Help for a 15 year old Mom?

Question

My 15 yr old was taken advantage of & now she has a baby boy, I love her & my grandson very much. We don't qualify for aid & diapers & baby clothes, not to mention school clothes are getting very expensive. I cant work due to serious migraines & leg nerve damage.
Our tribe can't help because we now live in CA. My fiance works but his take home pay barely covers rent, food & utilities.
Is there some program out there that can help us at least for few months....I want to start a home business so that I can provide for both my children & grandchildren, but that is going to take a while.
NOT ASKING FOR A HANDOUT, just some help then when I am able to then I can help some one in need as well. I have done that in the pass, now we need help.
Thank you all so very much for any info at all.

she was raped, & the boy is in prison or rehab, his mom said that she was going to pay for anything then she wanted to be in the baby's life. NO WAY!!! she is on WIC and she nurses him too, so that is some help. But child support from a 16 yr old boy will probably never happen

Answer 1

Put your daughter on birth control. Then get the boy that knocked her up and make him pay. Sounds like you are the problem and not her. Get his parents to pay as well.

Answer 2

No. A whore turns tricks for funds. Are you doing that? No? then you are literally not a whore. you would possibly want to have made some undesirable judgements. yet undesirable judgements do no longer continuously make you a nasty individual. enable different human beings choose you all they need, they don't outline this form of individual you're, or the mum you'd be. the biggest aspect now's that you be a sturdy mom on your youngster. it truly is fairly all that concerns. And with any success you may learn from what you've been through and bypass it down the line, so your youngster(s) are not mum and dad at this variety of gentle age, because that i'm positive it should be frustrating. I were given pregnant at 19 and that i'm 22 now with a 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old and a a million month old. it really is perplexing adequate on human beings slightly older, i visit't imagine being 15 and doing it! the sturdy element of all it really is that you're doing something along with your existence it quite is a lot more desirable significant than any of your friends, and also you'll earnings an excellent form of information from all this, besides as personality, in case you're taking in the adventure in the right way.

Answer 3

First off all, since you aren't able to work, but are able to help take care of an infant, why can't your daughter get a job? She is legally able to get a job after school. She would only be working about 3 to 4 hours a night 5 days a week. That would certainly help. She should also qualify for food stamps, medicaid and welfare. NOT YOU. All you have to do is write a statement saying something like she prepares all of her meals and she pays a portion of the rent and bills. (Hence the reasoning why she should get a job)
Understandably, the odds of you getting any kind of support from the father is slim. Considering he is in prison or somekind of outreach program? You dont know where he is even though he raped your daughter? And even after he is released from where ever he is at, it's still a low possibility, unless your daughter takes him to court and has it court ordered. Than she and the baby will have to go through paternity testing just to make sure he is the father.
As for your home business...why not take up stamping? It's a super hot hobby right now. There are tons of different sites out there. The main one right now is www.stampinup.com
You might want to look into it.

Answer 4

Try using the government programs like WIC and if they don't help then get the boys parents to help. Also do go to a church and talk with them they are always there to help. If you have bills that you are not paying call them tell them the situation and they can take whatever kind of a payment you can afford, so that way you don't get into credit trouble. Also you don't have to buy brand new clothes the children can do with second hand clothes for now. Good luck to you. If you believe, then things will always work out for the best :)

Answer 5

I don't understand if none of you work, except your fiance, which shouldn't really count, because you are not married, why you can get help from any of the social service agencies. I am not from CA, but I understand that these are federal programs, which mean that anyone is eligible for them. Your daughter needs to be in counseling for her ordeal. I assume she and the child have medical coverage, because most states provide that for low income families and even more so because your daughter is underage. You all need to try and get things together for the baby's sake. Call everyone in the book and don't give up, if someone tells you no...call someone else. I will pray for you and hope that everything works out. Make sure you daughter get the help that she needs to try and recover from the rape, so she can be a good parent to that child. God Bless

Answer 6

I am married and almost in the same situation. I can't work because the child care in my area is totally outragous. $168-210 for my infant and $130-150 for my school aged child (after school for 1 hr)

Me working will barely cover child care so we stay home.

