Is this considered abuse?

Question

I know that abuse is often in some kind of physical form and I think I know the answer to this question but would really like the input of others out there.My husband constantly curses me in front of the children,he slams things,throws things.He acts worse than a 2 yr old.You cant talk to him because if you say anything he dont like,watch out all hell breaks loose.In your opinion is this a form of abuse

Answer 1

no it's not abuse he's just an asshole

Answer 2

If it makes you feel bad (which it obviously does and I don't blame you) then yes. There is lots of different ways someone can be abused! Emotional abuse can be just as dangerous as physical. Be careful usually the next step is physical. I not trying to say that your husband would hit you because I don't know him, but from personal experience with a couple of friends and relatives of mine I can tell you that I have seen this before. It usually does start out with a bad temper and then eventually physical abuse on there spouse or children. Just something to watch out for. Also you should not have to be scared or hold your tongue to him if you believe in another way or deliver bad news. He is acting like a two year old by throwing a tantrum when things don't go his way! I am sorry that you married a 2 yr. old maybe I could suggest counseling and If he wouldn't go , maybe just you. That way you can learn how to control his behavior or learn to manage it in a safe way so you or your kids never end up getting hurt!! Well I hope all is well and I hope that he can grow up and act like the man he is supposed to! Take care and God Bless you and your family always!!!!

Answer 3

Yes, your husband's behavior is indeed abusive. He is an adult who should behave in a manner suitable for his age. He is a father and should be setting a good example by being mature. His cursing towards you is verbal abuse that is seriously degrading to you and detrimental to the development of your children's personality.

The only thing I would recommend is forcing him in any way possible to go to marriage counseling or make him know that his behaviour is absolutely unacceptable.

I do not condone divorce in any way, shape, or form. You married him vowing that nothing but death would part the two of you. This problem must be settled if you are to have an enduring marriage. Don't divorce if the trouble gets too great. Overcoming that trouble will serve to make your relationship stronger.

I dearly hope that your husband's abusiveness is corrected and I wish your family the best.

Answer 4

YES it is abuse!! I have a 44 year old 'child'. I sometimes wonder if I have 3 children instead of 2. My husband acts like a spoilt child the majority of the time, never discusses any serious issues and gets verbally nasty if I try. He acts childishly infront of our children who think he's pathetic and keep their distance from him. This is mental abuse and I am at the end of my line - I no longer love my husband (haven't for some time) and want to leave but I am a coward. I never know what mood he will get home in and dread him coming home from work. His mood can flip in an instance and he has a habit of pointing out the obvious - when I do everything anyway. I sympathise with you.

Answer 5

Certainly is. It is being inflicted in the form of emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Physical abuse does not have to be an act against you personally. Throwing things etc is also a form of physical abuse as it is saying this will be you next. Eventually it will be as he has got away with this behavior for so long. Abuse is about power. Relationships are about equality, sure at times the pendulum might swing wither way but in a domestically violent relationship it is always one way. Abuse is also being inflicted upon your kids. in Australia here we have Child Protection Acts that recognize abuse in this form as a child protection matter meaning your kids are emotionally and physically at risk. Basically over here the welfare would get involved. Your kids are also at risk of growing up and modelling his behavior because that is what role model they have witnessed. so the cycle continues, your boys become abusers and your girls victims as unintentionally you have shown that this is a woman's lot in life. There are services to help you leave or develop strategies to assist in this situation, access them , stop being a victim and become a survivor, you have done nothing wrong it is your husband that has the issues.

Answer 6

Whether physical or verbal, yes, it is a form of abuse (and if not physical now, will usually lead to physical abuse). He needs to get it under control by any means possible or eventually he's going to do something that he will not be able to fix or replace.

There are issues that he has not addressed in his life most likely from when he was growing up and he is still acting out that same behavior. Whether there's a chemical imbalance or not will have to be determined by a professional.

If he admits to his out of control fits of anger, that's a good start and, when he is calm, you may be able to help him get help. Admitting that there's a problem has to take place before any help will be welcomed by him.

As you may already know, kids easily pick up traits and bad habits from their parents, so... It's up to you to make sure your kids have a safe place to go, and it looks like your husband is doing quite the opposite, so you might have to perform tough love towards him and let him know that is tantrums are NOT ok and he shouldn't be able to get away with them.

I hope things go well for you and your family.

Answer 7

Yes, it is abuse. In any form, abuse effects the woman profoundly, and the children who witness it. Take it from one who has been there and done that, one day he will fly off the handle and really physically hurt you. The pain and emothional scars from abuse are lfe long problems that you will have to deal with the rest of your life. You may push them to the back of your mind, but there are days it will hit you full force, those are the days that are hard to deal with. And as for him doing this in front of the children, just think how they must feel, seeing their mom belittled all the time. How will they treat their significant other when they grow up? Think about it.

Answer 8

He sounds like a bad tempered bully. Yes that is definitely mental and verbal abuse which sometimes can be worse than physical abuse. Your poor kids are going to have a warped sense of how a man should treat a woman. Talk to him or go for counseling, it's just not acceptable!

Answer 9

I hate to say this, but if your asking this, and then providing all these details, then you obviously know it's some form of abuse. I don't know what else to call it. A LITTLE temper? lol You should probably talk to someone professional about how to handle him. They will give you professional information that will prevent you or your kids from getting into harms way. You may have to consider some things you do not want to do. Our opinons on how to help our limited, but speaking to a professional will definately help you out the right way. Good luck! (counselor, psychologist) It's not just for "kooks", it's for mental understanding and healing.

Answer 10

Yes it's abuse, it's verbal abuse. I had the same problem with my husband. It's calming down a bit now, but I also told him that if he taught any of my boys to act that way it was cause for divorce, he loves us enough to try and change, You don't deserve it nor do they. Next thing you know your children will be throwing tantrums like that...

Answer 11

It is VERBAL abuse, and is not good for u or ur children. Ask him to seek anger management cousiling. If he refuses, then honey u need to stand up to him, video tape it and show him how he reacts, or when he starts one of his little fits take the children into the other room and if he follows take them outside. If he does this outside more than likely a neighbor will hear and either come out or call the police. It is gonna take a miracle for him to stop!