundries or being disrespectful to you. If it bothers you that much tell her and she should be willing to stop, if not give her a little taste of her own medicine and see how she likes that.
2006-08-25 07:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is a natural thing people do whether they realize it or not. As long as she's keeping it at that and not crossing the line, there's no harm. But if it bothers you that much, talk to her (calmly, not accusingly) and explain to her what's going on with you. She may not even realize she flirts that much or to that extent (sometimes I don't). Just don't go off on her or she may flirts more just to spite you.
2006-08-25 07:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jelousy is a bad trait, loose it - look at your wife and be proud of her for having confidence in herself. Think about who she goes home with, there is no reason to be jelous if she cuddles up to you inyour bed everynight.
Relax.
2006-08-25 08:46:46 · answer #10 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