I get food stamps to help pay for food, I get WIC to help with some of the other stuff.

For baby diapers I save all change left and take what is nesacary from my husbands paycheck.

I breastfeed because it is cheaper than formula.

As for school clothes. My son is 7 since he started school, I have NEVER bought him school clothes. My parents have bought them for him every year (he is in 2nd grade)

I live is new york and in rochester they have an unplanned parenthood place where they give out baby clothes and diapers and things like that and they are all on a give and return basis. They also take donations of things that babies need. Clothes, blankets, formula, diapers Ect.

There is help out there you just have to find it.

talk to your local dss program and see where they can help.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear about your situation. But I will tell you that you need to get an order for child support for your grandson. This boy will not always be 16 and he needs to realize that he has had an impact on your daughter that will last a lifetime. Make him responsible for what he has done. He had choices with his behavior and needs to be made follow up. If you let him get by without being made responsible then that isn't fair to your daughter. Parents of children under 18 ARE responsible for the actions of their children. Make his parents pay support. Obviously if they had raised him with better morals he wouldn't have done this to your daughter. MAKE HIM/THEM PAY!!!
I am not sure why you don not qualify for help.
I hope everything works out for you, but remember he will be out some day and if you don't make him take responsibility he may do it to someone elses daughter. Maybe having to pay support will make him think twice about his actions. Good Luck.

Answer 8

If you are Native American(you did say something about the tribe, right), and you seem to have a disability, there are Tribal Vocational Rehabilitation programs all over the country--72, in fact. They can probably help you get back on your feet and get you started on that home business--that's exactly what they do!
If your tribe is not listed, don't worry--give them a call anyway--they may serve all sorts of tribes.

Plus they are government funded so you don't have to deal with the state programs that don't do much for you.

Check out this link http://aidtac.ruralinstitute.umt.edu/ResourceBook05/TribalVR.htm#California

You can also call your state VR and ask them to refer you to a Tribal VR program. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Try the herb feverfew to help with your headaches. That might help you. If your daughter has migraines as well, she should not take feverfew as it is contraindicated in breastfeeding (and pregnancy).

Try cloth diapers or elimination communication (infant potty training) as an alternative to disposable diapers. I'm doing both, and it really saves a bundle of $$$. My husband is starting his own business so I totally understand the lack of funds thing. See http://www.diaperfreebaby.org for more information on elimination communication.

Try garage sales for inexpensive baby clothes. You can usually get whole outfits for a dime. Or try charities, especially through churches.

You may qualify for food bank assistance, and for insurance through your state's social services for your daughter and your grandson. I'm sure since you're disabled you qualify for medicare.

Answer 10

I would call your local WIC agency and also the Salvation Army and Foodbanks in your area... you may qualify for these things and not even know. Also.. why are you not getting any disablity ? If you cannot work, take a written letter form your doctor explaining your disability and go to your local assistance office and see if you can get help. They will try to get you assistance or disability since you can't work. They can also point you in the right areas for help with rent costs, food, clothing help and heating bills. As for your daughter, she should try to get support from the one who fathered her child. She can do so by also going to the assistance office or domestic relations in your area. As for now ... you need to be calling around to area churches and chairites, sometimes they will help with milk & diapers or clothing etc. Join your nearest freecycle (freecycle.org) too and you can get used clothes and such.
Good Luck

Answer 11

There are so many programs out here designed to help your daughter and her child! You need to be online finding out these programs. They will help with food, clothes, diapers, and even living arrangements if she needs it. You need to also get her on some form of Public Assistance to make sure the baby has insurance and so on! And I believe since he is a minor the court will order his parents to pay child support for the child until he is not a minor! Please check into that make his little butt pay and his parents! There are so many different outlets please research them all.

Also you can try a stay at home job to make some extra cash!

Good Luck